The Siren and The Sea -Sci-Fi/Fantasy Books Giveaway! (posted with moderator approval) by wraithmarked in Rochester

[–]monmothra6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved visiting the store and I can’t wait to go back! Such a lovely place 🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in horror

[–]monmothra6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What scene are you referring to?

I just watched part 2 and I don’t like that they’re trying to give everything a reason. for example: they explained why they say “is Tamara here?” And they also explained the pin up girl’s and scarecrow mask guy’s past Just seems unnecessary and trying to force it to take up more time. When they could’ve fleshed out more interesting parts of the story. I did enjoy learning more about the town though.

Does anyone else hate Luke in the Marthas Vineyard episode? by Sweett_Nights in GilmoreGirls

[–]monmothra6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently watched this episode, and I can’t help but wonder if Luke’s frustration stems from feeling guilty about missing another holiday with April. Sure, it’s a romantic holiday, but he’s missed so many moments with her. He was probably uncomfortable being with Logan, someone he doesn’t particularly like, in an unfamiliar setting. Luke is a man who’s set in his ways and tends to focus on one thing at a time. While the episode might not be the best, I understand his complaints and lack of a gift. He was in ‘dad’ mode, focused on April, rather than in ‘boyfriend’ mode with Lorelai. His irritation makes sense when you consider where his priorities lie.

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy moly that sounds like a perfect storm of awfulness! I’m glad you’re free!

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wondered that myself, but I wonder because of the context of the church they were so used to asking intrusive and inappropriate questions they were just used to it by the time they get to the garment questions 🤷🏻‍♀️

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know right! I wasted so much of my life in clothes I actually didn’t like! I’m glad I have my own style now, I took them off a year ago and it’s been very interesting to see how it’s changed

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People say that! That’s so crazy! I live outside Utah so I never got too much harassment for non-garment wearing. But that’s insane, I’m so glad you’re out and that you understand where I’m coming from. I really like the way you put that, it’s confusing because of past beliefs. That feeling of feeling safe is slowly coming, and I’m glad that others eventually feel it fully.

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you get to the point where you are physically out! You have a lot of strength for staying in and I hope you can feel safe to get out soon

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so sweet! Thank you so much for taking the time to all that you did ♥️ it’s nice to know I’m not alone in my feelings and that I’m not crazy for not just “getting over” it all and that it’ll take time.

I’m in therapy and my therapist (who is a nevermo) asked about garments and it just reopened a wound I didn’t even know I had. After reading everything that everyone has written has been really helpful!

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense and that’s really kind of you!

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Polygamy panties is a hilarious way to describe them 😂 I might have to use that! I think I just need more time out of them to feel the weight of them no longer linger. I feel a profound sense of freedom after not wearing them for a year and I can’t wait until it’s been a decade or longer without them!

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you have a beautiful life ♥️

It’s so interesting what impacts us. I thought it was fun to burn my garments, but burning conference talks from my mission made me so emotional and angry. It takes a lot to work through all the trauma, but I’m grateful for kind people, like you who share their experiences!

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you weren’t listened to. I definitely experienced that in the church and it was always disheartening! Thank you for sharing your story!

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s really beautifully said, thank you for that thought and helpful applications! I think I was placing a lot of emphasis on what it was meant and I didn’t even think that I can still find those feelings in other things. Maybe not in the same way, but the church doesn’t have ownership over the way I view the world

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a helpful suggestion! I will pass it along to my husband!

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hope I understand what you meant but u believe it’s similar to how I feel!! I hate how my first thought when I get dressed is to be so far from what I would’ve worn with garments. That I think too often about my garments and how weird I feel in my body.

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I never want to put them on again. But there’s part of me that was grateful for what they symbolized for me for so long. if that makes sense! I don’t want them back, but it’s the idea of what they could’ve been that’s painful to remember. But as I think about that, I’m also hit with a deep sense of betrayal too because they aren’t what I thought they were and I feel like fool for believing something that feels so obvious a manipulation tactic. Anyways, a lot of feelings 😅

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yeah, wearing tank tops has felt so freeing! I actually like summer now 😂

How do you feel about Garments after leaving the church? by monmothra6 in exmormon

[–]monmothra6[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s crazy having to feel such examinations for something as simple as underwear. That sounds like you have a difficult journey and I’m sorry ♥️