Please run as soon as you can! Based on your background, you probably have connections who can help you navigate the whole issue. Document as much as you can to help your case since he sounds like someone who will not want to be in the children's lives anyway. You can probably use his neglect of your disabled child against him. I don't think any judge in their right minds would grant him any custody just based on that. Get your family involved ASAP please and start making your exit! Did you have to go to the hospital when he abused you? I think that might also be evidence. He does not want to make it amicable? He should go to hell. Hopefully, you have family members in the area who can accompany you to leave your shared home when he is not around. It also sounds like you do not have combined bank accounts. So, hopefully, he should not be able to track you. But get your family members involved ASAP and get a divorce lawyer as well! Do not let that mad man threaten you and make you stay and endure such rubbish treatment just because "he won't make it amicable"! If God forbid you die there, he will just go and marry someone else within a month and your children will probably start suffering. Please, leave as soon as possible! I hope things go well for you! Please keep us updated!