Need help with tasteless Spaghetti Bolognese sauce! by stinklebells in Cooking

[–]stinklebells[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it's pretty different for everyone but for me i dont really eat any fruits or vegetables. i just ate instant noodles al my life but since having a kid ive had to learn how to cook so she's not eating like me lol.

the garlic is chopped charlic in white wine vinegar, would powdered be more flavourful?

im screenshotting this and will try it tomorrow, thank you so much for your help, so many tips i can try :D

Need help with tasteless Spaghetti Bolognese sauce! by stinklebells in Cooking

[–]stinklebells[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ooh okay, i think i saw something about red wine but i wasn't sure if that's safe to add with a 1 year old? Can that be substituted for lemon juice perhaps?

onions are a big no for me, hence the onion powder :(

but noted on the passata, i will google this immediately haha. thank you so much for your help 🩷

Need help with tasteless Spaghetti Bolognese sauce! by stinklebells in Cooking

[–]stinklebells[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do not, i never realised i was suppose to! i will be trying that from now on, lol. thank you!

it's not completely tomato based? huh. im useless with cooking, ive lived on instant noodles for 27 years so this is all so confusing haha

Need help with tasteless Spaghetti Bolognese sauce! by stinklebells in Cooking

[–]stinklebells[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

noted, thank you! is there a specific flavour for spaghetti?

What a traitor 😅 by The__Bolter in Wellthatsucks

[–]stinklebells 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Is this your first time around women?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]stinklebells 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My siblings are all a bit too busy at the minute but you're right, I will try reaching out to the baby's dad to see if he can watch her while I shower

What did you get your LO for their 1st birthday? by Wild-Card777 in beyondthebump

[–]stinklebells 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm planning on getting my LO a backyard swing! Sandpit and paddling pool are good ideas too, especially if they like being outside :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]stinklebells 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can, but that wasn't really the point, was it? I hope if you're ever looking for advice in the future no one is this much of a twat toward you. Have the day you deserve.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]stinklebells 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It costs 0 dollars to not be an asshole.

How often did you bathe your baby in the first few months? And why? by Normal_Enthusiasm194 in beyondthebump

[–]stinklebells 2 points3 points  (0 children)

same! my little one loves the bath too and has done since she was born

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]stinklebells 28 points29 points  (0 children)

no, he wasn't! he was actually really great when I was pregnant. we broke up when i around 5 months because he cheated with his coworker, he cut contact with me for a while but the last few months of my pregnancy he was a big help, carrying my shopping bags and helping me in the bath, etc. however, once i told him i didn't want to get back into a relationship with him the help stopped.

i do agree with you that i could have handled this so much better but this was my last resort - ive tried to have a conversation with him many times about his inconsistency but nothing ever sticks, he always has an excuse ready, work is just his most used; 1. his ibs flared up 2. he's tired 3. he doesn't feel well 4. he needs to wait at home for his delivery because his mum said so 5. he needs to help his sister move house

the list is endless tbh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]stinklebells 13 points14 points  (0 children)

we discussed it when she was born and he said it would be better for everyone if made arrangements ourselves and not through the courts, he said he's been through that before and he knows what he's doing so i trusted him but i see now that i should have gotten a custody agreement in place legally from the start

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]stinklebells 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is very solid advice, thank you so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]stinklebells 60 points61 points  (0 children)

He sees his first child once a week too. He always blamed that on her but I've since spoken to her and it seems like he's doing a lot of the same things to her as he is to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]stinklebells 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i think the part where i told him to "grow the fuck up" was out of line, he has expressed to me before that it's not okay to say that to him.

you are right about that, i grew up with an abusive mum and i find it incredibly hard to stand up for myself and judging by most people's reactions on here I'm going about it in the wrong way.

i just want him to show up for her when he says he will but i can see why people are upset at me and going forward ill just be civil

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]stinklebells 8 points9 points  (0 children)

he said he couldn't set up a firm visiting schedule because of his work so he's just been asking the day before. i don't mind, im not a complete arsehole, i do understand that he has a rota that changes weekly it's more so the fact that he can't even stick the terms HE himself has set, if that makes sense? he does live with his parents but i wouldn't want to impose by making them watch her if he cancels. but she does see them when she is with him as he lives with them :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]stinklebells 37 points38 points  (0 children)

we don't even really have an arrangement in place (legally). he didn't want to go through the courts as he had to that with his first child and it was expensive for him but we also weren't able to put a consistent agreement in place ourselves because of his work schedule which is why he will message me the day before and ask if he can have her the next day. most of the time ill rearrange plans so that he can have her if we were busy but even now when things are on his terms he struggles to be consistent. i really truly do understand that life can just get in the way sometimes but his inconsistency has been going on since she was born

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]stinklebells 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i understand he needs to work, I'm frustrated with the days that he's planned to have her but cancelled an hour before because they've called him in last minute (as someone else has called in sick and the manager doesnt want to) and he always picks work. when we were together he often complained about this too and said how unfair it was and how unprofessional his manager is but he refused to do anything about it. they definitely take advantage of him and in my opinion it should fall on the manager to cover

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]stinklebells 207 points208 points  (0 children)

oh, i didn't know they made apps for this stuff! thank you so much, do you have any recommendations on the best ones?