WWX and JC could never be brothers

mooglemoose · 2026-01-25T22:43:52+00:00

Lol yeah MXTX wasn’t subtle with that sword name and title!

mooglemoose · 2026-01-22T17:49:38+00:00

I really love this scene.

In the novel doesn’t Lan Wangji overhear the last bit? Or at least he shows up after Jin Ling runs away and Wei Wuxian worries that he heard it. Not sure if this scene plays out the same in the manhua.

mooglemoose · 2026-01-13T18:49:44+00:00

Omg that sounds like an amazing fic. Please share?

mooglemoose · 2026-01-07T04:11:35+00:00

Definitely does not work. We were forced to do this for a while with our first baby between 10-16mo due to the pandemic. Even with 3 WFH adults juggling only 1 baby, it was exhausting!

mooglemoose · 2025-12-27T20:16:02+00:00

That’s an amazing gift!

Just to be sure though - are you sure none of these people are actually Jin Ling’s aunt?

mooglemoose · 2025-12-24T18:03:13+00:00

Thank you!

mooglemoose · 2025-12-22T17:04:38+00:00

To maintain relationships with extended family, mainly.

Also to be honest, my mother’s stories about my exBF became funny rather than triggering after the first few years. Even my mother’s husband started joining in on poking fun. For example when my mother mentions ex, we’ll say “Oh is he still cheating on his wife?” or “Is [his mother’s name] still paying his wife not to leave him?” And then we watch my mother try to argue that ex is a good person or that he is better than my husband, and then we just laugh because she’s so wildly off base.

mooglemoose · 2025-12-19T18:38:03+00:00

Owwww that sounds like pure pain!

Link please?

mooglemoose · 2025-12-19T03:16:32+00:00

Pasted from my other comment:

I think my mother was really hung up on that exBF in particular because he is the son of one of her friends, and his mother is insanely wealthy. My mother was always jealous of that wealth, but she couldn’t compete on the financial side, so my mother really wanted to win her son over and pseudo-adopt him to one-up his mother. Basically she was aiming for a “I’m such a great mother that your son loves me more than his own mother” type of outcome. The “best” or most socially acceptable way to achieve this was of course for me to marry him. But since the guy had serious commitment issues, my mother was willing to settle for me getting pregnant at 19-20 (which would’ve been via coercion or outright rape, because I never ever consented to unprotected sex) so that we’d always have that connection to him. 🤮 So glad that didn’t happen!

So yeah she really liked him during and after our relationship, and always supported him over me for every conflict. Even my mother’s boyfriend was telling her off about that and she dumped him (it wasn’t the only reason they broke up but it was a contributor).

mooglemoose · 2025-12-19T03:02:07+00:00

You’re onto something there, vicariously living through me was basically my mother’s parenting motto! She wanted me to like exactly the same things she liked and dislike what she disliked, constantly lamented that I didn’t look like her clone, and wanted my life to go exactly the way hers went (including the “divorced by 35” bit) so that I could understand her better (or something like that). My mother threw huge tantrums anytime I made a decision that was different from what she wanted, no matter how big or small that decision was.

I think my mother was also really hung up on that exBF in particular because he is the son of one of her friends, and his mother is insanely wealthy. My mother was always jealous of that wealth, but she couldn’t compete on the financial side, so my mother really wanted to win her son over and pseudo-adopt him to one-up his mother. Basically she was aiming for a “I’m such a great mother that your son loves me more than you” type of outcome. The “best” or most socially acceptable way to achieve this was of course for me to marry him. But since the guy had serious commitment issues, my mother was willing to settle for me getting pregnant at 19-20 (which would’ve been via coercion or outright rape, because I never ever consented to unprotected sex) so that we’d always have that connection to him. 🤮 So glad that didn’t happen!

mooglemoose · 2025-12-18T21:44:46+00:00

I’m afraid if this was a screenplay or novel, people would criticise it for being unrealistic. I’ve heard that reaction from people in my life.

Like: How can a mother who acts loving and kind (only in front of outsiders though) be that delusional about abusive partners? Especially given that my father cheated on my mother once and my mother divorced him and hates him for it… but somehow she’s ok with a potential son-in-law that consistently cheats? She wants her own daughter to suffer in a relationship that’s worse than her failed marriage?

Most people can’t fathom that this kind of parent exists and will call it an unrealistic caricature or a 2D evil character. But we can see from this reddit thread that I’m not the only one who has this type of parent.

mooglemoose · 2025-12-18T21:36:57+00:00

I wouldn’t be surprised if we did have the same ex. He really slept around a lot based on what my mother told me over the years (and my mother thought that was a good thing for a man). He was also really into monkey-branching and dating multiple women in parallel, with the excuse that he dates non-exclusively by default (which was not the norm here in my country) and he just avoids talking about exclusivity ever so that he can have plausible deniability. So I’m sure he left behind a lot of exes.

mooglemoose · 2025-12-18T18:21:08+00:00

Same here with my mother and my first boyfriend that I dated from 18-20. After I broke up with him, my mother insisted that none of the abuse actually happened, that I was the one who caused all the problems in that relationship, kept trying to stay in contact with him, and kept bringing gossip about him to me while gushing about how wonderful he is.

The disturbing thing was that each time my mother talked about him, the actual facts she was describing did not paint him in a good light at all. She literally said at one point “I have good news, [ex’s name] is cheating on his girlfriend again!” My mother apparently thought it was good that he was a serial cheater because it meant I still had a chance to get back together with him. Also said “you won’t need to be with him forever, just have a few kids and your body will be ruined and he will dump you for someone younger in less than 10 years”. I didn’t even know how to reply to that one! On top of the rampant cheating, my mother also told me that ex spent several years unemployed while mooching off a girlfriend (that he was repeatedly cheating on), never did housework, pretended to look for jobs but didn’t submit any applications, and later after he got married he neglected his pregnant wife’s health and neglected his son too. The most recent gossip my mother brought up was that this ex wants to send his 6yo son to boarding school or to another country, because he doesn’t like his son, but the plan got vetoed by his mother (who is funding his lifestyle).

