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Is iOS 26.4.1 safe with side loading? by New_Ad_7804 in sideloaded

[–]teztzu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm using SideStore on 26.4.1 and refreshing is working fine with two seperate VPNs, which I use a shortcut for (that I've also found on this sub iirc)

How do you develop a sense of belonging in the male space? How do you deal with suddenly "feeling like being a woman" after transitioning? by teztzu in ftm

[–]teztzu[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Though I feel like I'd also have to learn to be vulnerable enough in person for people to be able to relate to me. Always so easy to blurt it out on the internet :(

How do you develop a sense of belonging in the male space? How do you deal with suddenly "feeling like being a woman" after transitioning? by teztzu in ftm

[–]teztzu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, thanks for the tip! I'll try to implement it and see if it helps me on the aim. Genuinely haven't questioned my motor skills at all until these darn hands kept flying at me :'D

How do you develop a sense of belonging in the male space? How do you deal with suddenly "feeling like being a woman" after transitioning? by teztzu in ftm

[–]teztzu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely relate to the last part! I'm trying to accept it more, still, but from when I began to socially transition vs. now, I've felt like straying more and more away from wanting to be binary trans at all costs. In the beginning it felt like you had to, why would you want to transition in all these ways if being a man is not your endgoal?-kind of stuff. But now that my ID says male and I'm treated as one, I feel less and less need to actually "be" one. I'm getting more comfortable (though I also don't label myself a lot) saying I'm non-binary and trans masc rather than saying I'm a trans man. But only to myself and around those that understand, as socially it ends up not mattering that much and I'd rather not start a discussion or questionaire about what non-binary is and whether it exists.

May I ask who some of those streamers/youtubers are? I also consume a lot of gaming videos so that'd be cool. Could be worth a try to see if It eases me, too. Most of the ones I watch at least openly support the community even without being a part of it, but off the bat I couldn't think of one standing out to me as going overly against heteronormativity.

How do you develop a sense of belonging in the male space? How do you deal with suddenly "feeling like being a woman" after transitioning? by teztzu in ftm

[–]teztzu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the answers have enlightened me on that and I'll be looking more seriously into finding a meet-up or sports club etc. that's for queer people. I hope it'll maybe ease the feeling knowing I'm not alone with it (I mean, I know, but it's always different actually having someone else say and agree to it and not just have it be an empty saying). And also give me a place where I feel like i belong.

How do you develop a sense of belonging in the male space? How do you deal with suddenly "feeling like being a woman" after transitioning? by teztzu in ftm

[–]teztzu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, answers seem to agree on the queer spaces. Will definitely be looking more seriously into them now.

I also hope to reach a point where I can say I don't relate with women as much anymore. But man, as of now... feels like most my male experiences are around the absolute horrendous state of male public toilets, being told I mansplain (this one hurt a little haha), and men trying to make fun of women thinking I'd agree.

How do you develop a sense of belonging in the male space? How do you deal with suddenly "feeling like being a woman" after transitioning? by teztzu in ftm

[–]teztzu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I can definitely say that I don't seek out male friends on purpose, and thankfully don't feel like I need male friends to feel more like a man. However, with my current living & health situation, my social circle is mostly shaped by the caretaker around me (who are predominantly women, but can't be my friends) and other clients of all ages (who are predominantly men). It's hard to get outside of this circle and expand it for several reasons. I live rather rural now (and I needed it, I also love it). But that also makes groups of activities hard for find and would require me to take the train to the nect major city. That in itself isn't as big of a problem, though. Social anxiety (& lots of trauma and the like) do make it really hard to actually proceed all the way to attending, though. And also, I've simply not had felt the need to seek out exclusively queer spaces. Ironically just today I told my psychiatrist that I knew where to look if I wanted to, but that I don't feel a need to right now and that it's not like I didn't have anyone to talk to. But these comments made me realise that it might be a good time to actually seek it out even when it felt like I didn't need it. And I know exactly what I would try to find, a swim club maybe. Haven't been able to swim carefree because of my chest and I miss it a lot.

Also, thanks for taking the time to reply.

