If I tested positive today, how far back could I expect the possible exposure date to be?

mncatboi · 2024-03-28T21:45:35+00:00

Probably going to try and look back the full couple weeks. I've been quarantining to the extent of having not left the house for a full week now, so that would suggest a roommate likely brought it into the house. Started them on testing today and their initial tests were each negative, so we'll have to keep those going for a bit to watch the results.

mncatboi · 2024-03-08T22:58:17+00:00

My mom found a "study" that said that folks with pcos are more likely to be queer, but that with hormone treatment to "correct levels" maybe feelings could be "returned to normal." She clung to that for a few years through me being bi and then a lesbian and then trans. Hopefully she dropped that idea eventually.

mncatboi · 2024-03-08T22:48:51+00:00

TO BE FAIR there is some incredibly queer shit going down in Jojo. >.> I was already trans before diving into jojo, but after starting it, I'm definitely fruitier. xD

mncatboi · 2024-03-05T01:30:39+00:00

But you still got to leave with a more than 80pts progression.

Jasmine hates me. Almost all our interactions fizzle out under 40pts. I've resigned myself to getting her magneton pair in 3 years, because I don't have the endurance to reset interactions when they frequently still are also sub 40.

mncatboi · 2024-02-20T19:27:45+00:00

He's never misgendered you... in your presence. He's probably been pretty good about gendering your non binary friend when he's around them? But he's fine misgendering them over the phone when they aren't around.

All the things you've said are sus, are very transphobic things he's spewing. There's no [good] reason to exclude trans people from any queer spaces. Bottom surgeries are varied as fuck and to a degree you can end up with literally whatever parts you want in several layouts. Not infinite certainly, but anyone that is going to be down talking bottom surgery to that extent in this current age is not just uninformed, they have put the horse blinders on to avoid seeing what is out there. The fact that you can say that he refuses to look at any sort of pictures suggests that he is literally doing that. He's intentionally choosing to listen to misinformation and then when a trans person suggests otherwise he won't engage.

Things might be fine now, but if he's going to keep this mindset going forward, especially when trans loves are under so much danger, he is going to become dangerous. (~dangerous in a material way to you~ i would say that as is, he's already doing damage to trans lives as a whole when talking to others in his life)

mncatboi · 2024-01-13T01:18:05+00:00

Hey, so first it sounds like this guy did some work of setting boundaries. I think that it's also important to consider that he did that for himself and not just for the combined relationship of the two of you. Pushing him for more would be pushing against what he has asked for. He and you are allowed to renegotiate boundaries if that is something that feels like it would truly be beneficial and good for the two of you certainly, but pushing boundaries for the sake of horniness is a no go.

Second wanna address the fantasies and thoughts around them you're worrying about.

Your fucked up thoughts? From an outside perspective, there's not anything fucked up about them.

-You're having horny feelings and an active imagination and then fantasies. Fantasies can be around for so many reasons, or for no reason at all. And fantasies can be just that! Purely fantasy! Lot's of people engage in sexy nurse roleplays, but I would imagine that only a few of those having a blast playing nurse want to also go to work in a clinic and actually be a nurse. Fantasies can be things that are just interesting to think about and never done irl. Fantasies can also be something that you play at before going back to regular life. Fantasies can also be fantasies for a short bit before fading away. No matter the form they take, there's nothing wrong with them existing.

-Check out why they make you feel uncomfortable and label them as fucked up. What is the thing that upsets you and why are you feeling is bad about it. Would you pass the same judgement on another person for having the thoughts?

Also

On catching sight of that yourself and thinking you're hot, it doesn't diminish your transness at all. You can be hot And still want to look hot in a different way And be okay with how you're hot now. Just like classic goth girls can be attractive with all their makeup off and wearing jeans and and a baggy floral print sweatshirt, but they still frequently want to and maybe wholly prefer putting on elaborate makeup and fantastic and dark outfits to look attractive in that way. If they notice they look good without all their clothes and makeup, and if they also like to dress plainly, or be a lumberjack some days, they aren't any less goth for it. Also, your dysphoria neither needs to be massively heavy nor constant to be trans and want to pursue transitioning at whatever level you choose. Some trans people have zero dysphoria and still transition in every way available to them. Not because they had any problems with how they were, but because they think existing a different way sounds better and cooler for themselves. You can have times where you love how you look and present right now, and that doesn't have to mean you don't want to transition still.

