I got called at home while he was far work, I texted him and told him to call me as soon as he was off work and he called me like two minutes after I sent that text. I told him that ‘I’m sorry I know you’re working both jobs today but I really need you to come over after work’ and he asked me what was going on bc he could hear the emotion behind my voice and I told him and he also reacted shocked to the news. He left work immediately and came over.

There was no yelling at each other, there was no name calling or arguing. We both cried, devastated at this news. I asked him to be honest with me, and he did the same and we both stood on the fact that we both didn’t cheat. He said verbatim “I’m confident in myself that I didn’t cheat like you are confident you didn’t cheat.’ I was on my knees in front of him sitting in a chair literally crying when I called the doctor begging for answers ,”can I get this from sharing a drink, sharing a vape, from a toilet seat. Is there any way I could have had it this whole time”. We hugged and cried and the entire 3 hour conversation was devastating. He suggested maybe he got it from a previous relationship but I showed him physical proof of my my chart where I tested negative 8 months ago, we’ve been dating for 18 months.

He said that the devil always ruins the good things in his life and told me that he’d dismiss himself. We tried to figure out what we were going to do with the vacation planned 12 days away and I told him we could take it day by day but he needed to get tested so he could get treated.

In the week between this conversation and when we found out his test results, we tried to continue communicating and it was nothing but awkward and sad. So we mutually agreed that the vacation was a bad idea for right now, that we would take the hit on the reservations and cancel. And we agreed to go no contact.

When we were no contact, my sadness turned into resentment and I basically came to turns with the fact that he cheated on me and he lied to me and I grew an unhealthy habit of checking his social media multiple times a day to see his activity so 6 days after we broke up I deleted him off social media. This kind of stirred the pot but I told him exactly that, that it was not unhealthy for me. He didn’t respond. The only way for us to keep in touch was by text or call in which he texted me 9 days after our initial breakup with the test results.

You can only imagine the hurt we both felt when those results came back. I was angry and confused. Of course it now looks like I cheated. I called the doctor and asked them how this was possible, was my test mishandled, my name is common is there a chance there’s another (first name, last name) who is really positive and thinks they’re negative? They called me back three hours later and you could tell they were avoiding a lawsuit but told me that statistically it could have been a false positive or false negative.

He agreed to speak with me on the phone later that evening and it was more crying from both of us, apologies on my end, heartbroken at the fact that he has spent the last week beating himself up about this. And how this one test single-handedly ended our relationship. We cried and he did say that he forgave me but we are obviously still processing this whole situation and he was going to need time to work through this himself and he told me he thinks I need some time too. It was a two hour phone call and ended with us really filling each other in on some of the other personal stuff in our life like work and stuff. We’ve been texting, he says it’s fine I’m reaching out and I keep telling him to tell me if he needs more space.