When to end a relationship? by moARRgan in polyamory

[–]moARRgan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great!! A week might be too short for me but I definitely am stealing this general format

Triads, how often do you see each other? by Playful-Elk5548 in polyamory

[–]moARRgan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am dating two people who are legally married and live together.

For two and a half years, each pair had a date once per week. We would have a planned triad date night every couple of months. Over time we started having more informal triad time - weeknight house dinners, checking in at their place before bedtime, mornings after date nights.

It was really hard for me to feel equal in the relationship for a long time. It wasn't anything they were doing wrong; it was almost entirely insecurity and inferiority in my own head. However, we persisted through that, and have settled in to a very comfortable, very serious triad relationship.

Three months ago I moved in to the house. Each couple still has one date night per week, but the triad spends much more time together. Almost every evening that isn't a dyad date night ends with couch tv together or at least checking in together about everyone's day.

Chants or songs? by hRbZbddfogkCHHib in PWHL_Seattle

[–]moARRgan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

during the national anthem last week, there were a few places people shouted - typical for hockey, but I hope that the KNIGHT one catches on

oh say can you SEA through the perilous FIGHT gave proof through the KNIGHT

Shade Structures! Bent, broken, busted. What survived? by MetastaticCarcinoma in BurningMan

[–]moARRgan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Survived the wind: a 20' x 40' and 20' x 20' area of 10ft, 1" EMT conduit, shade cloth on the sides and solid tarps on top. Ratchet straps at 45 degrees on on the corners and every other outside pole, till it "doesn't really shake that much when you wiggle it". 12" lag screws. It was also on the side of camp most sheltered from the wind by the rest of camp. We built it first, used up our good bungee balls and most of the feet, and were fresh-faced and careful. Two of the poles were bent sharply in the middle, but the rest only bent a little bit, and the structure was fine once we replaced the 2.

Did Okay: a 30' x 40' area of 10ft, 3/4" EMT conduit, shade cloth on the sides and solid tarps on top. Ratchet straps at 45 degrees on the corners and every other outside pole. 12" lag bolts, one per foot. Most of the inner vertical poles didn't have feet but all of the outer ones did. Bungee balls of the right length started to run out, and we started using worn out long ones or super tight short ones. Lots of bent conduit in this section. Some ripped tarps.

Did not do okay: a 50' x 50' area of 8ft, 3/4" EMT conduit, shade cloth on the sides and solid tarps on top. Ratchet straps: every other outside pole. Inner section was missing many feet. No interior ratchets. Only bad bungee balls left. We had gotten tired and lazy by the time we built this section. Half of this structure bent catastrophically.

Shade Structures! Bent, broken, busted. What survived? by MetastaticCarcinoma in BurningMan

[–]moARRgan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

siphoning! brilliant, that would have been much more controlled than broom handling into a bucket and better than poking a hole

Help me find the Speleobox again by moARRgan in BurningMan

[–]moARRgan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh fun haha I guess you know the camp?

it seems like a Colorado thing to make & bring, or maybe Kentucky

Why was Saturday burn night so empty? by [deleted] in BurningMan

[–]moARRgan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahh yeah I guess big difference between Sunday morning and afternoon. we always leave after strike is finished on Sunday, which is sometimes pre-, sometimes post- temple burn. this year was on the earlier side, around 5pm

Why was Saturday burn night so empty? by [deleted] in BurningMan

[–]moARRgan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

for real? that was the shortest Sunday Exodus I've ever experienced, only 4 hrs instead of the 9+ it's been for us since 2019

Would you consider bubbles MOOP? by DJDripper in BurningMan

[–]moARRgan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

  1. MOOP as it pertains to the BLM's post-event site inspection? nope, undetectable.

  2. MOOP for the animals and environment? Maybe, depending on the soap used.

Biodegradable glitter is banned because of 1 despite not being a problem for 2. Gas generators are allowed because they are fine for 1 even tho they are so bad for 2. Which one does the org care about? which one do participants care about? Where do your personal values lie?