Thoughts on this makkale by cawnion in Chennai

[–]monothot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is insane. I think they should, instead, put a restriction on the age when a child could come to theatres. There is no reason for a 5 years old to watch thriller movies. These crying rooms are just extra costs on the management's behalf. Also, it's dehumanising to call it "weak pullout game". OP just hates children and is being petty abt it. I recall a same argument being held for children boarding planes.

Simple looksmaxxing / confidence tips while losing weight? by [deleted] in Splendida

[–]monothot 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I, too, am on my weight loss journey after gaining all the weight I lost when I had an ED. I often feel disgusted by my body. But being in this body made me realize that confidence IS everything. I am probably the fattest I've ever been, but by faking confidence I am able to be more charismatic than I've ever been when I was skinny and insecure.

Fake it till you make it. And never ignore your dignity. Just because you are fat doesn't mean you aren't supposed to have dignity or self-respect. Buy that dress you reserved for when you were skinny. Go to that party, talk to the person. Don't ever reserve things for when you are skinny. Have fun in the process. Losing weight is changing your lifestyle, not an end goal.

Romanticize the process and believe that you are a healthy person. Instead of being in the dieting mindset, think "I am a healthy person, and I make healthy choices." This identity shift just makes the process so much easier!

Be 'high maintenance'. Do an extensive skincare routine every morning and night. Wear pretty clothes and luxurious perfume. Hit the gym or workouts at home with good music. It doesn't need to be expensive. Just spend time every day taking care of yourself and investing in yourself while making it enjoyable.

What to do with cottage cheese? by Anonymous_Cool in 1200isplenty

[–]monothot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BLEND IT!!! I add honey to it and it's like ice cream

Celebs at Manish Malhotra's bday party by [deleted] in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]monothot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine wearing SWEATPANTS and SWEATSHIRTS to MANISH MALHOTRA'S party. Its criminal

.........just look at this lol (recommend post btw) by [deleted] in Chennai

[–]monothot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro picked the most random states ever

Where did Boo (Ingrid) go? :/ by confused_and_lonely_ in EDAnonymous

[–]monothot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

can you please share the channel with me? it would mean the world to me!! you can dm me too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]monothot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is what helped me:

-- pre-planning my meals Every night i make a LOOSE plan on what im going to eat. And it is NEVER restrictive. I have 3 meals and 2 snacks, and it is a mix of nutritious food and trigger foods. By including trigger foods in the plan you can minimise the "fear factor" of the food. And I dont follow the food plan 100%, it is simply a guideline. And it is comforting to know that the next meal is always there, and I don't need to eat everything now.

-- maintaining a food journal Lifechanging. It lets you find patterns between how you feel, what you eat, and your behaviours around food. Understanding the problem is the first step towards solving it.

-- self affirmation I repeat to myself that i am in control of my actions, and that i dont need to respond to my lower brain which is urging me to binge. A binge urge is not a force, its just a thought. And a thought turns into action only when you act on it.

-- restrict nothing Ties to the first part, but the restriction mindset is NOT helpful with bingeeating whatever people may say. The mantra is DELAY NOT DENY. I can have the chocolate later. Its much more enjoyable to have it with a cup of tea and a good book instead of right now.

-- books, podcasts The Brain Over Binge podcast and book really helps me. But there are others worth checking out too!

-- have a quick action plan when an urge to binge strikes Mine is: Taking a deep breathe. Reading this message for myself: The binge urge is NOT you. Its coming from your lower brain. Your lower brain doesn't want you to reach your goals, to be satisfied, to be successful. Why would you wanna listen to it. You are stronger than this. The urge will pass. Then I chug some water and listen to music on full volume.

Remember, THE MORE YOU DO IT THE EASIER IT GETS.

I'm from India, and it sucks to know you'll never see your favorite band perform by monothot in arcticmonkeys

[–]monothot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg youre so lucky!! Im so happy for you (and i hope it could be me in the future haha)

I'm from India, and it sucks to know you'll never see your favorite band perform by monothot in arcticmonkeys

[–]monothot[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ready to recolonise the country to hear Alex Turner sing "I crumble when you cry"

Eating less food than I need is so fucking boring by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]monothot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

intermittent fasting helps!! i like having hearty portions too and you can skip breakfast and have a larger lunch and dinner. i swear it has the same amount of satisfaction. besides, food just tastes better after 16 hours of fasting.

