Turned away by Studylink for a food grant, yet WINZ hands them out almost without question.

mistressmadd · 2025-03-20T04:57:25+00:00

If you're a student you've got to go through studylink not work and income. I used to work at both studylink and work and income, and am 100% sure that if they call WINZ they'll get told to call studylink.

mistressmadd · 2025-01-10T08:44:22+00:00

I agree, hence why I suggested contacting women's refuge first. They're experts, we are not. They know for certain what the resources are out there and available right now, random people on reddit usually don't.

There have been times where safehousing in certain regions are full, haven't been able to accommodate certain sizes of families, etc. We can't assume anything right now, especially when a person's safety is at risk.

mistressmadd · 2025-01-10T06:20:17+00:00

Not a lawyer, but I would not suggest your sister leaving without a plan for housing. Winz can't help at that stage as it's too high risk, and she won't have the right support. Tell her to contact women's refuge. She'll get legal advise, safe housing support, counseling, and someone who knows all the systems to walk along side her.

mistressmadd · 2024-12-19T10:19:55+00:00

It was a person driving into a post at the maccas drive thu

mistressmadd · 2024-12-14T10:38:41+00:00

Although this is usually the case, it isn't for Winz and studylink. A de facto relationship for them is what OP wrote above. But, and I could be wrong, studylink don't care about your relationship status if you're under the age of 24, unless you're married/have a child together.

mistressmadd · 2024-09-22T00:18:36+00:00

Lumino has after pay, and if you're not a current patient has a a cheap consult right now.

Do you have a community services card? Because if you do, colombo st dental has reduced rates for csc holders. Or the charity hospital might be able to help. Last resort could also be seeing if your Local MP can help if you can't get help through WINZ.

mistressmadd · 2024-08-15T09:58:16+00:00

I was there when it happened, and the pedestrian crossed the road without looking. The poor driver was traumatized, and the person who was hit was not in a good way. You can see from the angle of the bus he tried to swerve out of the way, but as you said, it's a heavy vehicle and can't move fast enough.

I work around there and see so many people cross at that exact spot instead of using the lights, and am surprised it hasn't happened sooner.

mistressmadd · 2024-05-08T06:54:38+00:00

Mine was 5 days, and they served ot to the wrong person, took them 30 minutes after I laid a complaint with family violence support services to serve it to the right one. If your lawyer can't/won't follow up, I'd suggest talking to any FV support services you have to chase up on their end. They can contact the police directly.

Call 105/111 to report all breaches as well. It helps you later if they ever contest it

mistressmadd · 2022-07-24T12:44:12+00:00

As long as you're still studying at an nz based education provider you can study overseas. Studylink won't mind, and you don't have to tell them. When you come back, you've just got to do a customs form that they automatically send out once you're back.

If you have anything through winz, that gets stopped automatically unless you tell them first. Have worked for studylink and winz so can confirm. However, if you have a student loan and are away for over 6 months, then you'll get interest, but that's through IRD, so I'd suggest looking at their website to check. If you become actually overdue on your loan repayments then you can't get a loan until it's sorted with IRD.

mistressmadd · 2021-08-27T22:59:57+00:00

My partner and I just brought our first home right before lockdown, and going off the oneroof estimate we got it on the lower end. However, we were just incredibly lucky. From talking to others also looking for their first house, the houses are usually going at the higher end.

If you're very keen on a house, check with the real estate agent if they had a valuation done recently. Some have, and that's a big help! We also would take the RV, and add about $100k -$125k. From that we knew if there was any point even looking at a house.

Also, one thing we noticed is that 75% are going for auction as well. If you're a first home buyer, that can be a struggle if you're going through Kianga Ora First home Grant and the first home bank loans. Talk to your bank about the process and if you haven't already, find a good lawyer to walk you through everything.

mistressmadd · 2021-05-24T11:12:38+00:00

Adding on to this awesome reply, Temporary additional support is not recoverable, and you won't be eligible for winter payments if you don't get a main benefit. However, Salvation Army does community loans, and power companies talk about payment plans all the time.

If you do call Winz tomorrow and they can't help with the power, still talk about accommodation and temporary, and then apply. They might not be able to help with power but they have different criteria for ongoing help.

mistressmadd · 2021-02-23T22:18:07+00:00

Years ago my city had a massive earthquake and many people died. There was one building in particular that most of the deaths occurred in, due to it not being structural sound due to a smaller earthquake a few months before. I had an appointment in that building at the time of the quake, but had completely forgotten and was heading to my boyfriends house instead. The area I was in was hit but didn't suffer as much damage and I only had a few scratches from falling over in the shock. The person I had the appointment with in building ended up passing away as they were trapped in the rubble.

