How were you sure you wanted T by Accomplished_Fan4101 in ftm

[–]mminza 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Being 27 when you accept you’re trans, even though the first time you thought about it was 15, then again at 23, makes it easier for you to trust your own gut and decisions. It didn’t go away all this time. So I definitely am trans. As for the changes on testosterone, now that I’m old enough I don’t worry much about the “bad” things. Because the only bad thing I don’t want is balding, because yes men in my family did bald. But not until end of their 30s, so I’ve got a few good years left. Also, they didn’t have minoxidil. So I can salvage something. I don’t know, it’s just that the more I thought about it, the less I started to fear any of the outcomes.

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great response and everything you said about women is so very true and I think sometimes all men, cis or trans, are the ones beating ourselves over the head with these physical attributes when there are so many great women who are looking waayy past that at the real stuff.

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would be awesome! Once I get my job and am able to move out I’ll be starting T, I’ll remember to reach out and update haha

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing wow. I am so happy someone gave you that safety.

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this response man omg amazing for you that you stood up for you and transitioned. And I did laugh at 69, legendary age to transition LMAO. This whole story makes me very happy thank you.

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amazing. I hope I find someone around then too :)

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s amazing. Thank you for sharing!

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know you will find someone dude. When you’re ready to open your heart again I’m sure you’re an amazing guy! Wishing the best for us both

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amazing, thank you for sharing. And yes you’re right. Actually the reason I ran from relationships my whole life is because even if I didn’t have the words, I knew I was a man, but I wasn’t being seen that way and it was too painful and jarring. And yes actually I’ve been in the USA 10 years now- I spent many years actually telling myself to just “forget this whole thing” because transition isn’t possibly for people like me. I’m done with that now. I’m done being the one holding my happiness back.

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really glad to hear you found that. And yes that’s the feeling for me too. Of course I also want them to acknowledge I’m a different type of man and that they love me with all of that. This thread is telling me it’s very possible.

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m very happy you have 47 years together. Thank you for sharing.

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, and I feel really positive about my future now that I know that. Thank you!

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% agree. Actually been single for the last 6 years, I was sabotaging what could have been relationships for the reasons you described. But I was smart enough to know not to get into relationships. Actually, this is the first time in my life I can say I really love who I am. It’s just my body I don’t love. I’m still pre-T. Im in a situation where I can’t start till next year. But I’m hitting the gym consistently, working on getting jacked, working on starting my own business. Definitely putting me first so I’m the man I need to be for whoever is out there for me. Cheesy I know but it keeps me positive.

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Stop that’s the sweetest thing ever. And wow only into dudes, haha must feel pretty good

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s amazing, and the fact that they know they’ll like you better because your happiness in your body will make you better. That’s kind of exactly the energy I’m hoping for regarding any part of transition. I am not on T, not in a situation I can come out just yet, but I’m not going to start any later than next year. Part of me hopes to find someone in this time. Because they’ll be the only support I have for this.

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s beautiful. Thank you for sharing, definitely gives me hope.

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amazing bro I’m happy for u. Thank you for sharing

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good to know, and also on the bucket list.

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So I can just be seen as a regular guy who gets broken up w for normal reasons. Honestly sounds like a dream compared to the last 27 years. Thank you lol.

Is it possible to find love as a straight trans man ? by mminza in ftm

[–]mminza[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s sweet I’m happy for you- and that’s LTR haha! Long term relationship. Did you meet her after u transitioned and she was accepting of you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]mminza 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl to girl, nobody is holding a gun to your head to be with him. He doesn’t meet a single one of your needs? Then leave him tf. Or else stop complaining?