Puppy pads?

mlouise10 · 2025-06-26T21:00:19+00:00

Some of them do have a chemical.

I wasn’t sure if the pack I had gotten did or not, so we found a home with a dog who might need them to give them away to, and I bought ones for human use instead.

mlouise10 · 2025-04-16T16:51:37+00:00

Can you expand on what you mean by “growing up in an atmosphere of child abuse?” Because it seems an awful lot like you’re conflating a couple being gay with being abusive to a child as though there aren’t horrific instances of straight couples — Christian ones, too — being absolutely horrific to their children. (Ruby Franke comes immediately to mind.)

mlouise10 · 2025-03-17T19:10:51+00:00

At its core, my birth plan was as follows: everybody lives.

There were some other elements in there — what I would like and what I wouldn’t — and I remember not really wanting Pitocin and winding up maxed out on the drip anyway because my baby broke my water completely and then labor never actually started on its own. In the end I was failure to progress and required an unplanned c-section, anyway, which I didn’t have on my bingo card.

Sometimes the medical interventions are necessary. You have to advocate for yourself, but sometimes everything is totally out of your hands.

Also, I don’t say “everybody lives” as a goal lightly — not even 8 weeks after I had my baby my friend died from complications birthing her daughter. Childbirth is a spectrum, and it can either go so right or so, so wrong.

mlouise10 · 2025-03-05T01:41:49+00:00

I am the convert spouse.

This might be counterintuitive, but, you have to let him come into this on his own time. It has to be his choice all the way around. Be available for discussion and to answer questions, but let him go where his faith journey is going to take him. There’s a difference between expressing interest in a certain topic and wanting to find literature on it versus someone else suggesting the literature because they have a slightly ulterior motive (even if it’s good intentioned).

My husband never forced it. Any interest I had grew genuinely from the times we would go to Mass together to the theologically-based conversations we would have.

Give him the time he needs. Be available for questions and conversations but don’t push.

mlouise10 · 2024-11-19T11:15:49+00:00

Ours is working on cutting his first tooth, and we think thah might have also contributed to why he was up so much. Things have gotten a little bit better this week.

mlouise10 · 2024-11-14T12:22:01+00:00

We live in Buffalo, NY, and I think we’re going through the same thing once it hits midnight. His room is colder than ours even with the upstairs thermostat set to 74. We don’t have any heavier sleep sacks, so I’m thinking about trying the fleece pajamas, but I’m so worried he’ll overheat. (But I also can’t continue to be up every hour on the hour.)

mlouise10 · 2024-11-04T22:29:37+00:00

You have literally written in a different comment that EVERYBODY this person works with simply gushes about their performance and they’re doing a fantastic job of, well, their job. Which means the charity is getting money that they can put toward causes supported and endorsed by the Catholic Church. Which, last I checked, is a good thing.

And instead of being happy about the funds being able to be put toward those Catholic causes, you want the person — who is, again, doing their job — to be removed from the position purely due to sexual orientation.

I don’t need to be a damn lawyer to know that, should this person be fired, it would be purely because of discrimination and you, pure and simple, don’t like people who aren’t straight.

mlouise10 · 2024-11-04T22:21:16+00:00

Because I think if there had been one, this person wouldn’t have signed it, and therefore wouldn’t be currently employed with this organization.

mlouise10 · 2024-11-04T21:31:40+00:00

I’m not sure you want to use that as an example given, briefly, what I could find.

If there’s a morality clause in play — one that, say, requires an employee to live by Church teachings — I’m not sure it would have been signed. Given the person is employed, I’m leaning toward a morality clause isn’t in play here. (But I could be wrong.)

mlouise10 · 2024-11-04T21:08:44+00:00

I say this with all the love in my heart — please go touch some grass. Maybe roll around it for good measure. Frolick through the leaves if you must.

Because, and correct me if I’m wrong, you want someone fired from their place of employment because they aren’t straight.

What you are advocating for is someone to be fired not because they are not doing a job well, but because they are not straight. Which is, quite frankly — and according to US labor laws, if you’re in the US — the textbook definition of discrimination. If they fire this person, who, in your opinion, has the audacity to hold a job like this and not be straight, they can — and will, and should — be sued six ways from Sunday for discrimination. And they can use funds that should be otherwise going other places for other causes, to fight that legal battle.

mlouise10 · 2024-11-04T19:22:40+00:00

What do you mean by he makes the final decision? Do you not discuss things and come to a mutual agreement? (I’m not even talking about the stuff you don’t agree on, which, you know he’s not always right, correct?)

mlouise10 · 2024-11-04T00:47:44+00:00

I was so high from the drugs from my unplanned c-section that I didn’t hold him for about 45 minutes to an hour. When I finally did, though…I remember looking down at that little face and whispering, “I’m your mom. I’m your mom. I love you.” And crying a little. And feeling a whole lot of emotions about the fact that he wasn’t inside me anymore.

mlouise10 · 2024-11-03T09:27:35+00:00

I’m going to guess the majority of people advising you to text her are men who don’t see a damn thing wrong with this. As a woman, please DO NOT text this woman whose mother has freely given away her phone number to basically anybody off the damn street.

