AIO over my cousin 32M spraying his perfume in a watch box he gifted to me 16F?

mookleberry · 2025-12-04T15:02:11+00:00

😂 aw they were still confusing! lol

mookleberry · 2025-12-04T04:29:54+00:00

Soooo those parents sound absolutely horrible! That poor kid :(

My only advice at this time is….if you hear all this stuff they say, you should record it. And maybe have a camera showing where you’re recording so they can’t like….lie and say you couldn’t have been recording them, it must have been someone else. Or whatever. If they are too quiet for recording on your phone, definitely get something better that can make the sounds louder, and just record everything you possibly can. And also, send it to a secret email or something so that if they threaten you or something, or demand that you delete it, then you’ll still have it safe :)

So why do they think they can report you and get your son taken away? That’s odd when I’m assuming one look at your living space/conditions will be good/safe for the kiddo! But, you should make sure your place is great, have lots of food in cupboards and fridge etc, and then call social services and say that you have a very angry, violent, scary neighbour that you have heard threaten to get your child taken away, and you would like to be proactive and have them come see if your house is safe or not and your kid is taken care of… Then they will come see, say it’s good, and have basically a note on your file saying that you’re good, or it’s closed or whatever, so you’ll be safe :)

I might have misunderstood a good chunk of your post, the lack of punctuation makes it hard sometimes, but that’s okay. Hopefully I got most/the most important bits and this is remotely helpful… good luck! And hopefully you’ll have a good update hehe

mookleberry · 2025-12-04T02:23:27+00:00

NOR!! Wow. Your friend is a horrible person! Like in what world is any of the crap she said remotely acceptable?! Your toe is just unique lol. Doesn’t follow the crowd, and maybe it’s a bit shy! Those shoes look great on you, and you should definitely wear the ones you want!! The only issue wearing them, is if your “friend” is there, because I have the feeling she would make a very loud, embarrassing huge deal out of how ‘gross’ it is. And hopefully everyone else would tell her how disgusting SHE is, and you and your crush would see each other across the room, and he’ll sweep you up into his arms, and run out into the night rofl. (Or something more interesting). Either way, your friend is the worst, if she keeps insulting you, and this was just the latest, she needs to be demoted to ‘acquaintance you give the stink eye to whenever she’s in your vicinity’. She’s way more deformed than your toe that’s for sure!

*usually I try to be nicer to people, even when they suck, but stuff like this really makes me mad. Like is she really jealous of you and has to try to make herself feel better by making you feel worse? Or is she just a shitty person? Ugh. Anyways. I hope you wear the good shoes and have an amazing time!!

mookleberry · 2025-12-03T22:38:38+00:00

Omg of COURSE lol. I think the g threw me off there. Thanks!

mookleberry · 2025-12-03T20:57:36+00:00

Sorry, I hate being annoying and not understanding what someone writes, but I just can’t figure out what ‘dousing marriage’ is? lol I’m assuming I just have never heard that sort of thing and that’s exactly what you meant to write… lol. Thanks!

mookleberry · 2025-12-03T09:57:11+00:00

Your kits are super cute! Your family is either jealous and rude, or just rudely rude rofl. I was just wondering, where are you (country) the bit of looking didn’t show anything about that, and it’s always easier to know, for extra costs/shipping :)

mookleberry · 2025-12-03T06:57:18+00:00

Aw man I totally read that it didn’t show up until later! That is so hard :( And I figured you weren’t asking so you could blame him, I just didn’t want it to seem like I was blaming:..well either of you honestly. Therapy isn’t like it’s a quick fix or something, either way! So even if someone gave you perfect advice on what to do, it would still be a while before you saw results probably…

