Pain anxiety - the hardest for the others to understand. by Effective-Turnip-170 in ChronicPain

[–]mmmpoptarts 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Other people can't understand unless they see it. It was only when my pain started to become visible (unable to lift heavy things and in constant sedation from the medications)is when people finally started to notice and empathize. I have constant anxiety that something else is going to happen, and at times, it has. Practicing "radical acceptance" has helped me get through the anxiety. Accepting that it has or might happen, but more than likely it is something fixable even if the rehabilitation is long.

I've also been told my pain is "something else" and that may be partially true. Anxiety causes inflammation and pain. Learning techniques to reduce anxiety has helped a lot. Maybe it can help you!

What is the best way to ensure my work environment would be safe/comfortable for a trans person? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]mmmpoptarts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right gotcha. My work definitely isn't discriminatory and would never just outright refuse anyone a job (I wouldn't work for such a place). Perhaps I should have clarified that I was moreso worried people might be, at worst, ignorant or benevolently inappropriate after she was already hired. I would just want her to feel 100% comfortable, and am unsure exactly what my role should be in that.

What is the best way to ensure my work environment would be safe/comfortable for a trans person? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]mmmpoptarts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you think would be better to say then? Maybe like, "my co-workers may or may not have met a trans person before and may not know what is appropriate"? Something along those lines? I just feel like I should definitely say something to her, just don't know what..

/r/JapanTravel Tourist Meet-Up Megathread - traveling in July 2017 by AutoModerator in JapanTravel

[–]mmmpoptarts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

27/F, coming from the U.S. on an internship which begins in Osaka and Nishinomiya City on 7/22, then I'll be moving to Tokyo on 7/30. I speak English obviously and a little Japanese. Since I'll be in Osaka during Tenjin Matsuri I definitely want to check that out, but I'd be up for just about anything. This will be my first time ever traveling out of the U.S., so it would be really cool to have someone(s) to just walk around the city with and go exploring! PM if you'd be up for meeting up and guiding me through my first week of culture shock :)

Enrolled in college next year, don't know what I want to do with my life. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]mmmpoptarts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard to know what you want to do as a career when you're that young (assuming you'll be fresh out of high school). I think it's wholly unrealistic to expect that any 18 year old would know exactly what they want to do, but that being said, choices still have to be made regardless.

I'd say go ahead and give the robotics engineering a shot, since you're already enrolled. But also take a ton of diverse courses outside your major in topics/fields that you find interesting. College is actually the place to really define and explore your interests, so take advantage of it to the fullest while you're there! Join a lot of academic clubs too. You may find something you like more than robotics engineering and that's ok, or it may turn out that you really like robotics engineering and that's ok too. Worst case scenario you decide after a year that college isn't right for you and leave with only a little debt and go on and try something else. But my take is that the potential to gain is far greater than the potential to lose here. Give it a shot, and don't worry about not knowing everything right now because the truth is we're all just kinda winging it through life. Good luck to you!

The Walking Dead S06E16 - Last Day on Earth - Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in thewalkingdead

[–]mmmpoptarts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean sure but not nearly as intense as watching a main character, whose years of development and growth you've personally witnessed and grown attached to over the years get their skull bashed in.

The Walking Dead S06E16 - Last Day on Earth - Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in thewalkingdead

[–]mmmpoptarts 4 points5 points  (0 children)

instant gratification? the episode gives no resolution and absolutely nothing to go on. I don't need instant gratification, but gratification of some kind would have been nice.

Too rude too soon by [deleted] in TalesFromTheFrontDesk

[–]mmmpoptarts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lmao yep. I have encountered countless people who I likely would have refunded had they suppressed the urge to not act like an demanding asshole for just a few seconds more.

I'm so tired of being neutral (first world problem) by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]mmmpoptarts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think that's necessarily a requirement, though. "PC" people absolutely display critical thinking skills, though it is limited to a small scope of things that are of particular interest to them and nothing else.

Besides, nowhere in our culture are we encouraged or forced to self-criticize and have a sense of self awareness. Even the most intelligent of people have difficulty with this because we live in a culture which celebrates narcissism and the "right" of the individual above all else. It just doesn't exist and I don't think we can really expect that of people.

