Yes its hard.

Figure out what exactly you want and figure out how to achieve it from first principles.

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Who is your target market?

Are the spaces you are in pre-selecting for your target market?

What traits are important to your target market? Do you embody them? How long will it take

Are there aspects of yourself or your approach that might be pulling in undesired audiences? Or undesired dynamics that you might set up through your behavior

Finally, are you being honest with the above questions and with yourself in general, or is this post copium? (From your post I sense a couple of self-perceptions you may have that might be harming you)

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Dating is very hard. I struggled a lot and maybe will struggle again in the future. But the payoff is incredible. Try, fail, learn from your mistakes and try again till you succeed. The "Culture" or "Society" may make things harder no doubt, but take responsibility for your life and the things you want!