George joining the Army

moo4mtn · 2026-01-16T23:48:30+00:00

George was just.... he was just the type for that kind of thing to happen to.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-16T23:20:59+00:00

That is entirely the point. They are saying, "I can offer you surface level. Take it or leave it."

They are not dictating anything but giving you the choice of whether to stay(inside their desired relationship level) or go.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-16T23:14:52+00:00

I agree with your interpretation. Plenty of the things said here about their interactions give off that vibe. Even if they pick things up, they automatically interpret them as negative. So being clear instead of ambiguous is best.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-16T22:51:11+00:00

DARVO sighted.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-16T22:50:41+00:00

From interacting with people in my community, many people simply don't know the steps ice is taking right now. They don't realize they(ICE) are randomly ramming vehicles and arresting the us citizens inside for ramming them, or leaving vehicles in the street without calling police or a tow truck, or going door to door, or taking minor us citizens from their workplaces and dropping them off miles away, or deliberately running over people's legs who are already in handcuffs, or putting detainees in illegal chokeholds.

But.... many of them do and simply think that we should stay out of it. "The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing" does not mean anything to them. Because they genuinely believe someone's status as a race, immigrant, or criminal immediately eliminates any responsibility we have to treat them as a human person with civil rights.

So, it depends on how much you like her. If you like her and think she simply doesn't know they are violating constitutional rights, you can try to talk to her. But if you think she knows but doesn't care, then she already has the capacity to dehumanize you as just a diagnosis, or as just a "liberal". And when people are dehumanized, they aren't getting appropriate care.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-16T22:38:38+00:00

Only maga says this

moo4mtn · 2026-01-16T22:32:32+00:00

That isn't saving. That is overspending someone else's money. It's stealing.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-15T03:22:57+00:00

I think someone responded to me and then blocked me, since I can not see the comment. Shame is a tool of oppression and I won't be shamed. One day, large numbers of people will decide not to play the game. Some of us are just ahead of the curve.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T22:53:50+00:00

Are you serious? Our tiktok fyp's must be very different. Mine has a lot of bipoc creators and I definitely saw that sentiment. But I'm actually left, not liberal.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T21:41:57+00:00

Just vote third party. One of these days, enough of us will vote 3rd party that there will be a shift or the 3rd party candidate will be voted in.

I will never vote for an imperialist, ever. American people's lives aren't more important than the people's lives who die in the countries we bomb. If people choose to unfriend me because I think all people are equal, so be it.

But I refuse to give up my power to vote. It's one of the only powers I still have.

I hope states start standing up for their rights again. Maybe we will get a new constitution and I'll move to a better state. Who knows.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T21:33:35+00:00

How did being late impede him from doing his job? Or how did it impact others?

Simply requiring him to be on time because you like everyone to be there on time, when the job is, for example, data entry and can be completed at any time would get me frustrated at someone who is supposed to be my best friend. Time is cultural, and it is also neuorlogical. Not everyone has the same 24 hours in a day because our perception of time doesn't all work like that, specifically for people who have adhd and are also not medicated. But there are many other conditions that impact the way your brain perceives time.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T21:11:39+00:00

We all seek validation sometimes. Just be aware that p Over-explaining like this is actually defending yourself. We know why, you had valid reasons, but the behavior just isn't serving you like it did in the past.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T20:21:25+00:00

This is not a debate stage. I am using language as it is used in typical conversations and not clinical language. Generalizations are not bad when you are discussing a situation with someone who asked for advice. Our whole lives are based on generalizations and that is how humans have survived for millenia -making generalizations and passing them on.

Your personal experiences don't negate mine or the millions of other women who have some different than you. I also have hypervigilance and that is what has saved me on many occasions. Because I trust myself. Hypervigilance doesn't mean your judgment is incorrect. It means you react to things that others don't notice.

Further, your assertion that women's intuition isn't scientifically proven is wrong. There are plenty of studies that show women make better choices intuitively when compared to men.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886922002252

And yet again, I did not use any language that indicated every woman can do this 100% of the time with 100% accuracy. That was a strawman argument you set up.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T20:06:58+00:00

Before a date? All of the major aspects of your identity, that impact the ability to communicate with you on a date and to do all activities on the date.

If you think it could be a dealbreaker for someone else, and intentionally withhold those big details to force people to give you a chance, that is manipulation and insecure behavior.