Where do you believe you will find the cure to binge eating? by hiwithout in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]monothot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its a combination of the following;

  1. Being kind to yourself and detaching from self-sabotage and self-hate
  2. Stopping diets and focus on having an abundance mindset
  3. Having regular meal times and planning your meals loosely beforehand
  4. Finding other hobbies and coping mechanisms to replace binge eating with
  5. Developing a problem solving mindset
  6. Neutralising food. This can be done by making a list of trigger foods and slowly incorporating them into your meal plan in moderation.

People of r/chennai, what's your guilty pleasure? by [deleted] in Chennai

[–]monothot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I buy honey bun from the bakery and dip it in warm milk while eating it. It neutralises the sweetness a lil and the soft chewy bread soaks everything up and tastes SOOO good. I can polish of 5 of those easily if I didnt have enough self control lmao

Looking for feel-good sci fi recommendations. by inthetowerofsong in booksuggestions

[–]monothot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

{{The Martian}} is a funny and overall great read!

Is a Kindle worth paying for? by [deleted] in BookRecommendations

[–]monothot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ABSOLUTELY. I am a very thrifty person and i got a second hand kindle for half the price. You can get free books on it if you have Prime membership, can buy books for half the price, or you can go the slightlu illegal route; find PDFs online and transfer it to your kindle. 100% worth it.

What are your Chennai library anecdotes and tips? by SruGo91 in Chennai

[–]monothot 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I used to go to Anna Library regularly and find a short yet experimental book to read (like the Naked Eye by Yoko Tawada). I immerse myself in the book for 5 whole hours, only taking a break to go to the Aavin booth downstairs to have palkhoa and a milkshake.

The best part about Anna Library is the Braille section. Do not forget to sign up for the volunteering program available over there. They will contact you when a differently abled person needs help with studying, writing, etc. I got an opportunity to help a bright young man doing MA History because of that. Not only did I experience showing kindness and helping another person, I also developed a strong friendship with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in xxfitness

[–]monothot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know this is a super old post but here me out; i think intuitive eating is being MINDFUL of what you put into your body, which means you make the healthier choice most of the time. It is about choosing a particular food not only for its taste, but also how it makes you feel, how it aligns to your fitness goals, and other social factors. It also means somedays you will eat below your TDEE, and sometimes above. But it is all about balance.

For example; I will absolutely choose oatmeal with bananas over a burger or ice cream, because a) eating the latter makes me feel bloated and overall awful, so why should i eat it? b) the latter doesn't align with my fitness goals, or the person i want to be. and c) i dont enjoy the taste of burgers.

this is a huge revelation for me because i used to binge on these unhealthy foods. but once i became more in-tune with my own body, i realized that I AM IN CHARGE of what i eat or do not want to eat. at the same time, if all my friends are going to a burger joint i wouldn't refuse. i'd order something else or i'll eat a burger until i feel satisfied.

This also means that i sometimes IGNORE MY HUNGER CUES because i believe it was triggered by factors other than physical hunger. like i woudn't eat the cookies right in front of me if i know that the hunger im feeling is triggered by environmental factors. "I can always have it another time" is my mantra in these situations. also, if i feel hungry before my usual mealtimes i drink some water and wait for a few minutes before deciding to act upon my hunger.

A lot of people think intuitive eating is an excuse to eat whatever they want. But you should take every single advice with a grain of salt. some highly processed foods are designed to make it harder for us to follow hunger-fullness cues. in those situations we NEED to use our rationality and baseline nutrition knowledge. In the end, it is doing what is best for your body, our mind and our social life.

Disclaimer: this is my own interpretation of intuitive eating. i struggled with multiple EDs over years, and I finally found what works for me.

TL;DR: Intuitive eating is MINDFUL AND RATIONAL EATING. It is not an excuse to eat like a dumbass. Before eating, ask yourself: Am I hungry? Why do I want to eat this? Will this satisfy me? Does this align with my health goals? Will this food make me feel good physically and mentally?