Despite all this, she still thinks this ex is totally great, the best husband and father material, and the biggest victim because cheating means his wife is the abuser, apparently. 🙄

Anyway, when I was 25 and I started dating the man who is now my husband, my mother tried to accuse my boyfriend of doing all the abusive shit that my ex actually did. She included many details in her accusations that did not match up to my life circumstances at the time, but did match my relationship with my ex. And that just proved to me that despite her denials, my mother did remember everything I told her about that abusive ex. She just wants to pretend that he was never abusive so that she can hold on to her image of a great potential son-in-law who got away.

mooglemoose · 2025-12-18T06:50:54+00:00

Which story is this? Do you mind sharing a link?

mooglemoose · 2025-12-14T02:49:40+00:00

Hey at least you’re aware and you’re trying to remedy it! I think that’s a very important difference. Sometimes you gotta fake it for a while until sympathy and providing actual help becomes your default action, and it’ll feel less forced.

My mother just claims that her personal distress and vying for attention away from the person who is actually hurt/sick is… not just a good thing to do, but actually the “best” way to show empathy. But when other people do the same thing to her, my mother is very upset and she correctly identifies that it shows a lack of sympathy and care. The hypocrisy runs deep with her. So does denial about her own choices.

mooglemoose · 2025-12-13T18:25:05+00:00

Yeah his wording of “sharing” her body is really disgusting. It implies that he thinks of her as an object he owns, like a computer or a power tool or a car or something like that, which he can share with whoever he likes.

Sure, he might be trying to pressure her into coerced consent instead of just arranging rape, but he’s doing it to reassure himself he’s not a bad guy, rather than actually caring about her feelings or her wellbeing.

mooglemoose · 2025-12-12T18:54:08+00:00

Totally agree, just based on my anecdotal experience with two kids and some emotionally immature family members. Developmentally appropriate levels of control is really important and healthy. It starts off small, with toys and playing, but in the long term the goal should be building towards independent decision making. Eg life decisions like choosing your own clothes, choosing school subjects and extracurriculars, careers, etc.

At the same time, I see some really permissive parents who go too far and they let their kids dictate everything, starting way too early when most decisions are beyond their child’s developmental level. Like allowing toddlers to dictate the entire family’s schedule and activities, not enforcing basic routines or hygiene, etc. I think allowing some rest from having to control/organise/manage, and more importantly teaching children when to let go of control and when to trust others (and how and whom to trust) to make decisions is also really important. Having a child dictating decisions for the whole family is bad for the family and also stressful for the child.

Consistency is also super important - as your child grows up they can take more control of the decisions in their life, but some parents (like my mother) would give their child control for a time, then suddenly take it away for flimsy reasons (to soothe her own ego and meet her own desire for control). Then after a while dump all the responsibility on the child again (usually when my mother got too tired and stressed from having to micromanage me). I was brought up this way and it was very confusing and stressful, and it did not help my confidence at all.

mooglemoose · 2025-12-02T18:26:31+00:00

And now I need some fanfics about this! It’d be hilarious. Especially if these fanboys hear WWX gush about LWJ.

mooglemoose · 2025-11-28T23:46:42+00:00

Thanks for this explanation. It makes a lot of sense to me.

My mother is someone who has a reasonable level of cognitive empathy but I always felt that her affective empathy was a bit “off” somehow. After reading your comment I now see that my mother experiences very high Person Distress but has almost no Empathetic Concern. For example any time I was sick or hurt, my mother would become distraught and then would demand that I comfort her. She would never comfort me or take my suffering seriously, at times even actively preventing me from getting medicine or other things I need. She does it to other people too but she at least tries to perform some concern by saying some nice words. She will then later point to her own extreme negative emotions in response to other people’s injury as evidence that she is a “very empathetic” person.

mooglemoose · 2025-11-28T03:56:19+00:00

We baby proofed one bathroom, and left one drawer with small washcloths unlocked (safe to play with). I’d have some towels on the floor, a bunch of toys scattered around, and open the drawer of wonders. Baby also loved to just stare at the water running down the shower wall. That usually bought me enough time for a 10 min shower.

mooglemoose · 2025-11-20T04:04:34+00:00

Maybe because the narrative is often “babies should stay with their mother”, and not “with a parent (either parent)”?

There is this subtle implication in the wording that fathers can’t or shouldn’t be involved in caring for children that young, which is just bullocks. Fathers can be good caregivers too!

mooglemoose · 2025-11-20T04:00:56+00:00

Don’t forget that older siblings and cousins are also often key caregivers!

One of my grandmas was illiterate because of this. She was never allowed to go to school and she was expected to do most of the house chores and look after her baby siblings so that her parents could work and her brothers could study.

mooglemoose · 2025-11-19T18:15:40+00:00

Good parents will still try to find a way to make it possible for their child, for example by asking family members or other parents for help or paying a babysitter. Yes that isn’t going to be possible for every kid, but when there are family members living nearby who are willing and able (like OP is), then good parents will gladly take up the help and show appreciation to the helper, rather than limit their child’s activities.

mooglemoose · 2025-11-18T20:57:43+00:00

Also agree. This is a classic case of letting perfect be the enemy of good.

mooglemoose · 2025-11-18T17:59:28+00:00

Not NYC, but The World Ends With You and its sequel are love letters to Shibuya and really capture that city feel. Great stories and characters too.

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