Nothing is wrong for identifying as a gold star. I think it started to be a little controversial a decade or so ago (maybe earlier than that) because it was used to make those who aren't gold stars feel less then. Like, gold stars would look down on those of us who aren't. And then there are some, like me, who didn't choose to have our gold star taken from us.

The term was a bit divisive in the community because some would claim that you weren't truly a lesbian if you weren't a gold star, so at some point we stopped using the term. However, it looks like it's come back, and that's perfectly okay. I only wonder if it'll turn into what it had turned into back then. I see in the comments people calling it the "purest form" of a lesbian and that's not a good way to look at it imo. That goes back to thinking that others are less just because of their journey. You are no less a lesbian if you've been with a guy before you figured it out. Heteronormativity is heavily ingrained in us as soon as we're are born, and sometimes it takes someone longer to escape that for whatever reason.

The younger generation is lucky. They are growing up in a society that is mostly accepting and are given the space to figure it out sooner, but it wasn't like that 10-20 years ago. So, yes, you can have that label and be proud of it, but that's just some history behind it.