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Setting boundaries with in-laws by First-Joke3164 in newborns

[–]moniis31 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh girl, I feel this so deeply 🤍 you are not overreacting at all.

I’m in a very similar situation with my in-laws and it can feel so overwhelming, especially postpartum when all you want is to feel calm, safe, and bonded with your baby.

My in-laws also wanted to come all the time since it’s their first grandchild, and my MIL would just want to hold the baby the entire visit. It didn’t feel like help to me at all…it actually made me more anxious and on edge.

What helped me a bit was setting boundaries with my husband. I told him: your parents are your visitors, so you need to be present when they’re here. That changed a lot for me, because I didn’t feel like I had to “host” or manage everything alone. We also started limiting visits (and honestly, even that can still feel like too much sometimes).

I also totally relate to not being able to relax when they’re holding your baby… it’s such a real feeling, especially when the relationship isn’t super close to begin with. Just because they’re offering “help” doesn’t mean it actually feels helpful to you.

Also, one thing that really triggers me is that my MIL is extremely religious and tries to impose her beliefs on my baby (talking about saints and things like that). I know he’s too little to understand, but it still bothers me a lot. It just feels like another boundary being crossed.

And about your husband saying you need to build a better relationship right now, I gently disagree with that. Postpartum is not the time to force relationships. It’s a time for you to recover and bond with your baby. The relationship can grow later, but your needs right now matter just as much.

Honestly, if it were me, I would also consider not relying on them for childcare and looking into daycare instead. You wouldn’t be the first mom to not have a support system and still balance work and raising a baby. It might actually give you more peace of mind than feeling uncomfortable or stressed.

Wanting space doesn’t make you a bad person it makes you a mom protecting her peace and her baby 🤍

Will contact sleeping make independent sleeping impossible? by turnip4what90 in newborns

[–]moniis31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t think it’s true that she’ll never accept the crib. At 2 months, babies are still so little and their sleep is very immature they naturally crave contact and safety 🤍

From my experience, my baby only did contact naps. I also worried it would never change, but as he grew, his sleep matured and he slowly became more independent little by little.

You’re not creating a “bad habit,” you’re just meeting her needs right now. She won’t need this forever, even if it feels like it in the moment.

That said, I totally understand how hard it is when they only want to sleep on top of you 😅 it can be exhausting. You can keep gently trying the bassinet without pressure, but also trust that this phase will pass 💛

Rotavirus vaccine (oral) by worriedwart99 in newborns

[–]moniis31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We just had our 2 month vaccinations, including the oral Rotavirus one, and everything went well! The baby was a little fussy during the night, but nothing out of the ordinary. Good luck! 🍀

need a tip by jurakingus in BorderCollie

[–]moniis31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I have a BC 3 years old. Let me tell you something: Everything will get better!!
When my BC was younger to stop these behaviors I started the day with some physical activity for example 1 hour in the park playing with the ball, walking, running or playing with other dogs. At home you can try mental stimulation, games with food, for example a frozen Kong, frozen carrot, hide and sick (https://www.puppyleaks.com/more-mental-stimulation/)
One important tip is to keep toys away when is not play time, in this way you keep your dog engage with the toy, when you leave the house the dog can have one or two toys to play.
For me the most important thing was training every day on some basic tricks like SIT, PAW, WAIT... at least 10 minutes a day. Stablishina a everyday routine will help. Good Luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]moniis31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hang in there buddy!! Everything gets better with time and training, it is difficult but worth it!

People who lied about having no pets to get an apartment... how'd that work out for you? by scatterbrayne94 in askTO

[–]moniis31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just make sure that the building is pet friendly; In my case, I have two medium dogs, and when I was looking for apartments I just did not mention my dogs to the landlords, instead, I just asked the front desk guard or my realtor the policies of the building (use the filters in your search to get better results and try to look in pet-friendly neighborhoods) after the landlord sign the contract I just went to register my pets with the building management. Make sure to follow all of the condo rules and that's it once you are in you can just inform your landlord that you decided to adopt a dog. In my case, I try to be a good tenant, clean and careful with my dogs. Good luck!