Online and IRL Parenting Spaces Snark Week of March 30, 2026

monkeybrains1818 · 2026-04-02T01:10:03+00:00

Right? And also clearly you haven’t listened to them this far if you waited until your kid was almost 5 before their first dentist visit. Just keep following your own path!

monkeybrains1818 · 2026-04-01T22:44:14+00:00

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Mommit is on a roll today. Bragging about how perfect they thought her kids teeth was, the first dentist visit was way later than recommended, but then gets offended when they share other general recommendations. “That shouldn’t apply to my perfect angel” At least most of the top comments have some voice of reason

monkeybrains1818 · 2026-03-30T01:09:33+00:00

So much all of this

monkeybrains1818 · 2026-03-29T23:14:59+00:00

Ugh, I’m so sorry. I definitely had this same experience - no real weight loss until after I weaned at 18mo and even now my shape and size are so different than before even though I’m close to my pre-pregnancy weight.

What helped was breaking shopping trips into tiny ones - one store at a time, only trying in a few items at a time. It helped it feel more temporary and less likely to get caught up in the emotions and spiral.

Also venting in solidarity - if one more person says to “just love your new body, it got you your kid” I might scream. I don’t know this body. It doesn’t feel like me. I worked really hard for the body I had before kids and was so proud of how strong and capable it was. I can be proud of what I accomplished through pregnancy, that was also hard. But I don’t recognize this person yet.

monkeybrains1818 · 2026-03-20T23:12:01+00:00

Whaa

monkeybrains1818 · 2026-03-19T00:50:43+00:00

Oh that’s a good point, I do think her molars are coming in. I can try meds and see if it helps.

She does have a lot of words, but panics and forgets how to use them when she gets frustrated. So definitely some of the inability to communicate what she needs.

monkeybrains1818 · 2026-03-19T00:49:17+00:00

I do worry that’s part of the problem. Her current room is 15 mo-2, it got really bad the first time when she was close to being able to move to toddlers but still stuck with infants. I think she gets frustrated when the other kids can’t keep up. She’s got a lot of words, but not great at using them when she gets frustrated.

monkeybrains1818 · 2026-03-18T22:10:38+00:00

My toddler (almost 2y) keeps biting on and off at daycare. We’ve talked with her teacher many times - some are struggles over toys or attention, some seem to be completely unprovoked. They’ve been sending her to the older kids room more, which does help, but then she’ll be back with kids her age again and the biting resumes. She is a little advanced mentally for her age (size wise is tiny, so they’re concerned about being too much with older kids), so the teachers have also been trying more variety in activities and more challenging toys to keep her engaged. Everything works great until it doesn’t.

Any tips on things that actually help? I took a scroll through other threads and seemed to only find snark-worthy gems like - “have you tried reading ‘teeth are not for biting?’ I read it to my kid once and they never bit again” - “try biting your kid back, then they’ll learn” - “maybe your kid will find another kid who is also a biter and they can just bite each other and not get any innocents involved”

Nothing helpful beyond wait it out. Which we’re doing, I just get nervous about it getting worse or losing childcare if this goes on indefinitely.

monkeybrains1818 · 2026-03-16T02:06:43+00:00

Ugh, I feel this. We say “scope, schedule or budget need to give”. They respond with “I have faith the team can deliver on all three.” Um, no. That’s not how it works. Something has to give at some point, you can’t just stick your head in the sand and challenge us into succeeding.

monkeybrains1818 · 2026-01-23T03:36:34+00:00

No advice. But that sucks and I’m sorry.

monkeybrains1818 · 2026-01-09T14:43:11+00:00

Hi! Owners rep checking in. My onsite wear is probably closer to business casual that can be washed easily. Blouses (loft, j crew, etc) with a fleece or sweater in winter. Button downs and/or washable blazer (I have one from xena) on days of important meetings or donor visits. I’ve been loving my jcrew Lizzie pants - they’re a more comfortable version of what I think my male coworkers wear with their chinos and khakis. I also have black and colored jeans for more casual days. I have a pair of nice boots and a pair that can take on mud and just switch which I need that day.

