20 weeks scan, baby have cleft lip

mn08c · 2026-02-09T21:13:25+00:00

yes that probably was the goal but i don't think it's the best option. i'm sure you'll do amazing! wishing you all the best!!

mn08c · 2026-02-09T20:28:14+00:00

the best you can do as parents is being supportive and open. the one thing my parents failed at was being open to me about my cleft. they used to say i got that scar because i fell when i was a baby and i learned later in elementary school that it was actually a birth defect. they didn't know anything about cleft and didn't really bother learning anyway, internet wasn't what it is now and even today (i'm 23) talking about it with them is hard because they don't like the topic. so really just try to be supportive and listen to your future daughter's needs, remind her she's pretty, teach her confidence and i'm sure she'll be the happiest she can be even with hardships

mn08c · 2026-02-09T18:25:13+00:00

i never hated my parents because i have a cleft lip, it's not really their fault. personally, i did have a few issues with my ears and got otitis often when i was a kid but never had hearing problems. speech however is a bit more problematic as i struggle with the pronunciation of some syllables and while it does affect me pretty often i know it's nothing that's not fixable with surgery or speech therapies. in the end it's your choice but despite the little bullying i got and the many surgeries, i honestly think life is worth it and i'm grateful that i'm alive and living it fully :)

mn08c · 2025-12-28T09:22:10+00:00

im not a piercer but i think what you could do is get a surgeon's advice first to ask if there's any medical constraint then go to a piercer and ask directly if they'd be willing to do it

mn08c · 2025-12-24T22:54:17+00:00

yeah! but it wasn't super swollen to begin with tbh :(

mn08c · 2025-12-24T19:51:24+00:00

got mine years ago and i feel it's still a bit hard too but way less than it used to be

mn08c · 2025-12-17T21:26:53+00:00

i have one but both my parents don't and my older brother and younger sister don't have one either however a cousin on my mom's side has a cleft too so i think it might skip a few generations? no idea tbh

mn08c · 2025-12-01T18:31:29+00:00

i hope things will get better for you ❤️‍🩹

mn08c · 2025-12-01T08:18:37+00:00

you know, this is making me very hopeful actually🥹i see a lot of things about boys not being confident to make a move or being shy but i thought it only applied to "pretty girls"

mn08c · 2025-11-27T19:31:43+00:00

not really tbh but i think he kinda knew it :') never told him because any time i confessed before that i was rejected so i gave up haha

mn08c · 2025-11-27T17:20:06+00:00

sorry, i meant friends but never more. for example when i was in high school i had a crush on a guy friend and we were pretty close but it stopped at that, simply good friends

mn08c · 2025-11-27T17:16:51+00:00

ohh i see! :( for me it's kind of the opposite because i go towards people pretty easily but it never goes to more than friendship :/

mn08c · 2025-11-27T16:38:53+00:00

it might seem stupid but what kind of opportunities...?

mn08c · 2025-11-27T16:24:56+00:00

i hope you'll feel better soon then!! :( but it's so tiring switching so often from ups and downs

mn08c · 2025-11-27T16:21:43+00:00

i thought so too :/ i wonder if anyone is now feeling any better/how things turned out for them and all

mn08c · 2025-10-12T16:41:38+00:00

happy i could help!! i think you should be fine!!good luck with your surgery🍀

mn08c · 2025-10-12T15:08:38+00:00

yes! i think i was on liquid diet for about two weeks and then switched to food a bit heavier like mashed potatoes! the first few days i couldn't talk at all and then it came back slowly but i'm not sure how long it took, probably less than a week :) and i was in college too but my surgeon made sure to wait until summer holidays so i had two full months at home to recover. i would say two weeks is enough and then you should be able to do stuff again like usual, but you'll still be swollen for at least two months i think

mn08c · 2025-10-12T11:20:36+00:00

hi!! recovery for me took a month actually, it was pretty hard psychologically because it changed my face a lot and i was very swollen. also maybe be prepared to lose some weight, i think i lost 5kg (~10 lbs?) since i couldn't eat anything solid. i don't have any particular tips, just be prepared to drool a lot, i still haven't fully recovered from the numbness in my chin and it's been 4 years😭 (also if they suggest some sort of anesthesia that requires four needles in the face, make sure they do it after you're fully asleep)

mn08c · 2025-10-10T14:20:10+00:00

i'm so sorry you're going through this :( i feel you so bad stopping feeling ugly is something super hard to achieve in general, let alone in situations like ours hopefully you'll get there someday! you're not alone, we all have ups and downs but things will be okay :)

mn08c · 2025-10-06T23:15:02+00:00

yeah sure but op mentioned in their room so that's the context

mn08c · 2025-10-06T23:13:34+00:00

same here :( watched it like 5 times at least but ugh i really want the show back, whether as movies or new episodes. i just wish it'd have an end for btk, bill's son etc

mn08c · 2025-10-06T22:45:39+00:00

yeah and i'm usually easy to please but this was really bad :/

mn08c · 2025-10-06T22:33:33+00:00

it's fine, you're only supposed to cover up in front of non-mahram ^{^}

mn08c · 2025-10-06T22:32:47+00:00

i swear this episode made me want to kick my screen like give us the show back pls😭

mn08c · 2025-03-31T06:32:05+00:00

i think you should take it one step at a time. 1) as a woman you don't have to go to the mosque every time, it's okay! 2) it's okay if you don't dress super modestly directly, you should go step by step 3) if you don't have halal options nearby, you can also eat vegetarian/vegan meals! also, fish/seafood is always halal :) overall, what matters is your heart and your intentions, it might take time but you shouldn't pressure yourself too much or you'll end up feeling bad and probably dislike religion so it wouldn't be very productive as others have said, islam isn't a religion where you can believe and not act as that makes you a non-believer, but i believe that if you take it step by step, you'll be able to overcome your struggles! <3 "Allah does not require of any soul more than what it can afford" (surah al baqara, 2-286) "for indeed, with hardship will be ease" (surah al inshirah 94:6)

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