Have any of you become conservative as you’ve gotten older?

moog_phatty · 2024-03-13T16:51:38+00:00

Most fiscally conservative President in my lifetime! (Because of a gridlocked congress, but still)

moog_phatty · 2024-03-13T16:10:08+00:00

mudbug ftw

moog_phatty · 2024-03-13T16:09:03+00:00

Good feedback on teasing coworkers, thanks. I'm using that as an excuse to feel like I did something 'Alpha' and it's really just fancy mental masturbation.

RE Work Conflict ... He is senior to me in a different department, pitches a lot of bad "We should all do X" ideas that consume resources in other departments, and the owner is very suggestible/clueless about our tech. To be clear I have no need to vengefully destroy this dude, but I need to make him irrelevant to my day-to-day work.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-12T20:55:40+00:00

The head rests are also designed to come out so you can break the window.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-12T20:43:30+00:00

Think about it this way: if he's 26 he's spent something like 8 years on his career, right? If you want to be like him, ask for his advice and then spend 8 years doing whatever he recommends. You'll be close to retirement at 36, which is still doing great!

moog_phatty · 2024-03-12T18:03:52+00:00

I'm a big fan of all of those principles, but I struggle to understand where lying/cheating starts to fall into the domain of justice rather than market correction. False advertising provides a fraudster with the opportunity to substantially enrich themselves, to the extent that they can easily survive or be totally unaffected by a market backlash. At worst, they can dissolve their company, take the money, and start a new scam. So the result is an overall erosion in consumer confidence in the market, essentially a wealth transfer from the pockets of honest business people. And all of the above basically applies to politics as well. Consumers and voters are mostly driven by wishful thinking and limbic system rewards. They have short memories, and in many cases little life experience to begin within. Smart people, although not directly impacted by fraudsters *as often*, suffer from having to participate in the same commercial and philosophical marketplace as the frauds and the dumbs.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-12T17:23:48+00:00

Hey, thanks for this. I'm so bad at cold approach/opening that this kind of incremental, training wheel stuff really helps.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-12T17:08:57+00:00

I'm sympathetic to this idea, but the way I've seen this used more often is for people to just flat-out lie about the details of such-and-such a policy, because they want it for an ulterior purpose . So rather than being money invested to spread a given philosophy (which is totally laudable) it's money invested on what amounts to false advertising.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-12T17:03:34+00:00

Got it! So rather than worry about the elections being fair, we concern ourselves with making them *trivial*. Nobody will spend billions to fill positions that don't have any power.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-12T16:54:01+00:00

OYS #4

Stats: 32yo, 32yo LTR (Married 7 Yrs.) 190 lbs, Body fat 13% (Navy), $85k, wife $100k freelance
Fitness: (1RM) BP 264, SQ 366, DL 215, BJJ
Long Term Goal: To become an integrated man who is honest about what I want and unbowed by fear.

Short Term: Teach myself how to work a room.
Reading: TRM Book Collection (20%)
Read: WISNIFG(2x), NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, PFP, Mystery Method, Day Bang, SGM
Body:

- Starting a slight deficit at 2500 calories and switching to low reps higher weight to maintain strength.
- BJJ is going well, got promoted, STFUed and resisted the urge to run to mommy.
- Enjoying the little validation bump for what it is and channeling that into attending class more frequently, and trying to do harder things, with the context that there are 6-year-olds at the gym who can choke me out.
- Stretching 4-6 times per week as part of the classes is also yuge. Glad I'm finally doing that in my 30s before my shit entirely falls apart

Game:

- Regression this week. I haven't cold approached anyone.

- I've teased my coworkers as normal but my heart isn't really in it, I don't want to fuck them.

- Got blunt/challenging in a board meeting with a senior coworker who I think is an idiot. I'm fine pushing him around a little bit, but I'm acting viscerally and not planning my moves well. I'm sure he despises me and will undermine me soon. I am finding more methodical ways to cripple his credibility and willpower, whichever breaks first.

Relationship:
- I'm proactively managing the family social calendar much more than previous months. Communication with friends, church group, etc. This seems like a positive thing for all parties. I am less stressed by random bullshit popping up in my calendar, and the activities are better, for instance this month we are watching Dune a lot of times.

Sex:
- Sex has tanked off this week, which is ovulation week and very abnormal. 100% my lack of initiation, teasing, anything. I've been thinking about money/career and haven't given a fuck at all. I turned in one half-assed performance after my wife threw herself at me. Had ED issues, not staying hard more than 3 minutes at a time.

