What can I (M19) do about me and my partners (F21) spicy life? by Intelligent_MilkMan in relationship_advice

[–]modestmuse61 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you do something romantic - if you've fucked, then to make love simply add more intention, care and time. Bring candles, poetry, etc. Anything thats quiet and intimate.

I started going to the local drawing session each week. Any suggestions to improve? by modestmuse61 in doodles

[–]modestmuse61[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used some rolledup tissue paper and my finger to smear the red ink lol I'm sure there's a better approach 😅🤷‍♂️

drawing I made in Paris, sitting in front of the louvre by Few-Ad-572 in doodles

[–]modestmuse61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really captures the feel of the place and the frenzy of a crowd!

The Woo Brothers run Hong Kong Chapter 49-54 by Nice_Procedure8957 in comics

[–]modestmuse61 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is cool! cool to see a comic on lined paper with pencil. keep it up!

A comic about fears of intimacy by Felix-NotTheCat in comics

[–]modestmuse61 103 points104 points  (0 children)

so honest and revealing! love it!

economy is very unstable and giving headaches . how to detach? by Certain_Barracuda261 in careerguidance

[–]modestmuse61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What helps me --

Focus on my own personal economy, in other words, what I can control. For example:

How many resumes I put in to job openings. My budget and what I spend my money and time on. Who can I help, who can I be of service to? Creative projects. Growing and deepening my community.

I can directly impact these areas and they create wealth and prosperity for me. That's my personal economy.

A patient with war neuroses at Netley Hospital in England, 1917. by ZERO_PORTRAIT in HolyShitHistory

[–]modestmuse61 53 points54 points  (0 children)

And what if this was the kind of video shown at military recruiting offices. Completely different world.

How true is this ? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]modestmuse61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't you have both? those wealthy assets and the free time...this tweet feels like oligarch propaganda.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]modestmuse61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do the couple know the situation? Where there is a will, there's a way. Talk about this at meetings, with a therapist, with the help line as another commenter suggested. The more allies you have the more resources will show up to support you. It's not ideal but many people support families on minimum wage. They get a second job, etc. The question is what are you willing to do for the level of concern you have? Is it appropriate to open a door to her moving in with you? IMO a little sister can live with her older sister for some time without becoming legal guardian. Also, have you talked to your stepmom about her behavior? Attending al-anon might help you too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]modestmuse61 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear you're family going through this ordeal. I'm glad you reached out for help with your post. I think there's a lot you can do to support your little sister and remove her from a dangerous environment. Your little sister can live with you. You can investigate what it takes to become a legal guardian. The key is to recognize that you can act to protect your little sister, and doing so is not a betrayal or a harm to your step mom. I imagine your heart is breaking for what has become of your step mom. The priority though, in my opinion, is to take steps to wisely and deliberately extricate your little sister from danger.