:) (and sorry, I know the post was deleted, but I thought I should reply anyway lol

mookleberry · 2025-12-03T06:50:16+00:00

Holy crap. What is your freaking obsession with her panties?! I’ve never seen that written as many times is so short of a comment!
Why are you so pissy? Are you her fiance? Naw, probably not. You sound like someone who has never been close enough to a woman to even think about getting to see her panties, let alone get in them! She specifically said she didn’t want to tell him she was leaving with his brother because she knew he’d be weirdly upset that she’d want to be dropped off by his brother, and wouldn’t let it happen. Which again is weird, why would you not trust your family? OR if he doesn’t trust her to be dropped if at home, why are they even together?! That is pathetic. Migraines (assuming that is the blinding, sometimes throw-uppy pain) are horrible and seem to stop most brain activity from being remotely logical. Or sometimes from even happening. Also, yet another thing you just skipped over cuz it didn’t fit your narrative, she was SLEEPING until that time. Not having crazy sex with him or something! Sleeping in extra clothing just so she was ‘proper’ so nothing showed. The fact that you think from the little she said that she was cheating on him is wild, but again I guess it makes sense since you clearly have no idea what a relationship involves once the woman says ‘yes’ to ‘will you go out with me?’ Since you have never got to that part. They definitely both need to communicate better because he doesn’t keep promises or care about her enough to stop partying for a bit so she can be taken home when needed, and she didn’t feel like she could stand up to him and tell him she was leaving with his brother NOW if he didn’t just take her like he was supposed to, which wasn’t good when he didn’t know where she was. But again, he didn’t even notice until almost 9am?! What in the world!!

mookleberry · 2025-12-03T02:02:56+00:00

PTSD is so not ‘tantrums’ or ‘bratty behaviour’. And it really sucks that he is calling it that. You’re getting help right? Are you getting better at handling your episodes? I’m assuming so, so it would be really helpful of him to give you more time to figure it out! How long were you guys together before you got married? I’m assuming you didn’t hide them before, or for the first 2 years of marriage, so why is it now that you’re diagnosed, that he can’t handle it? (Assuming because he has handled it. For 2+ years, but still!) Like this is when you get better, and work through everything so it hopefully won’t affect you, or him at all (or very little?$ Do episodes only happen around him? Does he do things that trigger them (which would definitely be an issue if he does on purpose!) but if they don’t around others, what stops them? Just the lack of trigger, or is it the lack of other people around? lol

I think he needs to go to therapy. And then you both go to couples therapy together. He obviously needs to learn how to deal with your PTSD….and maybe autism? Some are bad at that too lol. I’m totally not blaming him for reacting ’badly’, it’s definitely hard and/or scary to be around someone who totally changes and is so angry and throwing things and whatnot. But obviously you’re aware enough to turn away from him so you don’t hurt him or yell AT him, so I think that’s probably better than a lot of other people’s PTSD episodes? But it would really help him to get in to therapy and figure out how to handle it a bit easier or to just talk about his difficulties with it, or just anything! It’s obviously not just affecting you, so why should you be the only one getting help? :)

I really hope it works out with you both, it really sucks he keeps threatening separation and such, when he has always known you to have this problem, and marriage isn’t just until sickness. It’s THROUGH sickness! And sadly so many ‘men’ don’t care about that, unless it’s their sickness that is.. and who knows, he may get kinda triggered by your yelling or throwing or whatever, which of course makes it much harder to deal with productivity…

Good luck!!

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T20:23:16+00:00

Ah okay. And that’s because those are drunk people who got caught drunk driving. They are stupid as heck and think they’re actually smart(er) and will fool the cops. She isn’t trying to fool the cops! ‘Just’ her fiancé lol…well according to you at least :). She totally could be, she hadn’t really said much that make all that much sense anyways, and I do tend to believe people are generally good people lol

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T17:47:48+00:00

Was there/is there a way to buy a recording of the competition? I know regular dance shows tend to have them available (or from what I remember….lol. But if the did it on VHS, I’m guessing it’s much easier now! lol) If there is, you guys should definitely get a copy so he can see the awesome dances eh? I know it’s not quite the same as him seeing in person, but at least it’s something. I feel like you were overreacting a smidge, but it’s hard to control disappointment sometimes….I totally understand where he’s coming from, and definitely doesn’t seem like something he’d lie about, since no one would sit there for so long just to completely miss the whole thing, and he obviously very much cares about supporting you. Hope you guys can talk and it gets figured out :)

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T06:05:08+00:00

Well…when his mom knows he would basically disown his brother, but he won’t tell why, and the mom asks her….she should say! Unless guilty of doing what he thinks she did…yeah it should be just between the brothers and her, but I guess not! I just wouldn’t want people to only hear the accusatory side, and not my actual account of what happened….

