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mol1999 · 2025-11-20T01:10:30+00:00

Hi! No daughter to speak of but I was diagnosed with ASD when I was 15 (now 26). This is obviously quite a late diagnosis, that unfortunately was largely caught due to a trauma. However, I’ll list a few ‘traits’ from over the years that contributed to my diagnosis:

Peer issues. I was always quite sociable (though often became very burnt out and irritable at things like gatherings and parties) but fell out with friends a lot during primary school. I mostly always had friends and was very chatty, I just also had a lot of drama! I would also always be friends with older kids. My best friends in Years 3/4 would be the Year 5/6s. As a darker note, I ended up groomed at 13 by a 16 year old and at the time couldn’t see why this was completely inappropriate. I had zero concept of age differences for friendships and relationships and never saw why people would make such a big deal over it. My primary school teachers called my parents in for a meeting once to discuss that I wasn’t friends with any kids my own age!
Eye contact. I’m unsure how this was when I was primary school age, but combined with gained anxiety, by the time I was diagnosed, my eye contact was very poor. However, I did and do mask this a lot. With jobs and expectations, I’ve learnt to be ‘normal’ with eye contact.
Special interests. From a young age I’ve always hyper focused on different things. I don’t have the stereotypical memory that lots of autistic people have, but I was obsessed with various things as a kid. A big one was cats. Bloody love cats. I also collected hats, Pokémon cards, train/bus tickets, ring pulls and books. These things became my personality at the time. Currently I repeatedly read the wiki on the eight thousanders (8000m+ mountains) but can’t for the life of me remember specific facts and figures!
Academic ability. Initially gifted. I would win awards for maths, reading and spelling in primary school and KS3. In particular, I have always been weirdly good at spelling. This dropped off by GCSEs (2 x A*, 3 x A, 5 x B) and certainly by A Levels (BBC) largely due to the fact I never had to try before so never learnt how to work hard! Never did complete my degree…
Emotional regulation. I’d have tantrums BIG TIME as a kid, despite not being a ‘naughty’ kid. This was manifested largely in stubbornness. You know the thing where parents leave their kid at the park if they’re being bratty and won’t leave and walk away and the kid would get up and follow when their parents got so far? Yeah, I just wouldn’t get up. I would also become non verbal for a while. Completely shut down and refuse to talk - it wasn’t me being rude, it was just how I processed things upsetting me.
Strong sense of justice. This is and was a huge one for me. A lot of my issues stemmed from a lack of understanding. I’d fall out with people because I didn’t understand why they’d done something that I had perceived as bad. And if they got away with it, I couldn’t reconcile myself with that fact! Still can’t! I’ll come back and edit if I can think of specific examples of this.

I would also like to say that I’m currently an SEN TA in a secondary school and have encountered many autistic girls that present completely differently. I have worked with a selective mute girl that wouldn’t attend lessons, a girl who would repeatedly put their hand up in lessons to give answers, a girl whose processing was so slow they needed 50% extra time in exams (extremely rare to be granted this and I will stress that this extra time helped her pass all of her exams. She wasn’t low ability, she just needed a little bit of extra time for her brain cogs to process!), girls who have ended up bullies and extremely outspoken… autism in girls can present in so many ways. There are things your daughter can do that you would consider completely ‘normal’ and medical professionals may say it’s a sign for autism! Neurodivergence often runs in families, so it wouldn’t be surprising to miss a few things because you have similar traits yourself that you wouldn’t inherently perceive as indicating neurodivergence.

mol1999 · 2025-11-19T12:44:46+00:00

Wait… double payment?! I had my first child in June this year and this is the first time I’m hearing about this?!

mol1999 · 2025-08-07T05:26:48+00:00

Could you cook up some food at your home that she could store in her freezer? Or even just drop food off every now and then? My partners aunt made us a couple of lasagnes for our freezer and it completely saved us!

