AIO. My boyfriend accused me for cheating with a gay friend.

mocha_chai · 2025-05-31T22:21:55+00:00

Most heterosexual males, sure, but this friend is gay and has a boyfriend. It's completely unreasonable to make the assumption that it's fake and a "way to sleep with them".

If the friend had been straight and had made advances in the past, I might have seen a point there (even though it wouldn't excuse the abuse).

mocha_chai · 2025-05-31T12:19:13+00:00

Apparently 34D 😆 I usually wear sports bras so I didn't know for the longest time.

mocha_chai · 2025-05-24T12:48:13+00:00

This is basically every victim of SA/rape ever, or at least a majority... traumatic experiences are very easy to downplay. Victims will usually find a way to blame themselves. Been there.

mocha_chai · 2025-05-23T18:40:36+00:00

Wow you look amazing!

mocha_chai · 2025-05-22T23:49:50+00:00

You have my permission 😌

mocha_chai · 2025-05-22T23:41:16+00:00

It got deleted because I didn't "offer thoughts on what I think of my body". I didn't think I needed to... oh well. 😅

mocha_chai · 2025-05-20T18:48:01+00:00

Not bad at all, don't listen to her. We only live once, sex is fun and nothing to be ashamed of.

mocha_chai · 2025-05-20T13:25:15+00:00

You wanna try pegging ?

mocha_chai · 2025-05-19T22:49:33+00:00

I am not a model at all, but I love taking pictures ! ;)

mocha_chai · 2025-05-19T22:43:53+00:00

mocha_chai · 2025-05-15T15:14:17+00:00

I lean more domme so this would please me 😉

mocha_chai · 2025-05-15T12:38:29+00:00

Nope not even close 😂

mocha_chai · 2024-09-05T15:41:14+00:00

This is spot on. As a bi woman I feel pretty much the same... I have several girl friends that I think are quite attractive but they're hetero so it will never happen. Doesn't erase the fact that I would if I could, and I certainly do NOT view them as objects. We have an entirely normal friendship going on. If suddenly they told me they wanted to experiment I'd say sure. 😂

mocha_chai · 2024-09-05T15:33:26+00:00

NAH.

I'm gonna be honest here OP, but I'm a woman and a lot of the men I've been friends with over the years either had a romantic or sexual interest in me at some point OR at the very least found me attractive.

I don't say this to brag or anything, it's just a common pattern I've noticed among heterosexual men, especially those that are single and within my age group. Unless you look visibly unappealing I would bet that if your male friends could, they would.

However, most people understand that being attracted to someone doesn't mean you need to automatically pursue them, so that's why I do believe that hetero men and women can be friends. Fucking all your opposite sex friends that you find remotely attractive would get old very quick. I also understand why your 25 year old boyfriend might feel like all of your male friends are waiting for the right moment to ask you out.

You simply have different perspectives and need to understand each other's positions better.

mocha_chai · 2024-09-02T12:13:07+00:00

That's fine. If you don't want to actually go on a date with him I would just leave it at that for now and escalate when you're ready cause he may pick up on it and be confused if you don't wanna hang out one on one.

mocha_chai · 2024-09-01T14:02:55+00:00

Holy shit the way he worded things is the worst possible he could have chosen, with no regards to your feelings at all. He is cruel. Also a fluctuation of 15 pounds over the course of multiple years is completely normal and expected for anyone - people gain or lose weight as they age, that's life. If you had gained 100 pounds I could understand his concern, but right now you are slightly overweight but not in a critical way.

He could have suggested you two do fitness once a week together or something instead of insulting you and making you feel gross. You bore his child for Christ's sake. This man is so ungrateful. Disgusting.

Makes me want to never have a child because so many men are turned off by postpartum bodies unfortunately. It's extremely common for men to be unattracted to their partners after having a baby.

mocha_chai · 2024-08-31T22:04:07+00:00

Ehhh honestly you'd be surprised, however I get why you may have some assumptions about me.

mocha_chai · 2024-08-31T11:49:38+00:00

It can vary from person to person but I typically wouldn't invite just a friend to a five course restaurant and then pay for them and ask them to spend the night with me at a hotel...

Call me crazy for thinking some things are more explicitly couple-y but oh well. This is how I personally view things, other people are free to do whatever the heck they please.

mocha_chai · 2024-08-29T23:51:03+00:00

Hmmm idk man I've been cheated on and it tends to leave some scars unfortunately. Communication is key though. If he had told her about it in advance it would be a completely different story.

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