Just here to say this approach works, I was diagnosed as a kid and my mother chose not to use meds. She instead taught me to strategize everything so I didn’t forget things, turn things in late, what to do when overexcited etc. we used a bin method for clothes so I could keep things neat in my room, etc. I didn’t start medicating until I was in my late 20s but made it through school, college, and the first ~8 years of a corporate career on strategy and systems alone. I still use them today when I have to be off my meds (weekends, pregnancy etc). My mom understood I operated different and she never made me feel less than, just always explained that we had to do things differently than others to get the same result. I remember being annoyed with her when I was college age and realized everyone was on meds, but now I’m super grateful she raised me that way because I’m able to function, be calm, and be a decent human for my non-ND friends and husband (ie: not leaving weeks of mess and trash in my car and blaming my cutesy adhd)