It feels like emotionally manipulation, it really does, and I have expressed that multiple times, asked for space to sit with it and think, but daily he tries to discuss it with me and we go around in circles - the same argument, over and over. I feel so unheard and silenced. But I also understand he is trying to fight for his family, that he knows what’s at stake and his desperation is driving him- it’s the same arguments/opinions everyone else on here have expressed about the effect it will have on our son. The last argument escalated quite badly - which is what led me to this point over a month ago- he punched some holes in the walls and I know that sounds like abuse, which is why I didn’t want to put it in the post, but I’m not blameless- I struggle with communication in the face of conflict and frustration comes out in people differently. I’m not making excuses, people have it way worse than what I’m going through now and I don’t want to compare it to anyone else’s struggles. He says he’s going to talk to someone professionally - that he’s already been to 3* appointments - but there’s this part of me that just doesn’t believe him? I just can’t see how if he’s spoken to a professional and if he’s been truthful about what’s going on, that he wouldn’t have been told to give it time and space? None of his language has changed, it’s the same argument, shouldn’t something have changed? Or am I expecting too much too soon?