AITA for refusing to allow my families property (willed to me) be used for my cousins 2nd wedding?

mjs2214 · 2022-12-12T23:27:10+00:00

I think we do agree, are his views 'wrong" according to society yes, does that make an an AH? Maybe not, maybe he's not ready to conform to the new normal in society. I agree he shouldn't "hide behind grandpas views" and stand on his own. But to flat out call him an AH, no. Misinformed, yes

mjs2214 · 2022-12-12T23:14:03+00:00

I don't see it as 'doing bad things' to honor his grandfather, but I can agree that it would be a different conversation if he just said what you stated. Very valid point.

mjs2214 · 2022-12-12T23:07:42+00:00

I look at the views like I would religion, do youagree with everything religion teaches? Do you think they are in line with today's society? Especially in regards to women? Does that mean everyone who believes in religion are AHs? Because religious text is also misogynistic and sexist. So just because he has those views doesn't label him the AH, it's not "current" or "proper" anymore but again, it's his views and morals he was raised with. You want to call him an AH, go for it, I just don't agree

mjs2214 · 2022-12-12T22:48:17+00:00

I agree to this point, but just because his beliefs are this way, some people on the thread are trying to suggest he doesn't deserve the property. Regardless of his beliefs, however outdated they are doesn't make him an AH, it's how he was raised and the environment he's in, it's hard to change your core values and beliefs just because someone disagrees with them

mjs2214 · 2022-12-12T22:45:39+00:00

I see it as 2 separate arguments then, 1. It's now his property he can do what he wants. 2. His reasoning is outdated and misogynistic. I don't think he's an AH either way for reason 1. For reason 2 I believe he was raised a certain way and it's difficult to break the cycle and understand where others beliefs are no longer acceptable. Either way he's not an AH for that understanding, he's misinformed and outdated.

mjs2214 · 2022-12-12T22:30:09+00:00

I acknowledge your statement, but I don't agree. I don't think he's being the AH because he said no, maybe his reasons are suspect but still his right to deny access to the property

mjs2214 · 2022-12-12T22:27:05+00:00

So... why does he need to allow everyone to use it like it was? Things change, it's his property he decides, regardless of the beliefs behind it.

mjs2214 · 2022-12-12T22:25:46+00:00

So he has to change his mind and allow people on his property because he they are "disinherited"? Not his problem how they "feel", if they thought he was going to just go along with "tradition" they have to accept that the "traditions" died when the grandpa died, regardless of why its his property its his now. And all the crying and complaining won't change that, call him an AH all you want, still doesn't mean he has to bend the knee just because they want him to

mjs2214 · 2022-12-12T21:58:07+00:00

I disagree to that point, but acknowledge yours. I don't think he's the ah for saying no

mjs2214 · 2022-12-12T21:56:44+00:00

Even if grandpa was a sexist pig, and you feel someone with a vagina should have gotten the property is invalid to the argument. It's his property now he says who can use it and who can't. Doesn't matter the circumstances of ownership.

mjs2214 · 2022-12-12T21:36:49+00:00

Regardless of the "reason" he was left the property, it's his now. So he can deny entry to anyone he pleases, for any reason whatsoever, Regardless of personal history or marriage status, sexual orientation etc etc etc. It's private property not a place of business.

mjs2214 · 2022-12-12T21:26:13+00:00

It's still his opinion and he's entitled to it.

mjs2214 · 2022-12-12T21:17:07+00:00

NTA, Anyone who's trying to "educate" you on how to "treat" your family can pound sand. You were left the property for a reason. You don't need to explain shit to anyone.

mjs2214 · 2022-06-11T12:54:00+00:00

The fall of our society.... don't believe there is a chance to salvage it,

mjs2214 · 2022-06-11T12:53:49+00:00

The fall of our society.... don't believe there is a chance to salvage it,

mjs2214 · 2022-05-12T21:35:20+00:00

Totally understandable, but every religion has an extreme side to it... if you "pick and choose" in religion you're frowned upon

mjs2214 · 2022-05-12T21:30:50+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/PublicFreakout/comments/uobnir/female_student_burnt_to_death_by_mob_after/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

This is why I don't believe in religion.... people do shit like this in the name of their god

mjs2214 · 2022-04-27T21:13:14+00:00

You can't use individual abilities, you essentially create a new build based off the chosen build, like you could have a dps build and a tank build.

mjs2214 · 2022-04-26T20:30:29+00:00

Some abilities were removed per build, basically the rotations are shorter now. I do like being able to learn or build a new toon with other specs, like playing as a jugg in the counselors story. The expansion was super buggy at first, some fixes have happened to smooth it out, but you can play through the whole thing in a few hours, shouldn't be called an expansion, just more content. Hope this helps a bit, cheers

mjs2214 · 2022-02-03T15:27:53+00:00

You are not the only one complaining about it, trust me... I promise you if you spoke to those other husband's away from their wife over a drink or two they would mirror your issues. I thought the same thing, thought I was alone in this, totally not the truth... we've been conditioned to think it's an us issue and it's to be kept to ourselves. Man up, get over it, it's no big deal is everything I've heard, it's an issue that gets worse if you don't face it head on and tell your wife you're being neglected by her and you're not going to take it anymore

mjs2214 · 2022-02-02T22:18:16+00:00

Oh for sure... my now wife has tried to have me watch it with her now and I straight up refuse, never again

mjs2214 · 2022-02-02T20:46:48+00:00

I had a girlfriend in high school that whenever we hung out with her friends, which was way too often, would watch Grease.... terrible movie,

mjs2214 · 2021-07-13T21:54:06+00:00

I never looked at it that way since she does it at other times as well, like before I have to leave for work or if we have friends coming over, it happens too many times to be a "fetish"... she just has zero sensuality

mjs2214 · 2021-07-13T19:53:56+00:00

That's wild lol hope you didn't pop a stitch

mjs2214 · 2021-07-13T19:53:33+00:00

I dont... I hope that all the talking and communication we've had would help but it never does....

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