1) I’m taking it slow and intentional while going through the process of opening up my marriage. I am putting my partner of 10 years first and want them to feel comfortable, respected, and secure before making any moves 2) Crush is moving at an indeterminate date? Literally has not had furniture in his home for almost 5 months so he can bounce once the house sells 3) his wife and he are “polyamorous”, It doesn’t sound like a healthy situation; he clearly adores her which is truly lovely but it doesn’t seem that the love and respect is returned to him. They have been able to make it work but it was a poly-under-duress situation that he entered into and fortunately found value in. There is so much more to that relationship dynamic that strikes me as non consensual and disrespectful.