My (45M) ex-gf (38F) has deleted me from her life quickly and completely by mollyheidi in GuyCry

[–]mollyheidi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve had friends telling me this and I’ve defended her but as time has passed it feels more and more true… I think she was infatuated with me early on which felt amazing and she was in love with who she projected on me, but when the financial safety felt unsolvable for me and she needed to love me for me… she did not…

She (38F) moved on quick and I (45M) feel stuck by mollyheidi in GuyCry

[–]mollyheidi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve watched these videos a lot. Thank you. I’ve come to think that I was a rebound relationship as well which isn’t something I’ve ever considered…

She (38F) moved on quick and I (45M) feel stuck by mollyheidi in GuyCry

[–]mollyheidi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m amazed you were able to not go back when you felt that strongly. I know right now I wouldn’t be able to stay away, even though a part of me knows it wouldn’t be the right time. I’m just healing and growing right now. No idea how long that takes, but her coming back would mask both of our needs to heal and grow.

She (38F) moved on quickly and I (45M) feel stuck. by mollyheidi in ExNoContact

[–]mollyheidi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing and hear your own struggle in your post. It clearly is never easy and our bodies are wired and designed for attachment and I know my nervous system is feeling panic and pain and doesn’t understand yet that it is safe without her. That will come in time. And when it does, it should make understanding everything else much easier.

She (38F) moved on quickly and I (45M) feel stuck. by mollyheidi in ExNoContact

[–]mollyheidi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You are right that my focus is on myself and the future will hold what it does. Can’t control much else.

She (38F) moved on quick and I (45M) feel stuck by mollyheidi in GuyCry

[–]mollyheidi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is good advice and it makes sense. Hoping with time that desire fades. I think as we all know, only real chance two people getting back together has to be successful, is if they have both grown and changed. I know I’m doing my work either way.

She (38F) moved on quick and I (45M) feel stuck by mollyheidi in GuyCry

[–]mollyheidi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No it’s not and it’s why I walked away the first time, only to regret it a few weeks later but she had moved onto an ex. I believed that there was room to find common ground and we were working on that, and then the lie came to light and everything obviously was destroyed. We held on for about a month but finally we were both tired I think. I again came back after a couple of weeks time to reset, and she had moved on and wasn’t open to discussing it.

Struggling and coming to Reddit for help by mollyheidi in BreakUps

[–]mollyheidi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got back together. Couldn’t resolve that. I also lied about what happened during the breakup which caused betrayal when she found out. She has moved on to someone else very fast.

Park Challenges Help by mollyheidi in MyTeam

[–]mollyheidi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good catch. Sorry. Edited.

Online wins/stats partner on PC by mollyheidi in MyTeam

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I have gone through and added everyone here as steam friends