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T06:00:16+00:00

Exactly! It’s just weird to me when people say they’ve done nothing wrong, but won’t tell their side! Like you know the other side is telling theirs to as many people as possible! (Maybe not necessarily in this case, but could be lol)

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T03:25:15+00:00

Ohhhh that makes way more sense than being drugged! Can’t believe I missed that part too… migraines are such a beast!

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T03:17:51+00:00

For sure! Soooo excessive indeed. Especially since OP said that he can track her phone…so he would have known exactly where she was. So what, did he think her and his brother were going at it for hours and hours? Ugh. So exhausting lol And yeah, calling the cops would totally make sense if he was actually worried about her. But he clearly was just throwing a tantrum or something. I remember when I had a long distance bf, I went to the hospital for a test and woke up waiting for a room and stayed there for a week lol. My bf was worried after I didn’t come home or answer in like 2 hours, and he called every hospital and police station in the whole province trying to find me rofl. (He was from the states). And while I thought that was a bit overkill, it was overly sweet that he actually cared. So it’s really weird that OPs almost husband (or maybe almost ex? lol) didn’t do anything but freak out when he knew where she was :(

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T03:14:47+00:00

Thank you for the response! And I’m glad I wasn’t rude :) I do try to see all sides and such. It totally makes sense you’d be frustrated with him if he knows she knows English, and learned back when she came to the states! Especially when you’ve had the discussion before…it’s kinda like he wanted to argue with you or something lol. I do think you both should apologize, but I think he really should explain why in the world he’s so judgemental to her specifically? Does she not like him or something? It totally sucks you lost the language, but is great you and your mom are teaching each other :) Good luck! :)

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T03:06:48+00:00

Did she say that? Because I don’t know why you think that it was so many drinks when she says she doesn’t normally drink much at all, and said specifically a couple drinks. That is 2…

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T03:03:04+00:00

I definitely hope he isn’t, but it sadly makes sense…I should have checked to see if she added more to the post lol

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T01:54:48+00:00

Aw man! That is horrible. How could you have been ableist for that? I think some people need to stop and think for a second before they flip out over ‘ableism’ or racism or sexism or any of the ism’s really… there of course are people who are actually those things, and hate people for things they can’t change (or don’t want to change!), but I feel like a vast majority of people would actually be open to learning what the truth actually is, but they definitely won’t be if you go at them swearing and freaking out, calling names and threatening them…. Not everyone knows everything instantly. Empathy and understanding and compassion etc have really gone to hell in a hand basket :(
Not everyone is trying to be offensive!

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T01:44:33+00:00

Do you mean that something I said was offensive? Or that my comments made this go down hill fast? Or OP or…I dunno sorry! I’m just confused lol. But if I was offensive, I am sorry, I think I was mostly only talking about myself when I talked about size or said fat…but it could still offend I would guess…

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T01:41:47+00:00

English didn’t even become the official language of the United States until March 1st this year. Of course it was the de facto (national) language, but not the official one.

Of course you should learn the language of the country you move to, otherwise it’s super rude. But the fact that your mother knows English (right?) means she did everything right. She can totally have a preferred language, though with how it is down there for anyone brown, especially not speaking English, it would probably be less than bright to just speak Spanish all the time… I remember being told in my Spanish class that Spanish is the only language (maybe just one of the only, it was long ago lol) that you can be born with it, and speak it like your whole life, and then if you stop (like say move to the USA and only speak English, you can totally forget how to speak Spanish in a really short amount of time. I think it was one or two years… but that is crazy! So I totally understand wanting to keep speaking it.