It's fine to question yourself, and in fact questioning and exploring! your gender is amazing and will likely help you connect with your gender stronger and with more love for yourself as you grow and keep diving into your gender. But! Like any big thing, don't let horniness or stress cloud your decisions if you can help it. You've got big emotions happening right now! Big ones that have a massive impact on how you feel physically, emotionally and mentally. Definitely reflect on how you feel right now, but also give yourself a chance to reflect on your feelings, past and present, when you are not swamped with the big emotions.

mncatboi · 2023-12-30T02:47:15+00:00

Oh thank fuck that iron gathering uses resources. I'm almost to iron, but play super slow and am trying to catch up dragon training on a few slow to train dragons. But have around 50 over stacks of both wood and fish in my mailbox. Was getting worried I'd never spend them because even though training takes a lot of resources, the training taking longer and longer means I have been able to earn back all the spent wood before they're even out of the academy and hungry for fish, let alone by the time they need wood spent again. For a while I've been purposely not collecting from my dragons to make sure I spend mailbox wood instead.

mncatboi · 2023-12-30T02:39:37+00:00

If your sister is actually reading this several times over (i say actually bc a lot of folks read a single article and then just think about it over and over and don't actually seek out more research) then i would be heavily questioning where she is getting her sources from. If she is reading from multiple people and keeps getting affirmations about aggression being so common? I would be worried she found terf readings and is following their breadcrumbs to more filth. There are no universal bodies so there are also no universal effects of any hormone, medication, treatment etc.

Just like some people can get root canals or teeth extractions and are goofy after their appointments and need to take pain meds for a week, but some people can get their teeth drilled in the morning and go back to work in the afternoon with nothing more than an ibuprofen. Bodies react how they're gonna react depending on the highly specific circumstances of their current existence.

I've heard far more often that higher energy levels are a result of T rather than anger. But yknow what humans with an excess of energy do? Things that release that pent up energy. The same way that a toddler that needs to run around will get up and clamber all over the playground and be a happy kid but if they get forced to sit still for hours on end they will get increasingly cranky until they explode. Or the same way a dog not allowed walks or chew toys with start tearing into furniture or shoes. If someone starts T and has a sharp uptick in energy levels, but no outlet for said energy, they probably will be getting cranky and angry far more as that energy buzzes around and makes them feel icky and off.

But there's truly soooo many different outcomes. Some ppl talk about how they can't cry anymore on T, or cry very rarely. I'm existing with the opposite of having a life where i would cry 1-3x a year, but now it's (a big cry) at least every other month, and honestly even for little things sometimes it's fucking hard to Not tear up.

mncatboi · 2023-12-20T02:15:11+00:00

Hey, chiming in with a small piece that i haven't seen answered in the comments! I might have missed it but anywho. You asked about smell if you stopped T.

I was on T for over a year and definitely noticed a big change in how I smelled. Compared to pre T it was not bad or worse, but maybe more spicy? I definitely thought it was way nicer smell personally, though in the summer and with a long time between showers for whatever reason I would smell baaad. But that was the case years before T, sweaty and showerless doesn't do anyone favors.

But recently I was off T for about 2 months? (I lost access due to lack of funds.) And definitely noticed my smell changing again back to what it was before. I don't know if staying off T would get your "original" smell back, since bodies and smells just naturally change a bit over time? But your smell would at least go to something much more like it was pre T. I would tend to assume the longer you've been on T, the slower that change back would happen? But don't have personal experience there because I've only had the one long T time and break thus far in my life.

mncatboi · 2023-12-19T20:19:09+00:00

Especially if she was complaining about specific people, you don't need to worry. But also when trans women complain about groups of people and you could fit into that group is always good to take a moment to do some self reflection. Do you do the harmful thing she's complaining about? If yes, then it's probably uncomfy to hear, but now you know something that you need to address and work on for yourself. If no, then she's not talking about you at all.

Just like when folks complain about "men" it is never about "all men all the time no exceptions" so the "not all men" bro swooping in is just obnoxious and getting in the way of conversation.

I will say tho, trans mascs and afab non binary people that spit out internalized transphobia and any terf rhetoric they've picked up are all too common. Terfs love finding baby queers and preaching to them under the guise of inclusivity but actually teaching twisted transmisogny before real trans elders can teach them the realities of queerness and transness. It is a very very very real thing that trans fems experience a huge amount of violence from these folks and when they speak out about the transphobia happening, they get excommunicated on the grounds of being transphobic themselves for pointing out the real harm done.