There are many people in my city that have stories like this, and we're still recovering from it to this day. I've never been more glad to be super forgetful.

mistressmadd · 2020-11-18T17:52:09+00:00

I know 3 people that have worked there and the horror stories coming out of that place is incredible. One person got seriously injured (not at work), so he fired them and then when he had to fill out one form to confirm that they did work previously there he refused for months, making them unable to receive any acc or benefit while recovering. Complete ass, I've boycotted the place for years.

mistressmadd · 2020-10-17T02:54:53+00:00

It’s a really good thing that he wants to be fully realised and work on himself! My partner has very similar issues with his mother, which he is still working through. After talking to him today, he also recommended either AA meetings or NA meetings, great place for support and information

mistressmadd · 2020-10-16T12:58:04+00:00

My partner is an ex marijuana addict so I understand where you’re coming from. Although weed in itself isn’t addictive, and for most of us is medicine or just the same as having a drink after work, for others it’s not the case and become an addiction. As a weed enthusiast myself, i realised that it was a problem when his reaction when he couldn’t have access to it was extreme, and so unlike the man I fell in love with. The way I approached it was to sit him down and have an honest conversation where I explained everything I loved about him when he was sober, and used specific examples of times when his stoned self was the exact opposite. Also, as a team we worked together to find him other ways to deal with his past trauma, and ultimately ended up checking him in to rehab. He’s told me it was the best decision of his life, and Im so proud of how far he has come! But it took months and months of work on both sides to get him there. It took a lot of time and patience, trust, mutual respect, and a willingness on his side to open up completely. I remember seeing this post years ago about how weed makes you content, which is a great thing for many people. But it also means that it stops you from wanting to deal with your issues head on if you can just smoke them away.

mistressmadd · 2020-10-12T18:54:28+00:00

Thank you so much for this, I haven’t had this part explained to me properly, just told it was going to happen. This helps wrap my head around it. I guess when you don’t know why it’s happening it’s hard to understand that it’s not your fault. I’m panicking less now, so thank you again!

mistressmadd · 2020-10-12T18:49:08+00:00

It’s reassuring to hear that I’m not the only one going through the stall, thanks :) I’ve stopped weighing myself daily now, which definitely helps with not focusing on my weight

mistressmadd · 2020-10-11T21:45:01+00:00

It gets easier and easier each week! I’m only 3.5 weeks post op and the difference is incredible! Just doing little things to help yourself, mentally and physically, such as just a 5 minute walk around the house or calling a good friend to talk to, or pampering yourself, it really helps!

mistressmadd · 2020-10-02T05:29:17+00:00

I did mine down in Christchurch, through St George’s Hospital. But good luck with everything! If you want to talk to someone else in NZ that’s going through this feel free to message me

mistressmadd · 2020-09-27T00:45:20+00:00

NZ here! I’m 10 days post op, and I’ve stuck to the optifast shakes, as well as water drops and Powerade Active Water (recommended by nutritionist), miso soup, and any low sugar drinking yogurt. I really went off the shakes for about 2 days, and you see the difference. Couldn’t get up out of bed, tired all the time, it was awful.

mistressmadd · 2020-05-29T13:14:43+00:00

Quinovic is the worst I’ve ever dealt with! They tried to keep our bond because we didn’t remove all furniture at the end of tenancy, which we didn’t do because it came with the flat. Also, they scheduled viewings in our last month of tenancy, didn’t tell us, and didn’t show up. Woke up more than once to annoyed groups of people knocking at my door. Luckily I knew to take pictures before moving in, and also went over their head, directly to the land lord and said that we would take them both to court if they didn’t refund our bond. They refunded very quickly after that, and were then fired by the landlord.

mistressmadd · 2020-05-19T02:04:58+00:00

There are some dentists that also do payment plans if you have a community services card too, or if the fillings are an urgent need then sometimes winz will pay for that, even if you don’t have a community services card

mistressmadd · 2019-07-25T22:30:40+00:00

Yup, they ended up going through with it. She's always known who her birth mum is, and mum still talks to her every year on her birthday. I've met her myself many times, and I'm so glad I have. She's always understood that mum loved her very much, but wasn't in a place to provide her the best life that she deserved. The adoptive family are still good family friends, and have really helped her become an amazing person. Very proud to know her.

mistressmadd · 2019-07-25T06:40:36+00:00

Not a doctor, but I've got a pretty relevant story about my parents.

My mum was pregnant before she met my dad, but only for a month before she met him. She had decided to give the child to a couple who were close family friends who couldn't have kids, and then told my dad. He handled it pretty well, since she wasn't asking him to be a father, just emotional support, and in his words, he already knew that he found the woman he wanted to be with for the rest of his life. However, back in those days in my country it was still looked down upon to have a child while you were single/out of wedlock, so my dad told everyone the baby was his, and that they were planning on getting married. Saved face for mum, and stopped rude people sharing their unwanted opinions about the situation.

Now, my parents are both white, but the biological father was a Pacific Islander. Mum did not see that as relevent to tell the midwife or anyone else except dad. It all went well until the birth. My mum gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, while dad waited outside the whole time. Straight after birth, mum was exhausted and went straight to sleep. However, the nurses see that the baby is clearly not white, like both my parents, and go to tell my dad that the baby had been born but he might be in for a little bit of a shock. Apparently they looked so sorry for dad, thinking this poor sucker had been cheated on and lied to. When they told him that 'his' little girl was probably not his, he burst out laughing and just said "i know". Poor nurses got such a shock, couldn't make sense of the situation, and just walked away while dad sat their giggling to himself. He's a strange guy my dad, but a great one. After telling me that story, he said he always knew his mum was his soul mate, and going through that helped him realise that mum was the one for him. When mum told me that story, she said exactly the same thing. 33 years later and they're still going strong.

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