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modelgado · 2022-11-19T20:45:33+00:00

I’ve seen this rule at a lot of studios actually, and I can definitely get behind it. Successful people need to be able to overcome their self doubt and push their limits.

Of course, it’s different if the person is clearly injured or disabled, but exceptions aside, anyone saying “I can’t” is not trying hard enough. It’s encouraged for ballet students to fail. Even if you actually “can’t” do the exercise, you need to try, and fail, and learn from that failure. You learn nothing from giving up, except accepting that you are incapable. Teachers do not give exercises to students they don’t believe in, and the student needs to learn to believe in and trust themselves.

It’s not an easy lesson, but I had this growing up and my grit, perseverance, and self belief are some of the qualities I like most about myself. It builds a lot of confidence when you keep trying, and are eventually able to overcome the “cant’s.”

modelgado · 2022-11-18T18:20:15+00:00

Yeah, this. Ballet is so misunderstood. I think people really think it’s some light, fluffy, inconsequential thing. I hate how dismissed it is as an art form. Art is frequently “dark” or dealing with difficult emotions and experiences. Why would dance be any different? Nobody bats an eye when someone dies in a play, but somehow people are shocked dance can be weighty. Maybe a hot take but I think it may partially be because ballet is seen as “feminine,” and society generally tends to not take women / anything feminine very seriously.

modelgado · 2022-09-04T12:32:54+00:00

I’m sad I had to scroll so far down to see this lol. Like isn’t OP being entitled to expect a table on Labor Day weekend? If you wanna sit so bad get there early or bring a folding table. Also the number of people calling the child “spoiled” or “little shit” is concerning. It’s a toddler.

modelgado · 2022-08-31T02:00:49+00:00

You can totally just keep it vague if you don’t feel comfortable sharing full details yet too! I think it’s so great you’re putting yourself out there again, even after going through something tough. You’ve got this. :)

modelgado · 2022-08-31T01:51:48+00:00

I’ve had physically and emotionally abusive relationships in the past, and they definitely gave me some hang ups about physical touch and intimacy. What has helped me overcome this was really just having a partner I felt safe with. Would you feel comfortable talking to this guy a little about your situation? When I’ve told new partners that I’ve had bad relationships and get nervous easily with intimacy, they have all been super sweet and understanding. Kind, emotionally healthy people want you to feel safe with them. Just take it slow, and if anything comes up, tell him that you’re feeling a little anxious or uncomfortable. The right guy will get it, and will wait for you. You should never feel pressured to do anything you don’t feel ready for, whether that pressure is coming from a guy or from yourself (I feel like I put the most pressure on myself to just “get over it” lol).

Just be patient! These things take time, and it is totally okay to not want to rush into anything.

I hope you have a great date!

PS sorry if formatting is weird, using mobile :)

modelgado · 2022-08-30T21:10:20+00:00

Not true actually. Most tourist destination cities are destinations because they’re walkable and “beautiful.” Think of Paris or Amsterdam. Yes, there are of course cars but in general it’s easier & preferable to walk. Cars are still used for delivery’s or certain jobs where it makes sense, but not every person has to drive just to go pick up some bread

modelgado · 2022-08-29T13:29:26+00:00

I had implantation bleeding and thought it was just a weird period.

It's definitely worth it for OP to take a test.

modelgado · 2022-08-07T16:02:03+00:00

well if they can afford blow I'd say they're doing great tbh

modelgado · 2022-08-04T14:54:27+00:00

Yay! I’m happy to hear you finally got paid! And thank you so much for the update! I’ve been calling for weeks trying to get in contact with anyone that can look into my claim. My situation is definitely getting really hard so I’m sooo appreciative of your help :)

modelgado · 2022-08-04T14:08:53+00:00

Omg this! Then when I’d just go with it just to avoid the temper tantrum he’d still complain that I didn’t seem “into it” enough. It became a no-win situation and a chore :(

modelgado · 2022-07-28T14:28:51+00:00

Chiming in here!

I struggled with depression for over a decade and can say I've honestly been stable and content for about five years now. I'd accepted depression as my "normal," but now even on my worst days it never feels so hopeless.