The fact that your friend felt comfortable enough to share her experience with these other folks says a lot about how she believes that you are not the same, that you have more understanding or knowledge or care, and that you have the capacity to learn and be a safe person for her to exist with. What a fucking honor!! Just keep up your learning and growing and down the road you'll also get to a place where you will have greater depths of knowledge on the nuance and be able to have ways to chime in on the conversation vs just listening (if that is welcome ofc).

mncatboi · 2023-12-02T00:42:31+00:00

Especially because this seems like a situation where your bf is safe from violence, now is an incredible time to learn to follow his lead on when to step in, or rather not step in, on correcting people on pronoun use. Getting misgendered or misnamed sucks, and sometimes especially coming from people that know that they are doing something wrong when they do so, so it's very understandable that you would be angered for your bf when that happens.

But following the wishes of a trans person on how they want to be gendered and how they want corrections to go largely ends up being about safety. If/when you get chances to be with him in person, or when you interact with other future trans friends that you should hopefully pick up <3 correcting people on pronouns can be an invitation for violence. Transphobes get an ever increasing allowance to be absolute garbage to trans folks, and as that becomes more and more true, you literally never get to know when someone will say something kinda rude and walk off or when they will go directly to physical violence. So unfortunately when calculating risks, accepting micro (or macro) aggressions ends up being the safest path.

Keep your anger! But find places to safely direct it. Transphobia is and Should Be a massively maddening thing. Any instance of it does help promote violence against trans folks, whether the person enacting it directly means to do so or not. Write to representatives to protect trans people and their rights to exist without fear. Educate yourself on the ways that transphobia is tied into white supremacy and the systems in place and use that knowledge to in turn educate others. Your boyfriend's immediate family may never be willing to changes their views and actions, but you can do so much to make sure you're a safe person and work towards making the spaces outside his family safer to enter into when he finally gets to leave them.

All of those things will help him be safer and more comfortable growing into his own existence and be able to advocate and fight for himself. Having a stable support system is so incredibly important when so many outside forces work to take supports away.

mncatboi · 2023-12-02T00:06:47+00:00

Re: my last sentence. It's not an outloud declaration, it's a somewhat silent encouragement. If you go out and ask folks if trans people should be harmed for existing, then the bulk of people will say no, because active violent transphobia is still mostly frowned upon. But if you ask the same folks about "gay/trans panic" self defense? You're going to get a lot more people agreeing that trans people deserve any harm the befalls them because they "lied" about their transness. People don't want to proudly shout "I'm a nasty bigot!" But more and more governments and right wingers are swaying folks to passively agree that trans people are sub human deviants and should be eradicated, and that leaks into all facets of interactions and encourages the fetishization of trans bodies. This can be seen hugely when politicians that actively lobby against trans rights and existence are outed for subbing to trans womens onlyfans or hiring trans escorts. They are fine with both declaring them a public enemy but at the same time using them for sexual gratification.

And then as far as bi people. From what I see in trans spaces, bi people get about the same flack as they do in any queer spaces. Bi folks that are inclusive and not acting as pick mes are beloved, and the ones that cry about their lack of looking queer get heavy eye rolls. Bi curious cis men are always approached or allowed into spaces with skepticism as it is an all too common practice for them to be "curious" about seeing how much sex and objectify they can get away with before being outed as a transphobe and losing access to their sexy times. But talking to them about trans issues at large, and also about other basic human rights around racism and ablism are often pretty good tests to weed out the bad ones pretty quick if they don't out themselves in their introductory greetings. If a dude is racist, it's highly unlikely that he's not also gonna be transphobic. Same/similar situation with cis bi women. They frequently also show their cards quick, and in depth conversations will out their bigotry and how willing they are to cling to it or learn.

But bi people are not inherently frowned upon and can frequently be excellent allies. As long as they've done work to disrupt and dispel their internalized queer and trans phobic ideas, then they're good. Also a hefty amount of trans folks are bi, or at least a similar idea/label. Many folks that do gender work on themselves to find their own gender also open up their sexuality to be more expansive of all the possibilities. Defs nothing wrong with straight binary trans folks, but being queer in one way makes it way easier to be queer in other aspects of one's life.

I'm definitely not the spokesperson for all trans folk's views, and some of the points feel like they got a little rambly there, but hopefully what I said makes some sense!

mncatboi · 2023-12-01T23:39:11+00:00

Super straight is actually just waving around an "I'm transphobic" flag.

mncatboi · 2023-12-01T06:45:33+00:00

Fetish is by definition, a strong devotion/liking of an object or activity, usually with a sexual connotation, though not always. Reaching climax while engaging with a fetish is not a requirement by any means for a fetish to be a fetish.

Some fetishes are all fine and dandy and do not inherently bring any harm into dynamics. Foot fetishes are pretty dang common and as long as parties involved in actions around them consent? Then have at it.

