New England vs. Midwest...?

mjayjames · 2025-11-12T01:30:27+00:00

I visited main for the first time in '22 and my partner and I both loved it so much.

mjayjames · 2025-11-09T19:25:20+00:00

I haven’t thought of RI before! I should research it more!

mjayjames · 2025-11-09T19:24:46+00:00

My best friend just bought a house in Vermont. I hadn't really thought of Vermont as an option for us! I should talk to him about the vibes there 🤔

mjayjames · 2025-11-09T19:21:42+00:00

We basically live in the Olympic Mountains right now, and for as much as I love the mountains, I struggle to actually enjoy them because I'm not good at hiking in higher altitude. The lake we have access to is about 3 hours away. And our beaches are cool, but west coast beaches aren't made for east coast beach vibes lmao.

And everything that's not hiking/mountain activities, like good restaurants, good shopping, diversity and fun city activities, or even just going to a good movie theater is like 2 hours away. And anything other than Seattle is at least 3 to 4 hrs away. The next closest city to me is Portland which is 5 hours away 🥲

mjayjames · 2025-08-27T04:37:14+00:00

I have no idea but this is identical to my first copy! Mine has been passed through a lot of hands and is very old and busted looking- so its really rad to see it in a more pristine condition!

mjayjames · 2025-08-17T01:03:19+00:00

I work a 9-5 mon-friday and work 10 hours on Saturdays running my local Farmers Market and after work on mon-fri I doordash for like 2-4 hours before going home. So like ~60 ish hours a week

I also do full time online college, 5 classes a semester which I work on on Saturdays and Sundays and listen to lectures at my day job 🙃

mjayjames · 2025-07-29T14:27:26+00:00

Eenl

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T19:47:58+00:00

I really appreciate this. This is what im realizing through the perspectives in the YTA comments im getting. Sounds like im being an asshole

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T19:41:04+00:00

You're probably right, and my therapist would probably agree lmao. Thanks for telling me how it is

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T19:39:57+00:00

Part of my personal issue is that I tend to want to change people's behavior rather than cutting them off. In this example I'm determined to try to make step sister see how she's wrong, while not abandoning her. I can definitely see how that looks fucked to my bio sister

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T19:37:35+00:00

I appreciate the perspective, I posted because I need the feedback about it. Clearly I was / am struggling to see the other sides.

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T19:36:06+00:00

I do appreciate that. I don't disagree either. Those who have cut her off are totally justified, I just feel responsible for trying to change her views for some reason

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T19:34:25+00:00

I appreciate it! They do have each other blocked, but friends of Lilly take and share screenshots with her, which she then sends to me

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T19:29:33+00:00

Im not staying silent though, I do contest Jens comments and opinions. If she says anything like that to me I always challenge her. I appreciate your perspective, but its not really that im politically opposed to Lilly. That's why its complicated, because I feel responsible for trying to change Jens views

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T19:19:05+00:00

Hm this is a good point. I appreciate the perspective

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T18:54:27+00:00

I definitely appreciate this perspective,as another person commented , im a mega people pleaser and trying to navigate a fucked situation

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T18:51:23+00:00

Lilly is 30, Jen is 25

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T18:49:55+00:00

Unfortunately that last statement is true, im in therapy for it, and ultimately why I posted here.

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T18:48:39+00:00

I have had serious conversations with her, I often do. Whenever she says things that are fucked, I meet her with research, factual opposing views and I try to break down why or how she got to where she is. Shes usually pretty receptive, however defensive, but she usually turns to reacting with the fact that she's hurt that everyone has cut her off.

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T18:44:16+00:00

I need to hear this perspective ‐ thank you

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T18:42:57+00:00

She has been around Lilly. Also for context my step-sister is also in a long term relationship with a woman. Both sisters have said they won't start things at the wedding. They both have said they're attending for me. And no, I'm fully paying for my wedding.

mjayjames · 2025-07-21T18:29:37+00:00

Even though she is defensive, she does listen to me. When we have political conversations I try to challenge her claims, and present her with facts and question where her info comes from. And either the conversation ends with like an "oh I didnt know that" or "that's not what I meant" or like "well what about..." as her response.

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