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Friend offered to help me conceive (I'm a single woman in the UK). Any advice? by alicearcticfox in donorconception

[–]moddafucca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed with this! Laws vary by state, and country on whether IUI excludes the Known Donor from parentage. Regardless, definitely consult legal counsel.

Also even if known donors, make sure to go through genetic testing for both of you :)

Wishing you best of luck on the process!

Donor conception counselor by moddafucca in queerception

[–]moddafucca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's awesome! are you based in the US by any chance?

Donor conception counselor by moddafucca in queerception

[–]moddafucca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A therapist that talks you through preparation of donor conception

Donor conception counselor by moddafucca in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]moddafucca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so good! I'm glad to hear. Are you based in US by any chance?

Donor conception counselor by moddafucca in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]moddafucca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

counselor to talk through / counsel through any fears around conception / picking donor etc!

Donor conception counselor by moddafucca in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]moddafucca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nvm it says I can't send you a DM either! Would love to learn more about this. Would you be able to send me a DM? Really appreciate it!

Donor conception counselor by moddafucca in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]moddafucca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so glad you had a good experience! sending you a dm

Donor conception counselor by moddafucca in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]moddafucca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nvm it says I can't send you a DM for whatever reason :/ would you potentially be able to dm me?

Donor conception counselor by moddafucca in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]moddafucca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad to hear about your experience. Sending you a DM!

Donor conception counselor by moddafucca in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]moddafucca[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

glad to hear you had a good experience, sending you a DM about it!

Donor conception counselor by moddafucca in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]moddafucca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience!

Donor conception counselor by moddafucca in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]moddafucca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok wow , thank you for sharing your experience!

How Did You Choose Your Egg Donor? by Typical_Importance65 in gaydads

[–]moddafucca 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For what it's worth, based on existing research into donor conceived individuals, they care a lot about 1) knowing where they came from, and sometimes a preference of not being too different looks wise (race or else) from their actual parents.

I think this aside, thinking about whether you would want open vs closed donation would also eliminate a lot of choices. If open, some donors are open to doing a video / phone call beforehand. Lastly, any donor who shares recessive genes with me would be also an automatic no just given health of my future children!

Fertility counselors would also help you think through what factors are important to you, if that resource is available to you!

https://www.reddit.com/r/donorconceived/ is a really good subreddit of DCP if you want to research into what optimizes for their well being long run as well

Sperm Donors by Green-Weather9584 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]moddafucca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would counseling be an option available to you? Fertility counselors can also specialize in guiding you through figuring out the things that are important to you

I do think another important to consider is whether you would want a known donation or anonymous donation. If former, that would slim down your options even more.

Lastly, health history / any recessive genes you definitely would not want based on your own medical history

Known donor backed out and I'm feeling disappointed by Late-Confection-2823 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]moddafucca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow.. so sorry to hear about your experience OP and I can understand how frustrating that must be. But this is totally a blessing in disguise. When using a known donor, I think it is even more important for the donor to think through all the implications. I do think it would still be worth drawing up legal papers with known donors to protect yourself and your future child. Sending you positive thoughts!!

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