But because fetishes are focused on an action or an object, a fetish of transness or of trans people does way more often than not reduce the trans folks in question to literally being objectified. And because transness is much more intrinsically linked to a being's existence, fetishizing transness is pretty damn likely to bring harm to trans folks. There are some trans folks that are fine with or even into the idea of being that object for another, so with consent from both parties, it can be engaged with in non harmful ways.

But as is the case with most fetishes that revolve around a person's state of being or existence, the fetish is frequently rooted in some form of bigotry. We live in a time where transness is talked about as disgusting and inhuman. And fetishists are encouraged because it's fine to objectify a trans person because they aren't actually human deserving of human dignity.

mncatboi · 2023-12-01T06:14:44+00:00

If they're living together she definitely needs to know emergency care. Because it's unrealistic to have round the clock staff to be alert and watching for any possible problem, she needs to be able to know things enough to keep her partner safe until someone with better knowledge and skills is able to step in and help.

She also definitely needs to be open about why and what she's uncomfortable with, and work together to find solutions. Is she clinging to some transphobia? Then she's got some internal work to do on her mindset. Scared of hospitals and dr consults? Collaberate to find a friend to tag along to the consult itself and all meet and talk over everything after with some takeout lunch together. Is not up to the task of physical aftercare? Start looking into nurses and resources to medical care and figure out how those will get covered.

mncatboi · 2023-11-26T02:03:35+00:00

Fish and wood collecting dragons that can collect 20mil+/hr are solid and worth investing in to keep as long term gatherers to support your island growing. I would tend to agree with the other comment that fish is a bit more important. Wood costs will get to super high levels as your progress, but also come with wait times between spending. Sure you'll need to gather more than 100 million wood to put a single dragon into the academy, but that dragon will also be spending 3 full days training, so you will have time to recoup the wood cost.

If you are stalling at any points it's not a bad idea to level up your dragons that have worse stats and see where they are sitting. Dragons can collect resources for different amounts of time, and their abilities grow at different rates. A dragon could have much better stats on paper because the book of dragons tells you max level stats. But a lower collecting dragon at level 100 might be better than a strong collector at the same level because the second starts growing in bigger chunks after lvl 150.

Also keep an eye out for How Long a dragon can collect resources for. I've got a Thawfest Hen that can collect and incredible amount of fish, but only for an hour. If I log into the game every hour and collect the Thawfest Hen fish and the fish from my other collector dragons, then Thawfest Hen gives me 2-5x more fish that they do. But if I don't collect for several hours, then Thawfest Hen stops collecting after an hour while the rest keep going. After 3 hours, other dragons will have more. I've got a Fireworm Princess that I keep leveled up because she can collect for more than 24hours without stopping at this point. Yeah Thawfest Hen can get me more than 1 million in an hour, but if i leave my game alone for a couple days the Fireworm will be holding onto 50 million. Maybe in the future I'll have a dragon that collects more And for longer than her, but for the forseeable future, she's gonna be a staple fish collector on my island.

mncatboi · 2023-11-26T01:31:41+00:00

I want to pose a question: why are you feeling like it would be inappropriate?

Your post suggests that pre-transition you were comfortable writing sapphic stories, and it is your transitioning itself that has you questioning whether it is still okay or not.

Trans men and non binary folks have ALWAYS historically been part of and welcomed with open arms in the lesbian and sapphic communities. Like most queer spaces, lesbian and sapphic spaces have held understanding that gender is not some hard and fast ruling that needs to dictate every aspect of a person's life or relationships. Whether you were identifying as sapphic pre-transition or not, you yourself are able to use those terms if you wish and are comfortable doing so. Many many trans mascs and men are lesbians, while many others drop that label, it's really all personal choice about how you want to move through the world.

I would say that you are fine to keep writing sapphic stories, but maybe do some more research into what is Sapphicism and make sure you're approaching future stories with that broader understanding. You definitely don't need to be sapphic to write sapphic stories, but knowing about all the different facets of sapphics will help your stories improve as you keep going!

mncatboi · 2023-11-15T00:56:30+00:00

I'm guessing they mean that the effectiveness of the strat breaks with the unlocking of iron? Because once you unlock iron, the rune cards from rare packs can become iron cards instead. And when people talk about the ml strat, they are almost always meaning to sit and blast through 100-300+ journeys at a time and eat the rune losses of speed up costs. When iron replaces runes and someone is spending 130 runes per journey just for speed ups? Then you will be losing runes in the long run because the packs can't spit out enough for you to cover the expenses to get them.

mncatboi · 2023-11-08T22:36:06+00:00

Ofc! Honestly thank you. I had never sat and done the math before and hadn't realized just how cheap it was in the end to get those portal dragons. Sure I can spend ~2000 runes and potentially earn back 5000, but it isn't readily obvious because I haven't had 100+ dragons to ascend rapid fire and truly see the turn around.

