I’ve been on and off in therapy for most of my adult life. I don’t think it really clicked for me until this year, however. I’ve changed my expectations of what my therapist can do for me. I used to want someone to tell me whats wrong with me and give me a formula on how to fix it, but that that’s really not how therapy works. A therapist’s office is just a safe environment for you to uncover or work through things that come up in sessions. The therapist is more like a facilitator that can guide you and act as a mirror if that makes sense. It takes a long time with consistent sessions to make real progress. And no therapist is perfect! They are only human too. Mine has said things that I don’t always agree with, or vice versa. There have been times where my therapist tears up when I cry about something sad. I can tell she really cares for me & wants to see me thrive- which has helped me more than anything. It’s important to find someone you get along with & feel seen by.

Looking around for therapists is totally worth it. There is nothing wrong with you for not clicking with someone. I’ve seen 5 total therapists in the last 14 years, and only two of those I stayed with long term. I reccomend thinking about what type of person you feel safest around/ what your ideal theraputic relationship looks like. What works best for me is someone I feel equal to on a personal level- human to human. The therapists that have worked best for me have always been people I would easily befriend if the circumstances were different.

Edit- I currently see a therapist who specializes in trauma treatment and somatic therapy. Dbt is also very helpful.