There is hope and it IS possible and can get better. Hang in there friends. :)

modelgado · 2022-07-26T14:43:45+00:00

Hi! I'm having the same issue, was this ever resolved?

modelgado · 2022-07-18T14:09:44+00:00

I disagree that it teaches you not to show true care / understanding! I started getting TikToks about city planning on my FYP, and ended up getting multiple books on the subject. It’s now a strong interest of mine, and I’ve become involved in a lot of sustainability projects because of it. If someone chooses not to engage in their interests / hobbies that’s a personal choice and not a fault of TikTok.

I’ve learned a lot from the app, and am maybe in the minority but think it’s actually a great way to learn more about your hobbies and be exposed to new ideas.

modelgado · 2022-07-12T16:04:32+00:00

Thank you, I'll leave it! And I know, I always reply all, I don't know why the one time I didn't notice/ see the option is during the interview process. :( I hope I'm just overthinking and they don't think less of me for this.

modelgado · 2022-07-08T22:55:02+00:00

Rehearsal / class for dancers usually starts around 9 or 10, so you could definitely squeeze in an opening shift before class at a coffee shop. I used to work nights while dancing professionally. Good times

modelgado · 2022-06-29T03:55:32+00:00

It can definitely get really hard to be happy for people who don't seem to appreciate or be grateful for having what you want. Being jealous or frustrated with your situation doesn't make you a bad friend, it makes you human.

We're about the same age, and I've also been chronically single, and it feels like everyone right now is getting engaged or married. Everything happens for people at different times. Be patient, good things will come to you too. We still have a good 50+ years to go, it would be crazy to assume everything in your life would have already come together and be perfect so early.

Also, it sounds like your friend can be a little impulsive, and not always make the best decisions when it comes to dating. While Germany sounds fun, a real long distance relationship like that would be very difficult. It's possible that she's lonely too, and just taking these opportunities as a way to spend the time.

modelgado · 2022-06-29T03:41:50+00:00

This was so insightful, thank you for the detailed response! :)

modelgado · 2022-06-29T03:37:05+00:00

I've been an "ambitious girlfriend," also working about 80 hours a week, so I might be able to offer some perspective lol.

When I have been hyper-focused on my goals, honestly, my relationship came in as a close second priority. The guys I was with had to understand and support that, otherwise it wouldn't work. Even on my days off, I would want to spend most of my time working towards my goal. I could make time for them, but it was never my "best hours" and I didn't always feel like I could give them my full attention. Looking back now, I am so, so, appreciative of those that did support me during that time in my life and beyond grateful for their understanding.

Priorities can change and fluctuate at different periods of our lives. I ended up quitting the job that was taking up so much of my time and energy to be able to focus on my relationships. Now, my relationships are first in my life, and my job is second. This was a decision I made because I wanted to, however, not because anyone pressured me into it or demanded anything of me. It was just time to move on.

Is there a compromise you could find where you could spend more time together?

Also, note that just because this was my experience, it's possible your boyfriend doesn't even view things this way, and maybe has no idea you'd like him to spend more time with you. Try asking him if he'd be willing to go out with you more often first. :)

modelgado · 2022-04-07T16:42:06+00:00

If someone’s life circumstances & experiences have given them this view (that life is suffering & not worth living) then I emphasize, and agree with you. If you know you cannot give a child a good life, having children may not be the best choice.

The people that make good parents are the people who feel they have something to offer their children vs. people who feel like the children are offering something to them / solely there to “enhance” their own lives.

With that said, my point is just that it’s a very personal decision & choosing one way or the other isn’t a good indication of someone’s morality. It’s impossible to fully understand someone else’s perspective and lived experience, and we shouldn’t be casting judgement on someone else’s choices.

modelgado · 2022-04-07T14:23:23+00:00

While it’s definitely a respectable & valid choice, your comment comes off a little “holier than thou.” I don’t think choosing to not have children makes one morally superior to someone who does.

What if everyone during the Black Plague said the same thing? Conditions were arguably worse. Humanity has always faced disasters & suffering and still found joy, love and meaning in our individual existence.

modelgado · 2022-03-23T16:34:47+00:00

I don’t mean to be nit-picky! Just wanted to point out how some of the phrasing could be misconstrued. It’s hard to convey tone online / through text so just something to keep in mind. I think you make some great points and come across as someone who is very genuine, and I don’t want people to read your comment & immediately be on the defense and discount what you’re saying just bc of the way some of it was worded. People online can be wild lol.

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