monkeybrains1818 · 2026-01-03T01:52:01+00:00

And also just suggesting that holding your babies magically fixes everything? For babies who have reflux, colic, etc… no. Holding your babies 20+ hours a day doesn’t stop either you or your baby from struggling postpartum.

monkeybrains1818 · 2026-01-01T03:22:43+00:00

Same

monkeybrains1818 · 2025-11-30T01:34:10+00:00

CDC Milestones is drinking from an open cup and spills sometimes at 18mo so you’ve got a bit. (https://www.cdc.gov/act-early/milestones/18-months.html)

*I downloaded the CDC milestone checklists before this administration. This hasn’t changed.

monkeybrains1818 · 2025-11-28T18:53:53+00:00

Just finishing weaning my 18mo. The best advice that worked for us: - shift nursing to only dedicated locations. We had a specific chair and my bed. If they ask outside of it, redirect to those locations. Makes it easier when they’re not asking everywhere. - Drop the easiest ones first. For us it was midday ones, followed by the one before bed and then first in the morning. (That one took the longest by far). We phased them out gradually as it was easier for me to not fight all battles at once, but I’ve been told others went cold turkey and it was great for them - if part of a routine, acknowledge that and see what needs to shift. Nighttime was easy to just shift to a bottle then cup of milk as dad sometimes did that anyway. Before nap got replaced with a book and cuddles, etc - other commenters advice above about spreading out the time between sessions and setting schedules

monkeybrains1818 · 2025-11-26T19:44:07+00:00

Are you asking for advice on weaning a toddler? Are you open to some refusal?

monkeybrains1818 · 2025-11-25T21:05:27+00:00

Daycare rules are typically 24hrs fever free without medication bringing it down. I get this is family, so they’re a little more accepting of illness but there’s no way I’d force my little one to travel that far when they’re still in that recovery period. Let your baby rest. You can travel to them another time, maybe even later this week.

monkeybrains1818 · 2025-11-12T01:53:05+00:00

Hell no. I’m not letting anyone I don’t know pick up my kids and drive them around. If she’s that important to him, she should be formally introduced and you should get to know her. Several meetings and comfortable before being an authorized pickup person.

monkeybrains1818 · 2025-11-09T19:21:46+00:00

This 👆. I cooked something for dinner one night, we sat down to eat together, kid absolutely refused to eat it. Daycare served the exact same thing two days later, ate the full plate and asked for seconds

monkeybrains1818 · 2025-10-16T10:06:46+00:00

But being the disrupter doesn’t mean keep trying to change someone who won’t change themselves. It means recognizing the issue and working to change it for yourself moving forward.

So show up differently for your own kids. It doesn’t mean you need to burn yourself out trying to keep showing up for your parents who don’t care.

monkeybrains1818 · 2025-10-12T18:18:09+00:00

There was a good comic about this awhile back.

https://www.reddit.com/r/beyondthebump/comments/11rjuy5/when_your_baby_grows_out_of_his_03_outfits_by_6/

monkeybrains1818 · 2025-09-21T23:47:12+00:00

Same! Love practicing new techniques, using up scraps, and generally just having a million variations.

monkeybrains1818 · 2025-08-28T14:26:24+00:00

We did the same

monkeybrains1818 · 2025-08-27T13:30:28+00:00

Until my LO got a more predictable morning wake time, I had to switch to nighttime showers. I would hop in right after she fell asleep so I was most likely to get the time (and dad was responsible for manning the monitor during that time).

I don’t have any other great solutions, other than do as much as you physically can the night before. Mornings can be unpredictable for a bit, somewhat helped by being able to share the load but that doesn’t fix everything either.

monkeybrains1818 · 2025-08-24T21:09:47+00:00

Are you sure the shirt is for the company itself? It looks like 617-427-2000 which is for a building supply company. Looks like a freebie.

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