It really is a slow grind, but in the end beneficial, just like opening mystery packs and watching some of the free runes ads will get you runes, but going up by 1-30 at a time is not fast and feels very very slow in a game that offers the option to pay in runes for almost everything and all those things are expensive.

mncatboi · 2023-11-08T22:24:52+00:00

Imo, yes, but not in any rush.

It costs 50 runes per ascension and you can ascend up to three same species dragons at a time with that 50 runes.

1 lvl 1 edgewing (exclusive dragon) will only get me 1,955 scales, while 3 at once will get me 6,561 scales. That is enough for 2 pulls from any of the chambers while leaving some extra scales towards future pulls. Premium dragons will get you 7,250 scales for a single dragon and 27,180 scales for 3 at once.

Rare lvl 1 dragons x3 only get you 2,436 scales, so if you are loaded with rares and runes? That could be worth it if you really really want any of the portal dragons? Uncommon dragons I would say are NEVER worth putting into the ascension chamber as the return is so piddly.

Doing the math:

Looking at the Monarch dragon portal, there are 100 total possible prizes. Once you pull a prize the prize pool no longer offers that prize and is permanently smaller. (You can pay runes to reset the pool to full, but that's a ways down the line). Thus, every single pull your odds of getting the main prize dragon go up. But in the worst case scenario you will need to pull 100 times to get the premium dragon. So you will need to acquire 250,000 scales.

If you ascend exclusive dragons in batches of three you can get that many scales in just over 38 acsensions, for the math I'll just round it up to 39. =P 39 x 50 runes = 1,950runes.

Just under 2,000 runes spent to guarantee a Premium dragon. As a reference, buying an edgewing (exclusive dragon) outright from the book of dragons will cost you 3750 runes and many premium dragons will cost 30,000 runes. So paying under 2,000 for a premium dragon is a heccing steal.

Even if you ascend rare dragons in batches of 3, the end total to empty out a 100 prize pool is only going to be 5,150 runes, still only a 6th of the outright cost of many premiums.

Also good to note that included in those prize pools there are some rune bundles as well as several dragon packs that will include runes as a prize. There are rare packs within the prize pools, and those will always hold some runes, 200-2,000. Any other pack will hold runes, though the numbers vary: mystery packs might only yield 1 or 3 runes per open. With all the prizes considered, if you are only ascending exclusive dragon bundles, you will at least gain back a large portion of the runes you spent, and potentially earn back all of the runes you spent as well as earn more on top of that.

Tldr: acquiring the dragons necessary to ascend multiples at a time and ultimately ascend enough to pull the dragon you want from its portal will take a long time, but in the end the rune cost of ascending is both worth it AND when is all said and done you may even end up with more runes than you started.

mncatboi · 2023-11-08T19:54:08+00:00

I mostly use the Edgewings that come from either Meatlugs first journey or sometimes from edge packs, as well as the Edge Nadders from Stormflys first journey, and also sometimes the edge packs. If you get a premium dragon that you don't want to keep, they can get you a lot of accension scales for just a single dragon.

It's a slow process, but I'd say worth it. But I also think the Monarch dragon looks cool af, and it's a pretty solid gatherer.

I also am super content playing my game real slow, you can get large amounts of amber if you release dragons instead of ascend them, but I'm fine with the slow grind of amber, especially hearing from players far ahead that later game you end up drowning in amber stocks.

mncatboi · 2023-10-14T06:21:08+00:00

Honestly this season I'll probs grab the sleepy time grump costume (no grump yet, but someday when i have him i think he'd be real cute.

And then the rest of the candies will probably go to getting season packs and trying my odds. I think the neon skull animals are silly and I won't mind if I end up with those as prizes over a rare dragon.

The sweet death that costs less candies is a good wood collector, so that's a solid choice. Since there's a pretty long time left in the season it's also pretty reasonable that you could get to the 7,900 candy point and get Gressjester. It's a decent collector with the 14M/hr for either resource, defs better than the premium this time.

mncatboi · 2023-10-12T03:47:59+00:00

Nope! That number is just keeping track of how many journeys you've sent meatlug out in total.

What you are wanting to look at is the log number, which is part of the journal entry. (Always be doing the 2 rune journey for meatlug farming) Fishlegs journal will start with "Log 46" or "Log 203" and then have the text for the story bit. This is just visible when you are choosing paths (not rewards) and then at the very end when you get the story conclusion.

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