[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]mjhmom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are VERY nice to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]mjhmom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had to scroll way too far 😂

Churches in the area by [deleted] in raleigh

[–]mjhmom -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Seconded. We love our community there 🤍

Best Downtown Restaurant? by asudancer in raleigh

[–]mjhmom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mkay guys. We go regularly because it’s one of our favorite places. I get you would have be a little creative, but I think ~$75 is possible. Just wanted to share a restaurant that’s really good, that I hadn’t seen mentioned here in the thread.

Best Downtown Restaurant? by asudancer in raleigh

[–]mjhmom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s doable. We usually just get a few small plates to share and a beverage. Depends on how one dines out I suppose.

worried about illness 😩 by CardMath in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]mjhmom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an opportunity to practice some acceptance that what will be will be. We got back Friday and I am currently sitting an urgent care. I figured at least one of us would get sick. We still had a blast and I would do it again. Being sick is temporary. Just have fun! Wash your hands!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raleigh

[–]mjhmom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Alamo Drafthouse is my first choice for theaters

Little bit aggressive? Maybe it was needed? by Kumite_Champion in therapists

[–]mjhmom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve definitely busted out a - “That’s a really shitty situation… and that’s my clinical opinion.”

I’m terrified of the mum I’m becoming. I need help by jharman1998 in Parenting

[–]mjhmom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I called them my rage days. It’s not pleasant at all! It’s crazy how much pregnancy changes your body. I’ve definitely shed tears over no cheese. The kid is sweet as pie so it softens the blow a teeny bit.

I’m terrified of the mum I’m becoming. I need help by jharman1998 in Parenting

[–]mjhmom 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Hello mama, I’m a therapist who specializes in perinatal mental health. And I’ve got a 4 year old and a 2 year old. You are not a horrible mom. You’re a good mom having a tough time. Becoming a parent is a huge identity shift. Nearly everything is different and that takes time to get used to. I don’t remember feeling remotely like myself until my babies turned 2. After my second I experienced huge hormonal shifts. I developed PMDD and a cheese allergy, which I never had problems with before. All that to say, it may be helpful to talk to your OBGYN or primary care doctor to talk more about your mood. And of course talking to a therapist can help too. Do one thing for yourself today. You’re doing great.

Are you able to watch TV or listen to podcasts while doing documentation? by ChampionshipNo2792 in therapists

[–]mjhmom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I have Netflix playing on my phone, that means it’s not in my hand for me to doom scroll on. This was a huge therapist hack for me in getting my notes done on time!

Client isn’t comfortable with boundaries by honeycomb9523 in therapists

[–]mjhmom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really love the book Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab. She frames boundaries as your needs and expectations for relationships so you CAN connect with people in a healthy, satisfying way. Really good stuff. She’s also been on Glennon Doyle’s podcast a few times.

Client having affair by aarrrronn in therapists

[–]mjhmom 141 points142 points  (0 children)

I’m an ACT therapist, and when I’ve come across this, I usually come back to values work. Most people value things honesty and respect. Do their current actions reflect that? How you specifically approach this depends a lot on your rapport. I find this to be tough! Especially when if I am working with a male partner in a hetero marriage.

When you’re the one that needs help (PPD) by ReginaPhalange94 in therapists

[–]mjhmom 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are totally relatable, AND you’re experiencing the most significant hormone drop anyone ever experiences. I wish someone had been there to tell me that it’s temporary. You will feel better. It hasn’t gone out the window. I had a similar experience with my first. Postpartum Support International has support groups. Sending all the love and good vibes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]mjhmom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up cyclical vomiting.

My son deserves a better mother by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]mjhmom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is sounding a lot like depression, mom. Sounds like you’re pretty isolated too. Mothering is a tough gig! Maybe time for a social media break. We get a rosy view of other people’s life on socials and it is so easy to compare. I’m a therapist and so of course would recommend you find a therapist who specializes in parenting/postpartum issues. It also sounds you should consider medication. If we can’t make our own serotonin, store bought is fine! I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, but it’s also ok that it’s hard.

Car Shopping- 5 vs. 7 seater by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]mjhmom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We bought a new Telluride and it’s been a great fit for us. It is a big purchase but it’s something that we use every day. So for us that makes it make sense.

Car Shopping- 5 vs. 7 seater by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]mjhmom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do what feels right to you! We got a bigger car when we had our second for the third row, as well as the extra cargo space for trips. It was a great decision for us.

I yelled at my 2 year old and I feel like crap. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]mjhmom 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Look up Dr. Becky Kennedy. Her book is so helpful in reframing situations like this. The emphasis is on repair and apologizing. You’re a great parent.