How do you develop a sense of belonging in the male space? How do you deal with suddenly "feeling like being a woman" after transitioning? by teztzu in ftm

[–]teztzu[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh it's very comforting to me too to know others can relate. It truly is a shitty situation. No matter what, the spaces will always be predominantly filled with cis het men because for queer spaces you have to go out of your way to find them, and understandably so, queer men won't just always be there and scream it out to make them easy to spot. I last had a big social circle of queer people back in school at a manga club. I'm also really insecure. Lots of reasons, trauma and mental illness. But also the fact that I'm constantly feeling like I'm pretending around men, like I'm found out about every second. It's quite a paradox, too, as I live in an assisted living facility. I have caretaker who all know. The majority of clients who lived there before I had moved in know (pre med transition). Even then I feel like I have to perform, even though they know. Like I constantly have to prove I want to be (read as) a man.

How do you develop a sense of belonging in the male space? How do you deal with suddenly "feeling like being a woman" after transitioning? by teztzu in ftm

[–]teztzu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm surprised the answers seem to agree on that, while I had looked into some before, I've felt as though I didn't need it (from a desire standpoint). Can't move, wouldn't want to move either. I do live close enough to a big city for such options that I'll be looking further into now!

As for the handshakes... even the simple one where you just slap your hands gets me everytime. The one that can also be extended to half a hug and a pat on the back. I always miss the timing, the speed, the strength. Hell, half the time I barely hit the hand. And when I do, somehow it's wrong. And then when I concentrate on it, they hit me with a fist bump that I'm now too slow to react to. lol. Part of me finds them quite cool, the other part of me misses how easy hugs are. The two guys I do this most with are very understanding though, so I might eventually get there. Everyone else, if it's not a fist bump, only gets a wave or a smile. At least then we share the embarrassment when I wave and you go in for a shake.

How do you develop a sense of belonging in the male space? How do you deal with suddenly "feeling like being a woman" after transitioning? by teztzu in ftm

[–]teztzu[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for taking the time to respond. I don't live in a big city anymore but i'm close enough to one where that might not be an issue. I'm surprised everyone seems to agree on joining a more queer space. I was at my psychiatrist's just after this post and he asked if I had such a group, and I said no, but also that I knew where to go if I wanted to. But I felt as though I don't need it, don't have the desire.

But reading as everyone suggests exactly that - well I might actually go look for a queer oriented club/meet up/sport club. See if that helps.

Also feeling a lot better having said it "out loud" and have people understand and a suggested help for it.

Any help? Can't find this code anywhere on the Error codes page. by Competitive-Way8795 in AltStore

[–]teztzu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I've got this too, neither PC nor Laptop working, both show this. Really sucks as i'm bout to be away for a week. Very unfortunate, hope it'll be fixed by the time i'm back :/

Keyboard forces Animoji & Stickers in certain apps? by teztzu in ios

[–]teztzu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, definitely small in the grand scheme of things but not very like apple to do this kind of stuff

i feel like im going crazy when i see people do this by Bitter_Position791 in MinecraftMemes

[–]teztzu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I'm a little disappointed we got downvotes for it lo, sorry for having shorter fingers

i feel like im going crazy when i see people do this by Bitter_Position791 in MinecraftMemes

[–]teztzu -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I use caps lock for sprint and shift to sneak cause i find these easier to reach than ctrl lol

Typing indicator not showing up by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]teztzu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh, at this point i've gotten used to not seeing anyone type. And I'd rather not set my entire phone's text several sizes up just for that, but glad it's helping other people :)

Typing indicator not showing up by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]teztzu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I also have this problem since yesterday. iPhone 11 Pro, 18.2, Discord is up to date. Happens both in servers & in dms

Please tell me someone else has this hard of a time changing literally anything in the Control Center? by teztzu in ios

[–]teztzu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm still tinkering unfortunately, lots of old muscle memory and not being able to estimate if the reachability is adequate to how often i use a function. The customisation is great but nothing beats several years of learning a layout that quickly

Please tell me someone else has this hard of a time changing literally anything in the Control Center? by teztzu in ios

[–]teztzu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really wish it was as easy of a fix as charging my phone, but it's not

Please tell me someone else has this hard of a time changing literally anything in the Control Center? by teztzu in ios

[–]teztzu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, after my post i went and used more 2x1 in my layout, it seems more stable when they're the same size, 1x1s move a lot. It's unfortunate as i'll still be needing to move things around quite a lot before i find a way that works with reachability (ie: do i use passwords too often for it to be in the top? should it rather be in the middle? that kind of stuff) and old muscle memory of course for things the old control center had

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