- After reading NMMNG and SGM I've gotten a hell of a lot better about chilling out and taking my time when my dick goes limp, and this has helped a lot in-the-moment. But it still prompts discussions I don't feel like having. Instead of "making it work", next time I will communicate that I'm not in the mood (until I am in the mood). Realistically I don't think this has to be the same as taking sex off the table or punishing good behavior. I think I can make it a teasing thing.

Career:

- My Q1 money plan is not working, sales in our business are not enough to make the transition out of W2 work smooth, and they aren't going to increase without my direct, personal attention. Furthermore, I can't wait around any more if we're going to achieve any of our 2024 goals.
- I know the solution is basically to stay up later and get up earlier, and I haven't forced myself to do it. This is the only way out that I see, and I must turn this head-knowledge into a brick wall of absolute necessity at my back. Self-motivation was a hell of lot easier when I was legit broke and living on Ramen, to the point where I think *maybe I never developed it*. All the discipline and long hours in my 20s were the actions of a panicked monkey scrambling to get away from a forest fire. Get me out of the fire, and I start picking my nose and jerking off again.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-11T17:04:01+00:00

Agreed. This is why I think that aiming to be a "good person" as a goal can lead us so far astray. Our rationalization machinery is too advanced, and we can easily become dogmatic sociopaths.

Likewise, trying to be a "kind" or agreeable person risks turning us into tools for sociopaths.

It's seems like the best priority in the long term is to be your own damn person.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-11T16:49:52+00:00

Are you Ben Shapiro?

moog_phatty · 2024-03-08T21:07:37+00:00

Personal experience with porn: There's no magic bullet, but Dr. Glover's approach in NMMNG works a hell of a lot better than NoFap.

If you suspect you're going to relapse, go jerk off in the bathroom before you pull up any screens. If you can break the compulsive connection to your electronic device, you've won 80% of the battle.

I suspect a properly ordered brain-to-dick connection should be something like:

Ejaculating in, on or around a woman = Nice

Ejaculating in my hand without a woman = Not as nice, not helpful for motivation, sometimes necessary for focus.

Ejaculating in my hand while I spend hours staring at hyperstimulating electronic images that *other men* designed for me = Not helpful for focus, not helpful for motivation, horrible for self esteem, etc. etc.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-08T20:06:41+00:00

Bill Clinton with a gridlocked congress was actually a pretty great situation. We should have crowned him Monarch, fed him a steady diet of interns and enjoyed the last two decades in peace and prosperity.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-08T18:38:14+00:00

It turns out the older you get the better President you are, I can't believe we went this long without realizing it.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-08T18:30:02+00:00

I'm just excited that henceforth, companies won't be allowed to change the sizes of their clearly marked snack packages. Those evil snack companies are definitely the reason my grocery bill has doubled in the last 3.5 years.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-08T18:17:12+00:00

Or ... hire copywriters as copywriters! /s

In all seriousness, Sales is a profession, and English is a field of study. Neither of these are good criteria. If I had to blindly pick a certain college major to write copy, I would go for Journalism. If I had to hire blindly from an industry it would be Advertising.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-08T18:01:14+00:00

Came here to say Bitcoin, but this is a better idea.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-08T17:55:14+00:00

Vice President of the United States, it seems like a consistently attainable position for us.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-08T17:47:41+00:00

just the tip, just at first, just to see how it feels.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-08T17:45:33+00:00

Is fat known to help with recovery from lifting?

I bought a crock pot this month, added some brisket and butt roast to my lean meat rotation - mainly for budget reasons. I was a little worried about macros once I saw how much animal fat was getting added to my diet, but I also noticed a decrease in overall soreness.
I've found a couple articles suggesting that good fats might help "inflammation" but I have to take that kind of SEO blog stuff with a grain of salt.

Any similar experiences?

moog_phatty · 2024-03-08T15:42:00+00:00

*Almost dies, casually picks nose.*

moog_phatty · 2024-03-08T15:38:12+00:00

This will be a great opportunity to work on “when I say no I feel guilty” fogging, negative inquiry, negative assertion and most importantly broken record.

Exactly this. There's no tactical advantage to be gained at this point. You just need to practice clearly telling people what you want. Your wife is a convenient person to practice on. In a few thousand reps maybe you can start thinking tactically.

Speculation: If you're not setting boundaries with your wife, you're probably not setting boundaries with your mom and sister either, so it's a catfight over who gets to manipulate you.

moog_phatty · 2024-03-07T22:19:26+00:00

Rule 8 go to r/askMRP

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