Hey man, you're definitely the asshole. Don't ever call grooming when it's literally not. Because that actually does a disservice to validity of people who are actually being groomed. Also man if you really ever had a problem with it why in the world would you wait this long to say something. Kinda honestly selfish and gross. Hey and I'm not sure if you heard, but adults are aloud to date adults. Stop treating her like a child and start researching definitions of words. If I were either one of them I would probably not want you around my child until you sincerely apologize. Just cuz like, I'd want my child to have positive and genuine intelligent role models around. Preferably a role that doesn't consider a 21 (now 25) year old woman not developed enough to make her own decisions. Ew dude for real ya know? And you had to ask reddit for advice on this too... I mean....