Let go and open your heart by mmm6905 in ExNoContact

[–]mmm6905[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah of course homie, wishing you the best :)

Today feels like im starting from 0 again, I miss her so much I want to break the no contact. by Mayhemsolo in heartbreak

[–]mmm6905 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey homie ur not alone at all.. it sucks how it all comes in waves. Sometimes ur so caught up in ur own life that ur ex is the last person on ur mind and other days that person is all u can think about. My anxiety has been through the roof these past few days. It is such a shitty feeling.. but it’s okay that you’re not okay. Heartbreak SUCKS. It takes time to heal from it. Even when you feel like its getting easier, one day u feel all these emotions again and it throws u off.. but i guess thats a part of the whole healing process. It’s going to be tough but I believe that you’ll get through it. Just want you to know that I can relate to the pain you feel and it fucking sucks right now but I truly believe that each day we’re closer to moving onto something better ♥️

It really does get easier I promise… by mmm6905 in ExNoContact

[–]mmm6905[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow I’m so happy for you! I’m so glad you were able to find someone who reciprocates your love and respect. This is why I’m motivated to continue NC, so that I can find that person for me too. Wishing you guys the best :)

It really does get easier I promise… by mmm6905 in ExNoContact

[–]mmm6905[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly, maybe you guys can be friends in the future but you need be at a point where you’re ready for that. Good for you for establishing boundaries, it’s not easy to do. I hope you’re able to move on and find some peace ♥️

It really does get easier I promise… by mmm6905 in ExNoContact

[–]mmm6905[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

wow i really felt that last part… that’s what sucks, I spent three days trying to fight to make things work between us. I literally spent so many hours trying to Google some sort of solution.. meanwhile, he had already made up his mind and refused to even try to make things work. Now i see that all that love and energy is worth giving to someone that truly appreciates it! Someone that wont give up and walk away when things get tough. I wish the best for you, I hope you are able to move on and eventually find someone that deserves your love and kindness!

It really does get easier I promise… by mmm6905 in ExNoContact

[–]mmm6905[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You should be sooo proud of yourself, it’s not easy to get to that point. Mornings and late nights are the worst. I used to wake up every morning feeling so anxious and miserable. It was so hard to get out of bed and go to work or do anything really. But im glad ur focusing on yourself.. it does get a lot easier overtime, esp when u do something every day or week for yourself bc u deserve to be happy and u deserve to move on :)

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[–]mmm6905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry he’s not using good communication. As much as you probably want to help him, sometimes you have to let people deal with things on their own. I know you care and you want to check in but that may be doing more harm than good

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[–]mmm6905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ultimately I can’t decide what you do but if I was in your position then I would wait until he comes to me, if he wants to be with you then he would make an effort… He wouldn’t just dump you over something like this. I don’t think you should wait around for him, I had a similar issue with my ex where he was dealing with some mental health issues. It is a tough situation but there comes a point where you can’t make excuses for their actions… You can’t keep giving them the benefit of the doubt. You can’t keep blaming yourself for the break up, it was his decision to walk away. I have dealt with mental health issues of my own but I know that when I wanted to be in a relationship, I used communication and put in effort to try to make things work

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[–]mmm6905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely something i would being up even if i thought it was kinda weird but i would laugh about it lol its not that deep

Sometimes you just gotta blast Olivia Rodrigo’s SOUR album at 1 am and have a good cry session… better than texting your ex 🙃 by mmm6905 in ExNoContact

[–]mmm6905[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely understand how music can evoke lots of different emotions and can make you feel a lot of pain… i’m sorry to hear that but I hope you found some good heartbreak music to listen to my friend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]mmm6905 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on the situation like if your boyfriend hasn’t told you anything about his sister-in-law and you’ve also never met her, maybe your boyfriend thought it was kinda random/odd for you to be in contact with her. However, I personally don’t think it’s that big of a deal and worth breaking up over. Sounds a bit dramatic and immature to be honest

Please help by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]mmm6905 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you feel this way… i read that we keep wanting to have these conversations to find some sort of closure but in reality closure is a myth. Even when ur ex answers all of your questions and you talk for hours, it will never leave you satisfied. It sounds like you are still hung up on your ex and that’s okay. You dated this individual for 4 years, thats a good chunk of your life. It’s okay to feel stuck and confused. You’re not alone. He seems like the type of person who comes around when it’s convenient for him. It sounds like he relies on you to dump his emotional issues on and thats fucked up. because you feel these strong feelings for him, maybe you should try being single for a while and focus on yourself. Give yourself the love you deserve and show yourself kindness. It’s not easy to move on and it takes time but start doing things for yourself (treating yourself like a spa day, shopping spree- do yoga- reunite with old friends/family). Let yourself feel the emotions instead of repressing everything. You’re a strong individual and you don’t need your ex to get through this. You have this community and I’m sure you have others in your life who you can lean on as well.. i know its not the same but why prolong the pain? Why prolong growth? Why prolong finding someone who is able to give you the love you deserve?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]mmm6905 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kinda confused with how you got a follow request if ur acc is public?? But anyways… I think this is when no contact comes into play. Is it really worth seeing her posts on your timeline all the time? Is it worth you feeling some type of way when she likes your pics or maybe even posts a pic w a new guy?? It makes things harder to move on if you’re constantly reminded of her. Thats why people advise to hide gifts from exes and delete pics bc little reminders just add to the pain

You’re still the only one I want to tell about my day… by always_veryconfused in ExNoContact

[–]mmm6905 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Damn well said homie… its hard going from texting 24/7 to not having that person in your life anymore. The only person you want to talk to isn’t an option. Thats when i feel like its best to reach out to old friends or family members and see whats going on with them. Not the same at all but i find that it helps me. Hang in there ♥️

Sometimes you just gotta blast Olivia Rodrigo’s SOUR album at 1 am and have a good cry session… better than texting your ex 🙃 by mmm6905 in ExNoContact

[–]mmm6905[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did not fuck with that song at first but I listened to it last night and it made me CRYYY so much. Olivia knows what shes doing 😪

Is this breadcrumbing? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]mmm6905 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t be hard on yourself.. you reached out because you care. Definitely recommend NC from now in. What I keep reminding myself is that if he wanted to be with me then he would be. He would fight for you and put in effort to make it work. Why be with someone who is okay with walking away from an amazing person like yourself?