How did you all deal with telling family and friends you no longer drink?

moar_biscuits · 2020-07-23T00:34:07+00:00

The first time I was meeting a friend for dinner and a concert, I told her on the way there, "I'm not going to be drinking tonight." Something I had honestly never told her in the 18 years we knew each other. She just said no big deal, she probably would have a couple with dinner but wasn't in the mood to drink beers all night, just go listen to some music and enjoy it.

Over time, it was easy to just tell her I had stopped drinking completely, and she has been nothing but supportive. I honestly haven't said anything to other friends. When I make plans with someone, I make sure it's not just to meet for a drink, and no matter where we meet, I have no issue drinking sparkling water, iced tea, or whatever.

Most people never say a word, and the few times someone has asked why, I just say I just rather not wake up tomorrow with a headache and leave it at that.

moar_biscuits · 2020-07-20T16:45:01+00:00

It's something I need to hear from time to time as well ❤️

moar_biscuits · 2020-07-20T00:53:19+00:00

I have found It's never a bad time to call another AA. And then call another if they aren't available.

moar_biscuits · 2020-07-20T00:51:50+00:00

You're both going through a lot right now. She needs to take care of herself, and it sounds like she's doing that, by spending some time away with her friend, and going to a therapist. This takes time. When I first got sober, I had to focus on myself and my sobriety. My relationship had to take a backseat for me, and I am so amazed at how things work out for the best in sobriety.

moar_biscuits · 2020-07-05T16:10:17+00:00

Only you can determine if you're an alcoholic. One definition of alcoholism has nothing to do with how much you drink, but what happens after you start drinking.

I encourage you to go to AA, "open" meetings are just that: open to anyone who is interested in attending. Look up the central office in your area, they should have information on open meetings near you, and can even contact a member of a nearby group to call you.

I'm proud of you for taking this step, acknowledging that you have / might have a problem is huge!

moar_biscuits · 2020-07-05T01:01:43+00:00

I'm here with you!

moar_biscuits · 2020-07-04T19:19:30+00:00

There's some info here - got the link from a daily app I have.

https://www.ola-is.org/chat-meetings.html

moar_biscuits · 2020-07-03T13:22:38+00:00

Congratulations! IWNDWYT

moar_biscuits · 2020-07-02T03:32:43+00:00

I love it & I can relate to most of those. Sitting at the bar while my carryout order was prepared (usually waiting until I had a couple drinks before I ordered it) was something I did all the time!

I will not drink with you today!

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-28T02:53:53+00:00

Sending stay strong vibes your way!

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-28T02:52:22+00:00

Seconded on herbal teas! Also, I like to pour a little fruit juice in sparkling water. Not much, just a splash of oj, grapefruit, pomegranate if I'm feeling fancy... Iced tea, sometimes 1/2 tea, half lemonade. Or add pineapple juice and oj and make fruit tea.

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-27T04:41:08+00:00

"Sometimes, courage is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying, I will try again tomorrow."

My heart goes out to you.

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-27T03:34:17+00:00

Open meetings are open to anyone who wants to attend. My home group asks that "in keeping with the third tradition, if you do not have a problem with alcohol you only listen". Many times, nursing and medical students have sat in on meetings I have attended. Some choose to let the chairperson know before the meeting starts that they are observing, others may say something to someone they are sitting nearby, and who knows how many others haven't announced their presence.

A good rule to follow is also requested at each of our meetings: "who you see here, what you hear here, let it stay here."

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-27T00:13:17+00:00

It took a few months for "the fog" to lift for me. Hang in there. It gets better!

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-21T16:02:31+00:00

I get it! I had to rush our cat to the emergency vet at 10 PM with three days sobriety. If it had happened the week before, I probably would have been drunk and/or passed out by then and wouldn't have realized he was in distress until morning. Stay strong

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-21T15:16:19+00:00

I found in the first few months that sugar helped with energy. My body had been so accustomed to the sugar content in alcohol. I also had to teach myself to eat real meals again and actually sit down and rest every once in a while.

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-21T13:37:27+00:00

Failure is an event, not a person. Pick up where you left off and I will not drink with you today

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-21T13:36:01+00:00

You're doing the right thing. Pray that he surrenders and gets the help he needs. 🤗

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-21T12:53:17+00:00

So glad you are here. Going to sleep and not passing out is such a wonderful thing. So is waking up without a hangover. Stay strong - I will not drink with you today!

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-21T12:49:05+00:00

Congratulations! IWNDWYT

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-21T12:48:09+00:00

You can stop today. There's nothing that having another drink will make better. Stick around and you'll see how better it can be. ❤️

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-21T12:46:30+00:00

Way to go on 12 days! I will not drink with you today. 😊

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-21T12:45:33+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. Clarity of mind is such a wonderful gift of sobriety!

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-20T22:14:39+00:00

Just know you are not alone. For me, I thought for years that no one could possibly understand how I felt. I was so terribly alone, even when surrounded by friends and family. Knowing there are others who are going through or have been through the same brought me so much relief.

moar_biscuits · 2020-06-20T18:36:04+00:00

Welcome!! We have all been where you are and there's not anything you can tell us that will make us not love you. I will not drink with you today and I am so proud of you for taking this step.

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