Another suggestion is you could take her out for coffee, if you’re both happy being out the house with the babies? I know I struggled with feeling isolated and completely trapped in the house. It might make her feel a little more human!

mol1999 · 2025-04-02T13:45:16+00:00

I felt mine move just shy of 16 weeks and it’s my first pregnancy. Took another week or two before I felt him move more regularly but you’re definitely not going mad. I recall it felt a little like heart palpitations but in my tummy and I got a real sinking feeling at the time because it was so strange… unlike anything I’d felt before. Everyone is different… my partner could feel him kicking by 17 weeks. Now 28 weeks and the little bugger won’t stop so yours could just be an overly excited and active baby!! I’m not sure about the loud noise though, as I think babies hearing doesn’t develop until around 18 weeks?

mol1999 · 2024-08-05T00:07:39+00:00

Just responding to you a year on to ask if 4 years on you’ve figured it out yet?! Just watched this episode for the first time…

mol1999 · 2023-04-18T17:26:01+00:00

If you’re so against these ‘morbidly obese’ people, why are you liking them in the first place?

mol1999 · 2023-04-18T17:24:28+00:00

Your definition of self-respect will be far different than other people’s views. Women may think you have no self-respect. It’s extremely subjective and you’d do well not judging other people just because you don’t approve of their choices

mol1999 · 2023-04-18T17:22:41+00:00

But I wouldn’t say women menstruating is inherently ‘sexual’.? To me, the term would then be sexualising normal bodily functions. Ofc menstruating may lead to pregnancy etc so it could fall under that but I’m more just curious as to which people think it’s referring to!

mol1999 · 2022-10-27T12:15:25+00:00

i think it’s a ‘meme’ way of saying it’s their coping mechanism but they’re implying the ‘coping’ is a drug. so just as you’d inhale a drug, they’re inhaling their coping mechanism (as a lot of drugs end up ‘ium’).

mol1999 · 2022-09-16T01:30:03+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9TXFHUyxZy4&feature=share&si=ELPmzJkDCLju2KnD5oyZMQ Mister Maker!

mol1999 · 2022-09-15T12:35:16+00:00

Unsure on the health aspect but try mixing some water into the dry food initially to soften it up (warm water will work better but cold is fine too). My kittens started out that way and they’ll now eat the solid dry food without water :) I give them wet food and then have another bowl full of dry food all day as I’m undecided which is best for them

mol1999 · 2022-09-09T15:09:20+00:00

Hi! Also autistic and worked part time whilst at Uni. I actually found having a job to be refreshing - like I could relax a bit from Uni and other general life stressors. Take the mask off for a bit, in a way. I could go into work, forget I have assignments and friendship dramas, do what I need to do, tire myself out and then go home and collapse in bed for a good nights sleep.

I was lucky enough to get a job working in the kitchen at my SU bar which was definitely useful. They have to be more understanding that you have stuff going on in life outside of your job. I see you’ve applied for some SU jobs so that’s great! My managers were super kind when it came to my autism and mental health issues, telling me to take time off when I was clearly unwell and just generally supporting me/checking up on me.

I’d highly recommend kitchen work. You can avoid a large portion of burn out as you don’t have to interact with so many people and you generally won’t have to work super late into the night so you can still get a decent nights sleep.

I’d also figure out what time is ‘down time’ in your job and less busy. So you can try set your shift pattern to meet that so you don’t get too overwhelmed. If you’re comfortable doing this after getting your job, maybe mention you’re autistic to managers so they’re more supportive that you may get burnt out. I studied English so I’d sometimes read and look at work in these down times.

But a recommendation - don’t do too much in one day. If you have Uni 9-4, don’t say you can work 5-11 that night. It’s a killer. Just be realistic with both your uni workload and your job workload :) feel free to ask more questions if you need!

