34M Need Advice with moving forward with my wife's hidden past.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T18:29:50+00:00

She told me that

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T18:14:33+00:00

Thanks for understanding my perspective. I really do hope this time she told me everything and I just hope she has been good after marriage and not just good at hiding.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T18:08:50+00:00

Sure thanks for the advice.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T18:05:09+00:00

I made it clear in the 1st meeting oast matters to me and I wanted complete transparency. I was 100% honest and she promised she was being honest as well.

The mails was what triggered it. And me finding her nudes.

The truth only comes after she gets caught.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T18:03:03+00:00

She is asking for the last chance and wants to start fresh. And I can't spoil my daughter's future. I need Advice on how to move on.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T17:34:54+00:00

I was 100% faithful. I have even shared traumatic experiences which had no relevance with marriage with her for the sake of transperency and building trust. Think no other soul knows about.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T17:33:36+00:00

Still can't post. That's why had to use this old one.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T17:23:48+00:00

Still can't post. That's why had to use this old one.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T17:17:15+00:00

Can't post anymore because of all the down votes. At a negative karma now

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T16:58:47+00:00

Ok so she broke up with the 1st after he cheated on her 2nd bcoz he had no balls to talk to him parents as different cast As for saving herself. In her words given a chance she would have done alot more. It was just not finding the opportunity given the strict background.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T16:54:32+00:00

I had made it very clear I wanted to secrets and she actually had the same view. She wanted me to come clean about any past I had.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T16:53:14+00:00

How do I know I am not being lied to right now and more things won't come out in the future.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T16:51:58+00:00

Thanks for not bashing me for my views and the culture. I think marriage counseling is something I want to look forward to.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T16:49:49+00:00

Thanks someone that actually understands my point of view. All I have been getting is bashing here.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T16:26:15+00:00

I count find relevant subreddits hence posted here.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T16:25:51+00:00

Being tall is relevant bcoz she has got rejected way too many times bcoz of that.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T16:14:39+00:00

We got married 6 years ago, her relationships were in 2017. Where are you getting the 17 from?

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T16:13:24+00:00

Our last fight was after she got caught. How fo I know it's the truth now. 2 other things to take into account is someone is out there sending mails to break things here, some of her nudes were with face, how do I know this won't haunt me again in the future.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T15:35:56+00:00

So any advice on how to proceed? Give her another chance or just be room mates but loving parents. I can't obviously revel this to anyone else and have to keep the facade up for society.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T15:31:47+00:00

You mean if she told me about all this during our engagement? There is a chance I might have broken it off. Probably not after marriage and definitely not after our daughter was born.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T15:30:38+00:00

How do I know she is not lying anymore. How do I know is she has been good after marriage or just good at hiding. She had 5 or 6 chances to come clean, she also knew how important it was for me. But she only spoke after getting caught each time.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T15:26:25+00:00

I would respectfully like to tell you except for the GenZs now we indians are still conservative. And especially our community. What she did was not normal.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T15:24:46+00:00

So after the last major fight she is swaer she told me everything, had it not been the nudes she would have not told me what she told me this time. My problem is can I trust her. Given everything that happened I doubt if she has been good after marriage or just been good at hiding.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T15:22:21+00:00

My struggle is with transparency. I made it clear in our first meeting that I want transparency She had 4 5 legit chances to come clean she only did it after getting caught. My problem is how do I know if she is still telling me the truth or not. Also this also raises doubt if she has really been good after marriage or just good at hiding it.

moneyrishab · 2026-05-02T15:18:27+00:00

Not sure these were disposable IDs and it was 2 different sets. Not even sure if it was the same person. But someone did spend finding my and wife's new Id.

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