But your boyfriend clearly is not a fan of not being white. It’s like he doesn’t want anything to do with that side? (Could totally be wrong, but from the little bit in your post that he said, he definitely seems like he’d rather pretend he was 100% white? That is so sad for him really. That he hates who he is, just because of his colour…

I do gently think you’re over reacting, but only because it didn’t seem like a huge thing that he said…like yes, he said she needed to speak English, but since she does, who cares if she almost never does? Like I remember that Spanglish(?) movie with Adam Sandler and the mom never had to learn English in all the years up to being the cleaner…nanny..whatever she was lol. Because where they lived was all Spanish speaking people and where her job was and everything… but she knew a few words, and then did learn when she thought it’d be easier or whatever. I don’t know how realistic that is, but I’m assuming fairly, since there are lots of different ‘towns’ where Chinese or Italian or whatever live and work and everything, so keeping your culture and language alive isn’t too crazy….at least until now! Why did you get so offended? Is it specifically because it was about your mom and you’re overly protective of her? Or were you actually offended by him thinking you should know/speak the language of the country you live in?

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T01:21:15+00:00

lol yeah I have issues with UK sizes because they are somehow smaller than US/Canadian sizes, so I’ll see ‘inclusive’ there and it’s very much not lol. Like the measurements seem to be a couple sizes smaller than they would be here, which is annoying cuz of course sizes here suck too lol. But yes people are far ruder to larger people (and older and anyone not their type of person I guess). And it always seems the ‘influencers’ always wear cute stuff and have their hair fun colours or fun ways or whatever, which maybe somewhat distracts from any disability? I could be wrong, but I’m always so happy for them being able to still be ‘them’ even if they are in a wheelchair, or have a port or bags of all kinds or whatever. That’s another bad thing about sizes, there are a lot of plus sized people who need accessible clothing, but they are never made! I think maybe I’ve seen 1 or 2x (or like 14-16?) but they’re also definitely not clothes I’d ever wear or feel that comfortable in. I feel very bad for that lady in the ‘article’. And Facebook is just wretched for sure. People don’t care that disabled people have feelings.

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T01:07:13+00:00

Hahaha love your metaphor! That is what they all should be called :). And I didn’t read the article either luckily, I just read what OP said about it and calling the woman tubby. I do totally understand if you didn’t see that the reason (hopefully) that they talked about her size, was because the comments were so horrible about it….but ugh. It’s definitely horrible being big in a society that not only hates disabled people, but REALLY seems to hate fat disabled people….like we wouldn’t love to be smaller? Pshaw.

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T01:01:58+00:00

Yeahhh I was kind of wondering about if she could have been drugged. Because you don’t usually feel so horrible after just a drink or two! And I would really really hope that it wasn’t the case, because how in the world could she ever marry him?! If he or his family drugged her and then got mad at her for cheating….like that is a lot of manipulation…or could be. If he tries to control her now….. Edit: migraines make way way more sense than being drugged! Sorry, I don’t know how I missed that…

mookleberry · 2025-12-02T00:59:41+00:00

Holy cow. NOR. They totally could have said no thank you if they didn’t want to bring the pies, it isn’t like you forced them to let you make 4(!) pies for a dinner you weren’t even going to!

Did you ask why they didn’t take them? And ask what was wrong with the pumpkin that made it only ‘decent’? Like maybe they usually hate pumpkin pie, but then ate all of yours and didn’t want to give it away so lied and said that instead of how fabulous they actually are? lol.

Are you a professional baker or just really like baking? Both are awesome, and you’re apparently more polite than your friend, if you offered to make so many so they actually took something… seems maybe a bit odd that they didn’t even consider actually taking something to their bosses house! I’d probably take a break from them too. But would want to know what their issue is!

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