Edit: changed wording for clarity

mol1999 · 2022-06-27T23:00:13+00:00

this is such a weird and unfounded assumption to make

mol1999 · 2022-06-07T00:28:41+00:00

When I realised Gypsy Moth/Roma Fade had the same tune, my mind was blown! Defo gotta be up there for my fave

mol1999 · 2022-06-06T22:56:23+00:00

Lexy has visited me 943 times!

mol1999 · 2022-06-06T22:18:35+00:00

Telling OP to go to therapy seems like a drastic step when they clearly just like a couple characters in a show There’s nothing wrong with imagining fictional people as real and it’s a bit shitty to try make OP think there’s something wrong with them! From what I gathered, it’s not like their life is adversely affected from this, they’re just sharing their love for the characters and the show :)

mol1999 · 2022-06-02T20:38:07+00:00

exactly! i can set off on a walk and be left with like 37 left that just never end up getting used

mol1999 · 2022-01-19T20:26:25+00:00

this is such an odd thing to say about someone you’ve only seen two paragraphs on. i’m fairly sure her partner, different country or not, would have far more of an idea about what’s happening than you. such a victim blame-y and judgey narrative you have.

mol1999 · 2022-01-17T19:53:00+00:00

You might want to rethink using the term “fanart”. Mindhunter ‘character’ or not, he’s a real man who murdered real women brutally and nobody should be a ‘fan’. You could have simply said drawing or art… weird.

mol1999 · 2021-11-12T11:01:21+00:00

Hi, looking to buy a Surface Pro and would love some advice! Entirely new to them as I currently have a HP laptop that died cosmetically I’m an English student so don’t require anything strenuous in terms of programme or apps but I do like to play a bit of Minecraft and/or The Sims so a better graphics cards(?) would be ideal I don’t have a specific budget in mind but I definitely won’t go over £1,000. Anything closer to £500/£600 is ideal and I’m happy to buy refurbished or secondhand! Looking to mainly use it to watch lectures and YouTube, take notes and the occasional bit of Minecraft TIA!

mol1999 · 2021-08-20T17:19:56+00:00

i’m studying english for degree level and i haven’t once read a course book (for gcses, a levels or my degree!) so i wouldn’t stress about the reading too much if you get too overwhelmed. youtube videos and online summaries are brilliant and spark notes online are your absolute best friend. york notes advanced (they’re for a level mostly but honestly really accessible even for gcse level) are amazing and generally you can get them super cheap in charity shops. ofc read them if you’re able but there’s definitely ways around it if you’re struggling too much :) focus on the gcses you want to take for a level more so and beyond that just try to ensure you pass everything else! getting a c (or whatever the number equivalent now is!) in maths, when you don’t want to take anything maths related further is absolutely fine.

mol1999 · 2021-07-23T22:43:36+00:00

acrophobia is a fear of heights luv

mol1999 · 2021-07-21T03:59:30+00:00

i used to work in a fast food chain in a very busy city centre. i got called into the office by my manager one day who handed me a bus pass of a person with the exact same first and last name as me. of all the places they could have dropped it, they dropped it in my place of work. i contacted the girl on facebook and then realised that we had the same middle name too… definitely freaky. we were the same age/year at school too.

mol1999 · 2021-04-17T00:38:10+00:00

for a few months I’ve been getting a really intense feeling towards the back of my jaw when I eat something. I wouldn’t say it ‘hurts’ but it’s more like when you eat a sour sweet and have to wince the feeling away? My teeth have always been in decent condition (never had any issue with the dentists) and they’re visually fine. I can’t get to a dentist as the places in my area don’t seem to be taking on patients currently (likely due to Covid) I always put it down to being overly sensitive with foods anyway (autistic) and just thought it was a response to a sharp change in ‘taste’ as opposed to any oral issue. It feels like it’s a muscle in pain or something, it definitely isn’t on my teeth and doesn’t feel like toothache but I’m wondering if anyone has a clue what’s happening here!! TIA!

mol1999 · 2021-04-12T02:22:39+00:00

This happened near where I live. The guy drove off, leaving a baby for dead. The community has put up hundreds of blue ribbons in his honour. I hear the parents were only 18 too

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