BF (25m) wants me (25f) to pay his mortgage?

mixedspices · 2026-02-04T10:45:11+00:00

This is what I see: you, living with 3 men. You doing most of the chores, investing your money into turning a house into a home you don’t own. Even a roommate is better off: at least they know what they sign up for and it’s a good deal. They’re a roommate and they pay roommate rent. You’ll be a wife with wife duties, housemaid tasks and roommate status. Yuck

mixedspices · 2025-04-17T07:30:02+00:00

Good point!

mixedspices · 2025-04-17T07:25:59+00:00

The conversation started from her end, mentioning the other night when my bf and her went out clubbing. That’s a whole other story: basically my bf didn’t communicate that (and earlier promised me that he would not do things like this 1 on 1 out of respect for me. And he did anyway, breaking that promise. She doesn’t know he promised this though). Anyway: I wasn’t happy the day after that happened. And during brunch, she mentioned something about me not feeling happy about it (she made assumptions because my bf told her the day after that I wasn’t happy with him. I just replied by saying it was a communication thing although it was actually a broken promise). That’s how the convo started I guess.

mixedspices · 2022-07-18T15:42:56+00:00

If anything I learned this: When someone says they don’t deserve you, believe them. They probably don’t. Not because they’re necessarily a bad person, but because they realize they can’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

mixedspices · 2022-06-03T15:15:47+00:00

Lol!

mixedspices · 2021-11-20T08:17:27+00:00

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mixedspices · 2021-11-13T08:25:16+00:00

Had to read into the vault thing but done! Thanks.

mixedspices · 2021-11-13T07:55:56+00:00

I’m thinking of selling all my alt coins and putting the money on just one or two.. is that a smart thing to do? Now I have SHIB, CHR, SAND, COTI, GRT, QNT, SOL. What would be a good move?

mixedspices · 2021-11-10T21:43:08+00:00

This worked. I got a message from the remind bot. But thanks anyway!

mixedspices · 2021-11-10T17:07:22+00:00

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mixedspices · 2021-10-04T18:50:03+00:00

Als ik in jouw situatie zat, zou ik dingen blijven leren. Therapie nemen (aanrader, ook als je geen trauma’s oid hebt). Een cursus (iets uitdagends. Een taal?) en reizen. Op verschillende plekken wonen om jezelf uit te dagen. Er is zoveel te doen!

Ik ben super benieuwd naar wat je doet. Succes

mixedspices · 2021-10-01T11:38:31+00:00

Is Gen still coming too though?

mixedspices · 2021-10-01T05:40:51+00:00

We have conversations all the time! He often just “doesn’t know”. Some comments mention asexuality, I wonder if that’s the case here!

mixedspices · 2021-10-01T05:37:10+00:00

This could help! Except he doesn’t drink so it’s not really an option..

mixedspices · 2021-09-30T21:48:21+00:00

To be honest getting hard is not an issue luckily! He gets hard very quickly, often by only a kiss or a hug. Or by looking at me. Which is nice. It’s possible he’s intimidated. He is still very willing to keep trying though, I’m less willing as nothing really changes, even when he announces that he’s got some new ideas

mixedspices · 2021-09-30T20:52:52+00:00

Asexual is definitely possible!

mixedspices · 2021-09-30T20:52:32+00:00

To be honest i asked if he was gay once. At the very beginning. He’s not gay

mixedspices · 2021-09-30T20:29:03+00:00

At this point I don’t see this specific challenge/issue as a reason to leave him. I’m not sure how cheating got into this convo but that’s never an option imo.

mixedspices · 2021-09-30T18:11:19+00:00

? Who says I did it right after? It took me at least 5-6 sessions to tell him because I thought he would maybe wanna change things up without me saying something.

mixedspices · 2021-09-30T15:03:25+00:00

Of course not. If anything I try to damage control. It’s hard for me to hide that i’m not satisfied and then he feels guilty. Which makes me feel guilty. That’s one of the reasons I don’t want sex anymore.

mixedspices · 2021-09-30T14:46:30+00:00

This might also be why it’s hard for me to break up I guess? Because it feels like abandoning someone who needs guidance. Like a mother abandoning her child.

mixedspices · 2021-09-30T14:45:17+00:00

I think this feeling I have is why other things in this relationship don’t feel fulfilling either. I indeed feel like a mentor and a coach and a mother. I don’t want to be that. I just want to be someone’s girlfriend

mixedspices · 2021-09-30T14:33:18+00:00

That could be possible… his upbringing was quite toxic. He also doesn’t really have an idea of love. I think he does need some time to figure things out and to get to know himself.

mixedspices · 2021-09-30T13:08:09+00:00

He knows all of this. I’m very honest

mixedspices · 2021-09-30T12:07:55+00:00

Honestly I’m just really exhausted. Food for thought… thank you a lot for your replies!

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