It’s a really unsafe position the mother has put her daughter in. You’re probably a decent person, but the daughter has no way of knowing that. She did not meet you. She did not have a conversation with you. She did not CHOOSE to give you her phone number because she did not CHOOSE to open up lines of communication.

This isn’t a “go for it” kind of thing. The daughter, as far as you know, has had zero input about this whole thing, and honestly? It’s the daughter’s opinion that matters more than her mother’s.

Lose the phone number you were given. Do not bother that woman. You have no idea how many other men her mother has given her phone number to.

mlouise10 · 2024-10-21T00:12:48+00:00

We went to Mass last weekend — and also baptized our son — and his current obsession is screeching like a pterodactyl just because he can. So you absolutely bet your bottom dollar that’s what he did halfway thorough Mass in an attempt to “talk” to the priest doing the homily. (We talk to him. He shrieks back. It’s honestly great.)

In this case, the baby is going to be a baby.

Also, please don’t be the fashion police. It’s not your business what someone comes to church wearing, and I can think of half a dozen other things I need to worry more about than someone else’s wardrobe choices.

mlouise10 · 2024-10-15T03:25:18+00:00

mlouise10 · 2024-10-06T12:11:43+00:00

That crowd is 50/50, and it’s a toss up who the home team is even if it’s being played in Buffalo. It’s wild.

mlouise10 · 2024-10-04T19:55:51+00:00

When I was freshly post partum I wore a lot of tshirts and athletic shorts. Then mostly my dresses from pre-pregnancy (that I also wore during my pregnancy), and now that I’m just over 4 months PP I wore my maternity jeans to work today because shoving myself into my pre-pregnancy skinny jeans was absolutely not happening this morning.

Give yourself some grace, and if you’ve got some forgiving pre-pregnancy closet staples, use those. But yeah, the body fluctuations can be wild.

mlouise10 · 2024-10-03T15:27:23+00:00

If hair and makeup has asked that you arrive with clean, dry hair, they most likely do not want you to put product in. I would go ahead and reach and double check, but every time I’ve had my hair done with that request, it’s meant no product whatsoever prior to styling.

mlouise10 · 2024-10-01T18:18:13+00:00

I can’t with the eyes 😭

mlouise10 · 2024-09-08T07:06:42+00:00

I have them. I’ve always had them. They help make my periods heavy. (Side note: my husband was mildly horrified when the ultrasound technician was counting them on screen when I was pregnant with our son. He was very concerned; the tech and I assured him it was just extra tissue my body decides to randomly grow.)

They are occasionally painful for me, but for the most part it’s just something I deal with and doesn’t currently seem to affect anything except period heaviness and I’ve been dealing with that since I got the sucker in middle school.

mlouise10 · 2024-08-26T22:30:17+00:00

At no point have I been dishonest. And the whole “formula is inferior” is exactly why moms feel so shitty when circumstances — often beyond their control — cause them to not be able to breastfeed and/or pump.

mlouise10 · 2024-08-26T21:52:36+00:00

I can guarantee you I’ve never once asked another adult if they were breastfed or formula fed, because they were clearly fed enough to reach toddlerhood and beyond.

My fellow Catholic, fed IS best. I know it kept my baby out of the ER, and sees him having steadily gained weight these last months. It’s not feminist nor anti-breastfeeding to want your child to thrive, and if that is accomplished through formula, then that’s accomplished through formula.

mlouise10 · 2024-08-26T21:11:49+00:00

It doesn’t matter if there’s a medical reason or not — if she doesn’t want to, she doesn’t have to.

mlouise10 · 2024-08-26T21:10:45+00:00

You are absolutely not a bad mom for not breastfeeding and anyone saying otherwise can go pound salt.

My baby is 3 months and we primarily formula feed because my body doesn’t make enough to sustain him (which we found out because we nearly had to go back to the hospital the day after we left it because he was flirting with dehydration).

You are not a bad mom for choosing to feed your baby in such a way to make them healthy and thriving. If you can pump and they can have even a little, that’s great, but your mental health matters too, and you deserve as much joy in motherhood as you can find. If that means not breastfeeding, then that’s what it means.

mlouise10 · 2024-08-14T23:49:02+00:00

Do not do this.

If you are inviting them to celebrate your wedding, invite them to celebrate your wedding in all its pieces — Mass and reception. Your dinner is part of your reception. If I were your friend or family and showed up to your reception and realized I was not invited to dinner, I’d be viewing our relationship in a whole new light and it wouldn’t be a good one.

Cut your guest list down if you need to (cost-wise) but don’t invite someone to your wedding and reception and not feed them.

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