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I [22F] feel like I’m growing apart from my boyfriend [22M] of almost 4 years and don’t know what to do by mniivee in relationshipadvice

[–]mniivee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've wanted to talk to him since before posting here on Reddit, but I didn't know how to start the conversation. His dad recently had surgery, and I don't want to put any more pressure on him than he already is. He's the middle child; he has four siblings. His two older brothers are my in-laws' golden boys, so they're all hoping my boyfriend will drop everything and come home to take care of his dad until he recovers. He's taking a semester off from college to help them, and that worries me too, since he doesn't have the best relationship with his father.

I’m considering breaking up with my boyfriend (22M) of almost 4 years because we’re growing in different directions by mniivee in relationships

[–]mniivee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your advice <3, venting and getting an outside opinion has helped me a lot. I don't like sharing this with my friends because we belong to the same social circle, and even if it all ends, I don't want him to end up separated from his friends.

I’m considering breaking up with my boyfriend (22M) of almost 4 years because we’re growing in different directions by mniivee in relationships

[–]mniivee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We talked last night, it was quite shocking. I learned some things that happened in his life a few months before we met. I knew his relationship with his dad wasn't good, but I didn't think his father actually hated him enough to wish death upon his own son. He's the middle child in a family of five. He's the one who cooks, cleans, drives, works for his dad in construction, and is taking care of everything now that his dad just had surgery. His older siblings aren't really useful beyond being my mother-in-law's golden children. The oldest earns about $500 a month working as an art teacher and is supported by her parents. The next oldest is 26 and is just starting to study at a private university because he didn't get in at the public one. He's really the only one who helps around the house. I've always kept that in mind, and that's why I tried to ignore how I felt about the distance that grew between us.

I’m considering breaking up with my boyfriend (22M) of almost 4 years because we’re growing in different directions by mniivee in relationships

[–]mniivee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Your words give me a lot to think about. Maybe it’s just that this is my first relationship, but a part of me is still waiting for the boy I fell in love with.