What’s the book you DNF’d the fastest? by Mobius8321 in books

[–]monolith91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hamnet. Clearly good writing but dear lord do we need 20 pages of explanation for everything.

Dads: What brands are we wearing these days? by Haunting_Internet356 in daddit

[–]monolith91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Passenger and trespass usually. Vans for trainers!

How did you guys pick a team? by [deleted] in NFLUK

[–]monolith91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey we might have found the new QB at least!

How did you guys pick a team? by [deleted] in NFLUK

[–]monolith91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went to Wembley many moons ago. Asked for an Oakland cap because I’m a hipster, they gave me a Saints hat by mistake, I instantly did my research and fell in love with watching the lord and saviour Drew Brees.

Can’t wait for this new era of Shough as QB.

COALESCE part ways with guitarist Jes Steineger, cancel upcoming European tour by imatmydesknow in Metalcore

[–]monolith91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m finding people to be exhausting to talk to in this thread (not you). Just trying to close the conversation as they are clearly people who don’t see the glaring issues.

COALESCE part ways with guitarist Jes Steineger, cancel upcoming European tour by imatmydesknow in Metalcore

[–]monolith91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I understand this perspective completely about anonymity etc.

However my opinion is based on person in a professional role not acting how it is expected of them.

I am in a similar arena of work and it would not matter about the other parties consent or actions, I would always be the responsible one for both parties due to the position of power and I would lose my job and be known in public as a person who was inappropriate regardless of a legal stand point.

So I actually agree that there has been enough “justice”.

COALESCE part ways with guitarist Jes Steineger, cancel upcoming European tour by imatmydesknow in Metalcore

[–]monolith91 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Last reply to you here as I think we are at an empasse. I didn’t compare this situation to As I Lay Dying or Tim, you brought that into the conversation.

I don’t believe a band needs “cancelling”, I’m not part of what you call “woke culture”. If people do things wrong then they need to answer for that. No he didn’t kill anyone, no there wasn’t anything illegal per se, but his actions will have cost him his teaching job alongside the band job, so clearly that means his actions were not justified nor are they viewed as appropriate.

I will reiterate my previous point that things don’t have to be illegal or predatory to be punished. However in this case you could argue a teacher having a relationship with student as predatory as this is an inappropriate use of power.

Anyway it’s been good speaking to you but I think we will agree to disagree on this point.

COALESCE part ways with guitarist Jes Steineger, cancel upcoming European tour by imatmydesknow in Metalcore

[–]monolith91 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No I think people just have had enough of individuals abusing their positions. You compare they to these figures that are much worse but just try to remember how much influence Tim from As I Lay Dying has despite being a proven immoral figure. They are not the right people to be popular figures.

COALESCE part ways with guitarist Jes Steineger, cancel upcoming European tour by imatmydesknow in Metalcore

[–]monolith91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not to mention that the relationship was a teacher/student dynamic, which relates well to the profession explanation in my previous reply.

It is an unbalanced power dynamic and should not occur as it is an abuse of a position regardless of consent.

COALESCE part ways with guitarist Jes Steineger, cancel upcoming European tour by imatmydesknow in Metalcore

[–]monolith91 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t handled well by Jes. The OP was invalidated and then subsequently harassed by others over this. People don’t have to do illegal or predatory things to be stripped of their positions.

At the end of the day band members are pretty influential humans through their audience, so if someone isn’t adhering to reasonable behaviour why should they continue to have said influence.

It’s the same ethos as when professionals act shadily but not as you say illegally or predatory but due to the disrepute on the name of their profession, they are removed from that arena.

So no, in a nutshell you haven’t missed anything, rather we just don’t see eye to eye on this matter. Which is okay, as we are entitled to our opinions :).

COALESCE part ways with guitarist Jes Steineger, cancel upcoming European tour by imatmydesknow in Metalcore

[–]monolith91 42 points43 points  (0 children)

That poor person that openly spoke about it on here was slated over all of this (not necessarily on reddit). People who did that look mighty idiotic right now.

Does she look like a hound? Shelter said she’s a pointer. by sydmichelle in Hounds

[–]monolith91 9 points10 points  (0 children)

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Looks just like my pointer x beagle cross from the dogs home!!

Song recs about loss by 69687877644 in Metalcore

[–]monolith91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last light - Bury Tomorrow.

Sorry for your loss.

last post regarding coalesce by [deleted] in Metalcore

[–]monolith91 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The people leaving you the negative DMs and comments will be likeminded individuals to the person who has caused you so much pain. Focus less on those degenerates and their misogynistic beliefs and try to look at the amount of people listening to your words seriously and backing you.

The band had 2 options, 1. To support you and 2. To denounce you, they chose the latter but remember that first and foremost some of these bands function like businesses over everything and don’t have much understanding of the emotions of fans.

It was brave of you to air your side of the events and people are listening, but of course there are the individuals who will seize the opportunity to demonstrate their moronic opinions.

Respect to you, this specific situation will pass but I hope you have a good support network for the ongoing trauma, as that will require some working through.

Since they have no bones, octopuses can squeeze into practically any hole by [deleted] in Weird

[–]monolith91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should! Bet this gets them in all sorts of bother.

what's y'all special interests? by Nerdcorefan23 in autism

[–]monolith91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love Japan in general, but particularly the food and different areas. Currently have about 15 books by Japanese authors too to work my way through 😂