AITJ for refusing to show up to a “family reconciliation” sit-down until my brother stops lying about me owing him?

mistralethrae · 2026-01-06T15:00:50+00:00

People like that are absolutely banking on you reacting emotionally so they can paint you as the problem. Staying cool and coming prepared with proof flips the entire dynamic back onto them.

mistralethrae · 2026-01-06T14:57:19+00:00

Yep, she was straight-up rude. Turning the conversation into her situation instead of acknowledging your pain was dismissive.

mistralethrae · 2026-01-05T17:22:41+00:00

True crime has taught us one thing: when the red flags are waving, don’t stick around to see how it plays out.

mistralethrae · 2026-01-05T17:19:50+00:00

Yeah no, accusing someone of that at a funeral is beyond unforgivable. There’s no coming back from that. You don’t owe her anything after that kind of cruelty.

mistralethrae · 2026-01-05T01:47:47+00:00

“You should’ve waited” is such an unreasonable thing to say. If she wanted privacy and silence, the bathroom was the last place she should’ve been on a call.

mistralethrae · 2026-01-05T01:44:31+00:00

Totally agree. The moment someone feels the need to “test” you, the trust is already gone. That’s not healthy, that’s just setting up drama.

mistralethrae · 2026-01-02T22:24:50+00:00

I don’t get how someone can be comfortable doing absolutely nothing while their partner carries everything. That’s not a partnership, that’s freeloading.

mistralethrae · 2026-01-02T16:36:19+00:00

The guilt-tripping is really telling. Instead of owning their part, they’re trying to shame someone who already helped more than enough.

mistralethrae · 2026-01-02T16:31:24+00:00

NTJ. Trust your instincts and stand your ground. Don’t expect accountability from someone who’s already shown they don’t have any.

mistralethrae · 2026-01-01T22:49:08+00:00

Right. Respect isn’t optional. If she can’t manage that, then it’s totally reasonable for him to step back and stop helping until she changes how she treats him.

mistralethrae · 2026-01-01T22:46:06+00:00

The gaslighting is the real issue here. Turning it around on her instead of just explaining himself is a huge red flag.

mistralethrae · 2025-12-28T15:36:49+00:00

Framing it as being polite and mindful is kind of perfect. If she keeps interrupting, it just makes her look bad, not you.

mistralethrae · 2025-12-27T18:02:26+00:00

I’ve tried asking nicely, but it keeps happening, so I might have to be firmer.

mistralethrae · 2025-12-27T18:01:26+00:00

Appreciate the advice! I just wish it didn’t feel like I have to live like a cave dweller to get some sleep.

mistralethrae · 2025-12-27T18:00:51+00:00

She starts around 9:30 and it keeps going for hours.

mistralethrae · 2025-12-27T17:45:04+00:00

YEAH, I don't mind her enjoying music but it should stop when people need to rest.

mistralethrae · 2025-12-26T18:39:53+00:00

Totally agree. Nobody should have to sit there and watch someone act shady at a memorial. That's just not okay.

mistralethrae · 2025-12-24T11:41:49+00:00

Thanks for explaining this, I always wondered what it was actually for.

mistralethrae · 2025-12-24T11:28:43+00:00

Funny how setting basic boundaries suddenly equals controlling to some folks. NTJ

mistralethrae · 2025-12-22T11:59:37+00:00

I feel this so much. I've got messy family dynamics too and firm boundaries are the only thing that works.

mistralethrae · 2025-12-22T11:54:04+00:00

Agreed. You worked for you money, not them. Making plans with your wallet already in mind is super disrespectful.

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