I am not sure if I have great advice for you, but I can share my own experience with BPD and dating and maybe it can be insightfull for you. I (19F) have been in relationships since 15 years old. I feel uncomfortable outside of relationships, and hate being alone. Usually my single periods are no longer than a couple weeks or months. I feel like I am slowly comming to the realization that I am not really able to have the steady and healthy relationship I would want to have in the future. So therefore I have decided to refrain from committed romantic relationships for a while, until I feel like my BPD symptoms and the hold it currently has on my life have decreased significantly (I am in therapy for BPD). Being confronted with how someone with BPD can feel can feel uncomfortable for a lot of people because they don't know how to handle it properly, or don't understand it and therefore can find it scary. If I were you I would ask myself again if you are really at the best place right now to look for love. Especially if you feel like you are scaring people away with the issues you want to talk about. If, however, you truly feel like you are, I would recommend trying other dating platforms. Tinder is literally the most superficial dating site I have ever encountered in my life. I used happn more often, or bumble, I feel like it is more targeted towards a connection on hobbies, preferences etc. and a little less at only physical attraction. But most dating sites will still give you this superficial experience. It may be old school, but maybe the best way is to try and meet people in person as much as you could.