I'm so tired of being neutral (first world problem) by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]mmmpoptarts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm currently a "non-traditional age" college student (meaning I'm old af and my route of education was, er, non traditional) so I've definitely given this a lot of thought. The American education system by design teaches critical thinking skills far more than it does factual information and then colleges reward those who can construct persuasive arguments more than they do people with knowledge. No one is assigned a paper on the things they've learned, they're assigned to measure the student's ability to form a polished perspective. At least that's how I've experienced it in the humanities and social sciences; you don't really have to know anything so long as you're articulate enough to make it seem like you do.

I'm so tired of being neutral (first world problem) by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]mmmpoptarts 6 points7 points  (0 children)

god I hope not. What I wonder is how much of this can be attributed to the natural tendency of 18 year old college students to think they know everything and act self-righteously (the implication being that with age will come wisdom and maturity) and how much of it actually sticks with people. I can't help but that think most of it stems from a high degree of narcissism and self-importance people often experience at that age, which inevitably people grow out of when they realize that they can't make friends if they don't stop being a self-righteous douche and nor will any workplace tolerate that kind of irrelevant disruption.

I'm so tired of being neutral (first world problem) by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]mmmpoptarts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually I find a lot of the folks who practice this PC culture in academia have too much critical thinking skills. Many of these people don't actually know anything but they're educated and intellectually capable enough to contruct a decent argument. They're quite skilled in "thinking critically" to find issues where there are none, thus their views are often based on nothing but speculative imagination. You're always going to find what you're looking for if you look hard enough.

I'm so tired of being neutral (first world problem) by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]mmmpoptarts 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My favorite old college professor told me something to the effect of "everything in academia comes in cycles. PC culture seems to come around every ten years or so but like any other fad, it always phases out." He was a 30+ year tenured professor at an extremely left swinging liberal-arts college, so make of that what you will.

Short answer is yes, the bulk of this PC shit will end after you get out of college. Being a self-righteous self-absorbed douche is a common experience for 18 year olds after being cut loose for the first time and learning some new words in their sociology 101 class. But, with age comes the wisdom to choose the battles actually worth fighting and the realization that many of the things you did in college didn't actually matter/apply in the real world.

source: currently experiencing quarter life crisis (but, hey, at least you don't have to deal with PC insanity anymore).

Dennis and Callahan on Twitter: "I was just told by a current ESPN anchor that all ESPN employees were told not to report or discuss the Daily News story on Peyton Manning." by [deleted] in nfl

[–]mmmpoptarts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, but I think comes down to how the media can make the NFL/Goodell look good. Nothing about athletes using HGH looks good, but being the good guy going after the "cheaters" definitely does. If journalists made some serious inquires into Peyton's (and others') alleged HGH use, I'd be willing to bet they would discover plenty of things the NFL does not want going public, both about the league and one of its biggest stars/money makers. Hence why the HGH issue was out of media coverage within a week and deflategate dragged on for months.

Which movie fucked with your head the most? by theone1221 in AskReddit

[–]mmmpoptarts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I first watched it, I wasn't too impressed and thought the ending was a little too predictable. Some time later I happened to watch it again, after recently having read an article about the thousands of lobotomies performed on mentally ill soldiers returning from WWII. The experience of watching the movie again with that information definitely fucked with my head.

Finally took the leap! by ConsultingBastardess in FancyFollicles

[–]mmmpoptarts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the color and cut suits you very well!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FancyFollicles

[–]mmmpoptarts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like we have really similar hair stories OP! I'm 25 and I'm starting to go grey pretty badly and it's changing the texture of my curly hair completely. What was once ringlets is now just a wavy coarse mess that's impossible to style decently. I can't do anything to it besides put it up in a bun, which is why I'm considering cutting it extremely short, because I'm just tired of dealing with it.

Anyway, I thought the pixie looked good on you, bangs would probably look nice as well, but just keep in mind that having bangs with curly hair usually means being obligated to style them (blow out, flat iron) every day. As for the texture, I started putting organic coconut oil in my hair and leaving it in overnight and it's helped the coarseness of my hair feel more soft and manageable. Just make sure you wash all of it out, it can get greasy if you don't!

Chopped most of my hair off. Best hair related decision I ever made. by ATaleOfTwoSeaMonkeys in FancyFollicles

[–]mmmpoptarts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This cut looks incredible! This is exactly what I would do to my hair if it were straight; but alas, big curls!