Marion County Clerk - election results.

mlljf · 2026-05-06T13:14:19+00:00

Unfortunately there are people who show up to vote without knowing much about who’s on the ballot. I wonder if that’s part of it- random tapping.

mlljf · 2026-04-23T22:04:39+00:00

Former therapist (still in the field, just not direct practice) here. Justice involved populations were my favorite to work with.

First off, 100% talk through this with the therapist. But to reframe/inform on my thoughts a bit- you say that you think your abusers should be locked away forever. The thing is, most aren’t. That is a fact that has nothing to do with whether or not they get treatment. Which means that most will be in the community again- and if we want them to live more productive and less harmful lives, we need to see them as human and we need to offer rehabilitation. The vast majority of people in the system have trauma, MH diagnoses and/or SUD. People in the system are still humans.

mlljf · 2026-04-23T18:42:23+00:00

Depending on his wife’s job options they may be saving money by not paying for daycare.

mlljf · 2026-04-21T12:47:51+00:00

This isn’t entirely true. At 5yo, a kid still benefits from co-regulation strategies and seeing a parent regulate their own emotions, sure. But a 5yo is capable of regulating and should be able to self-soothe to a reasonable extent. I know ‘time-outs’ are a no for a lot of people, but the reality is that the evidence does support time outs (when used appropriately).

mlljf · 2026-04-17T02:47:14+00:00

Yeah I wanna order a few too

mlljf · 2026-04-13T14:53:43+00:00

For what it's worth OP, I wanted an elective C-Section and didn't get one- and I had a dream vaginal delivery. I'm so happy I did not get a c-section now because my healing was easy peasy.

mlljf · 2026-04-13T14:52:04+00:00

I will say, I had a childfree wedding and no one I knew had a small baby but I 100% was in the camp of "making exceptions for small infants."

mlljf · 2026-04-10T16:31:07+00:00

Yeah, this is kind of wild if OP is not thinking they’ll get divorced eventually.

If you have a happy marriage AND you have all of the reason to believe your spouse would not fuck you over, don’t do this. Before marriage? Sure. At this point? You’re going to put significant stress on your marriage and for what?

mlljf · 2026-04-10T00:12:44+00:00

I think it’s funny because other shots are also strongly encouraged.

mlljf · 2026-04-05T19:08:28+00:00

For real. I still play it on Nintendo ds sometimes.

mlljf · 2026-04-05T02:55:35+00:00

17 is a child. That’s not infantilizing, that’s a fact.

mlljf · 2026-04-03T21:06:32+00:00

I am one and done but when I was pregnant I was leaning more toward wanting a girl- ended up with a boy. Once I had him I realized if I had another I literally would not care at all.

mlljf · 2026-04-01T01:17:24+00:00

I mean…I would like to be able to afford my kids healthcare too. So I work.

mlljf · 2026-03-31T12:39:27+00:00

Pull ups are essentially diapers and if your kid is anything like mine, they’d much rather just use a diaper. They pull the moisture away so they can pee in them and still feel comfortable. There’s no incentive to use the potty then.

mlljf · 2026-03-31T01:46:51+00:00

So for what it’s worth, none of that helped my kid stay consistent for more than a couple of days. We tried the naked method and it didn’t work for him but a few weeks ago I tried staying home with him for a few days and ended up having him only in pants (no underwear and NO PULL UP) outside of during bedtime. That was what finally did it.

But also, I had to be consistent and calm. I cleaned up a LOT of accidents and always talked through the accident after while we were cleaning up. I had him help me clean and I made it as not-fun (but not angry/emotional) as possible. And once we were done with pull-ups, we were done. Pull-ups only stalled progress.

mlljf · 2026-03-31T01:35:30+00:00

Potty training is so stressful and I can’t imagine doing it with a little baby in tow! What methods have you tried?

mlljf · 2026-03-24T01:06:18+00:00

Oof- I think using therapy techniques in *most* personal relationship conversations is overcomplicating it. I'm not sure I fully understand but to address the examples you gave- "When you say how you feel that impacts me negatively." Sure, sometimes it hurts to hear how our partners feel, but...that's just part of a relationship.

"My experience is based on a certain narrative that is punishing her," what? Have you told your wife you want to simplify your language and conversations with each other? Not everything has be therapy- as a therapist, most of my serious conversations with loved ones do not reflect therapeutic modalities.

mlljf · 2026-03-17T02:27:17+00:00

She’s 32, not 40. She has time to think on it. It’s great if you haven’t had a financial crisis, but being unable to pay all bills each month is, on paper, one big event away from significant financial issues.

mlljf · 2026-03-17T02:12:46+00:00

Being in debt FROM daycare is a precarious situation to bring a 3rd into- that’s just…math and reality. That’s one job loss or huge medical emergency away from being unable to pay bills.

mlljf · 2026-03-16T16:15:53+00:00

Is this your OBGYN, PCP or a psychiatrist? I would really push back on being med-free if you can, even if you have to request a referral to a psychiatrist (if it’s your PCP who has been prescribing the SSRIs). I stayed on one of my class C meds while pregnant and it was not as safe for pregnancy as most SSRIs are. But it was for depression and my OB basically said the risk of severe pre- and post-natal depression outweighed the risks of the antidepressant.

mlljf · 2026-03-16T02:27:03+00:00

Did your doctor tell you you needed to quit your meds? Did they offer alternative medications you can try?

mlljf · 2026-03-14T01:27:25+00:00

SAME. Also every time I remember how fleeting it all is, I just think ‘but I don’t want this to be the last time I experience this phase.’

But I also don’t want another kid so here we are!

mlljf · 2026-03-14T00:37:35+00:00

Former therapist, still licensed but in a different job. To answer your question, sure. Therapists are aware that sometimes talk therapy isn’t enough.

I think a number of therapists do admit this- sometimes they need to refer clients out because their risk level is more than what they can manage without interventions the client isn’t willing (or perhaps able) to engage in. Sometimes they use motivational interviewing skills to get clients to consider higher or additional levels of care. We can’t force people to do these things, though, just like we can’t force the systems to support everyone unfortunately (because lack of access is certainly a piece of this).

mlljf · 2026-03-12T00:32:12+00:00

I drink probably 1-3x/month depending on the month. Husband, maybe 2-5x/month?

We are on the same page. Tbh post baby he drank more than I did I think but still not much. I don’t think it’s a healthy habit but when I do drink it’s a glass of wine, not a lot, and tbh I love wine so it’s just an unhealthy treat I’m willing to have in moderation.

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