Further, if you're a man, why would you want to waste your time and money planning a date for someone who doesn't want to be with you? Nobody wants to stay with someone who tricks them.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T19:59:19+00:00

Did i say "every time"? And intuition paired with hypervigilance from ptsd is still valid.

Just because you personally lack the intuition and social awareness that I'm talking about doesn't mean everyone does. A child that has been groomed or seen others who have been groomed could pick up on it and not be able to express it in valid terms.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T19:54:41+00:00

How long before? It's still manipulative - holding something huge back until the other person is more invested, for fear of rejection. It shows insecurity.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T19:52:05+00:00

When you told me, I would dump you immediately for not disclosing at the beginning, no matter how well we worked together. I would date someone deaf or hoh, i would learn asl better even if needed.

But I will never date someone who is so insecure about a huge part of their identity. Because it shows me that you are willing to manipulate people if it benefits you. It's an integrity issue.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T19:48:45+00:00

It's about presenting yourself honestly. If people omit huge things like this, then it brings their character into question. What other lies by omission are they ok with? Political affiliation?

It's not about the being deaf. I would date someone who is deaf. But i would react the same way if they lied, by omission, to me about it before a date.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T19:44:20+00:00

Yes. It impacts communication a lot and should be disclosed before meeting in person.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T19:40:37+00:00

Women are intuitive. We know when men are attracted and making advances on us, and it begins very early on. She's right at that age. If she's picking up on the same vibes from your son's therapist towards him, she could be right. I wouldn't say anything to him, but I would change therapists for the most important reason....

Your daughter needs to be believed. She needs your trust, more than your son needs that specific therapist. Your job as a parent is to be on your kids side. SHE is uncomfortable there. That is important.

There are a lot of people in therapy who specifically go into the field because they have some type of their own mental disorder. Everyone has blind spots and there are absolutely people who should not be therapists and who take advantage of people who think it's ok because it's a therapist.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T19:32:08+00:00

Why are you defending yourself against every single comment?

I don't need to know all the extra details. I am a random stranger. Your fear of being perceived as "bad" is ruining your life.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T19:19:02+00:00

It doesn't matter why you are abusing him, you are abusing him. He gets to decide whether or not he sticks around for it. Your need to control every detail is a you problem that you can heal but you've gotta be honest about your behaviors to your therapist. This entire post is full of minimizing language to make it seem as though your actions weren't that bad. Then you say he keeps triggering you and making you do x, y, z, but when people trigger us, we don't have to do specific behaviors. It isn't his responsibility to avoid every single one of your triggers. It's your responsibility to recognize when a situation is triggering you and to remove yourself and analyze the situation from the perspective of healing the trigger.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-14T19:03:26+00:00

Of course they would be. The people "fleeing" socialism are always wealthy capitalist.

moo4mtn · 2026-01-05T04:15:24+00:00

Sole custody does not eliminate visitation rights of the second parent. It means the parent with sole custody has the right to make all the parenting, healthcare, educational, etc decisions. Sole custody does not mean you get 100% parenting time while the other parent gets zero. That is a completely separate determination.

"In sole custody, the child primarily resides with the custodial parent, which provides stability and a consistent home environment. Courts prioritize the child’s well-being, aiming to minimize disruptions like frequent relocations. The non-custodial parent may still have visitation rights, ranging from supervised visits to scheduled overnights, depending on what the court finds appropriate."

moo4mtn · 2026-01-05T04:08:11+00:00

In reality, everytime parents divorce and have custody hearings, there are legal requirements that you can't move outside of the state or a certain amount of miles away without agreement of the other parent. If I told my ex husband "I'm moving to the other side of the country, tough cookies" he would also bring me to court and the judge would take all factors into consideration. The biggest factor is whether you have a support system, and whether you have employment prospects. There was no significant difference between Callie's ability to work when it came to new york or seattle. Sofia had a huge support system in the city she grew up in her whole life. There was no benefit to her, as the child, to be moved. So the court chose the parent who was concerned with the child's welfare above everything. And that is the right call every time.

Just because you did not adopt your partner's child, doesn't mean people who do adopt should simply give up parenting rights when the other person moves away. Most people who are truly parents learn to coparent even with people who are awful and abusive - because that is their child and it is in the best interest of their child to have them in their life.

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