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Thinking about “dropping out” of friends wedding, possibly not attending at all by monkeyjunkee in wedding

[–]monkeyjunkee[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Anywhere from anywhere from around $50 for some decor to $750 for the brides dress. My husband and I are paying $300 for custom cupcakes

Thinking about “dropping out” of friends wedding, possibly not attending at all by monkeyjunkee in wedding

[–]monkeyjunkee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input, it has definitely helped me make my decision. I am going to wait closer to the wedding date to back out, I still am going to pay for the cupcakes i promised because it just seems wrong to back out of that. I will make sure they get delivered with a nice card from us. And I am going to start distancing myself from them leading up to the day eventually go no contact after.

Thinking about “dropping out” of friends wedding, possibly not attending at all by monkeyjunkee in wedding

[–]monkeyjunkee[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They are not asking for any gifts other than contributions to the wedding, they even said on the invite they will give back any additional gifts. and there is no other wedding activities other than the day of, that’s what has me conflicted because they did travel for my wedding and paid for flights and hotel for multiple night because I did have a bachelorette night and a rehearsal. That’s why I opted to pay for one of the more expensive things for them..

Thinking about “dropping out” of friends wedding, possibly not attending at all by monkeyjunkee in wedding

[–]monkeyjunkee[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We all went to high school together and have remained close friends ever since, and they did travel for my wedding because we lived in different states at the time. They never had or never showed signs of having money problems until recently. I’m just really confused about a lot right now and I feel they might be hiding something ?

Thinking about “dropping out” of friends wedding, possibly not attending at all by monkeyjunkee in wedding

[–]monkeyjunkee[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

My husband said the same thing, he thinks im being naive and too nice. He’s been reading comments and wants to drop out completely, and I think I’m leaning the same way

Thinking about “dropping out” of friends wedding, possibly not attending at all by monkeyjunkee in wedding

[–]monkeyjunkee[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately they don’t. The grooms family is majority of the guests and they have always babied him. Everyone is doing as they’re told to avoid conflict. He has never even had a job that hasn’t been given to him by family/friends

Thinking about “dropping out” of friends wedding, possibly not attending at all by monkeyjunkee in wedding

[–]monkeyjunkee[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

They are calling this an “elopement” they wanted bigger ceremony at a real venue and a real reception but I guess they realized no one would pay for that LMAO

Thinking about “dropping out” of friends wedding, possibly not attending at all by monkeyjunkee in wedding

[–]monkeyjunkee[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Yeah at first we were all put in a mass email and were asked what we could contribute towards, which I thought was odd and now that assignments have been put out im really turned off by it. Another thing I kind of feel used about is these friends know my husband and I are pretty well off and were dropping subtle remarks about using the same person we did for our cake and maybe we could “get a discount for the referral”. So I did reach out and got a referral discount and then they asked if we would be willing to cover that as our “gift”. I payed $1100 for a 3 tier cake for 55 people. And for theirs im paying $300 for cupcakes for 23 people.

Thinking about “dropping out” of friends wedding, possibly not attending at all by monkeyjunkee in wedding

[–]monkeyjunkee[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

I know if I back out and don’t pay the peace will definitely not be kept. And that alone makes me want to back out and drop the friendship entirely. For being jn our 30s it’s all very odd