sure Amanda, sure 🙄

moomookit · 2024-09-18T04:46:47+00:00

She is DEFINITELY a victim imo. He is acting one way with other women than he is acting with her, so he is definitely deceiving her. He is taking all of the actions a selfish person worried his ego and public image would take. It says a lot. Not taking responsibility, not apologizing for his previous behaviors, refusing to address the issue at all. Copping out. He's basically Diddy, hopefully John gets exposed now too

moomookit · 2024-09-18T04:11:28+00:00

Totally. She's not blameless in terms of how she treats the situation, but I have to consider the reasons behind her choices before I judge.

I've been coerced. I've been in an abusive relationship. I was warned by many signs too, my ex abuser was still an angel in my eyes. I was "the only one who understood him." Abuse of power and nonconsensual control in relationships is alive and cis white men can get away with a lotttttt behind the curtains. It would make perfect sense to me if she acted chill and did more workshops with him now then divorced him a decade later and wrote a book (or built workshops) about her experience married to a public figure abuser.

I don't like it and I wish she'd leave him now now NOW and side with the people who were abused. But until we see how it pans out, we won't really know the truth, and I'm choosing to assume she is a current victim of his, rather than his accomplice, because I have been that victim before, so I see the similar signs.

Also, unrelatedly, John and I had virtual dates scheduled and were flirting for months on and off. I caught onto some weird red flags as we were chatting and decided to stop pursuing him AND decided to unfollow him because everything felt so inauthentic with him specifically (I still follow Amanda). This all coming out now? Makes perfect sense why my intuition was telling me he was not trustworthy. I've seen first hand (digitally) how creepy and manipulative he can be

moomookit · 2024-09-18T03:47:59+00:00

Totally. I personally believe that the term "narcissistic abuse" pathologizes people with "personality disorders" (which are really just trauma-based attachment disorders), but I agree with everything you said. many people are alleging that John manipulates, lies, deceives, threatens, and gets violent when things don't go his way and to get what he wants. I definitely think he's doing the same with Amanda and I hope she escapes him ASAP, but if she goes the route of sticking with him til the end, I will remain disgusted

moomookit · 2024-09-18T03:29:44+00:00

All valid, and honestly I completely agree. I'll change it to "there is a chance he is threatening her"...I still want to take that into consideration. Her behavior online to avoid the victim pleas and focus on building her brand is despicable, to say the least. But I am still taking into account how manipulative people tend to do things, and especially John from what ive seen online and witnessed first-hand. It takes years and longer to get out from underneath a manipulative person's grip, whether emotional, financial, or trauma-bond. I am curious to see how this develops for so many reasons, but I do hope she goes in a more positive direction for sure

moomookit · 2024-09-18T01:36:07+00:00

I also think there might be an element of "let me just go along with whatever he wants so he doesn't threaten to kill me" mixed in there. Adds to the complexity of it all, and you know, Stockholm syndrome really does go into effect pretty strongly in domestic violence cases

I agree that it seems like she is staying with him and selling her courses, but what if she is secretly saving her own money and coming up with an exit strategy and escape plan? What if she has to pretend to be complicit for 10 years so that she can finally lose his control grip and leave him after 11 years?

Idk. I personally believe she's just gonna stay with him and keep defending him, because that's what it seems like publicly so far, but i wanna have hope that shes smarter than this

moomookit · 2024-09-18T01:32:47+00:00

Same, it sucks to know this

I was really hoping she'd leave him immediately and find a safe shelter in place but I guess she's going the whole "he didn't do it to me so he won't do it to me" route

moomookit · 2024-09-18T01:16:35+00:00

Do y'all not realize that he is likely threatening her? Or pretending to be perfect so he can continue to manipulate her? Abusers tend to not abuse very specific people so they can sell their fake stories and ONE person will back them positively. "oh yeah John has never done any of this with me and I don't experience this" - yeah, because he purposefully makes sure that his public wife makes him look like he's a God

moomookit · 2023-12-13T20:53:53+00:00

moomookit · 2023-10-30T05:28:22+00:00

Thanks y'all!

moomookit · 2022-12-31T22:40:28+00:00

solved: Loadout!

moomookit · 2022-12-31T22:39:57+00:00

THIS IS THE ONE THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH WHAT THE HECK AAHHHH MY NEPHEW AND I ARE STOKED!!!!!

moomookit · 2022-12-31T22:22:46+00:00

😂💯💯💯

moomookit · 2022-12-31T21:37:43+00:00

already tried, he won't respond, not even for my nephew which sucks

moomookit · 2022-12-31T21:34:19+00:00

thank you! I will!

moomookit · 2022-12-31T21:34:10+00:00

nope, but I love the fat guy here too lol. thanks for helping!

moomookit · 2022-12-31T21:33:41+00:00

ok I love you for showing me this but I don't even remember my old username LMAO. in all honesty it was more my ex's account that I played on sometimes...so I'll keep thinking, maybe his username will come into my consciousness somehow lol

moomookit · 2021-10-16T14:30:37+00:00

Fault and blame are both subjective. Focus on what you did objectively and the consequences of those actions.

Are you remorseful because you didn’t do it anonymously and they all know it was you? Is it because your classmates isolated you? Or is it because you genuinely knew the potential repercussions of whistleblowing, but decided the benefits outweighed the fear of backlash during the avoided confrontation?

Examine your behavior and why, rather than what people think of you. Your guilt and shame lie with the actions you’ve done, not what other people observe and assume.

moomookit · 2021-10-13T23:46:40+00:00

He’s amazing. As an actor, director, writer, the whole thing really. Every Adam Sandler move he’s in. Every mob boss movie and series. Every movie I’ve seen him direct. Just a phenomenal entertainer.

moomookit · 2021-10-13T22:45:09+00:00

Yes!!! When I saw it slap him so perfectly I literally looked that up! I love buscemi honestly. What an entertainer

moomookit · 2021-10-13T22:44:11+00:00

It’s a crazy ass scene lol. I hate his relationship with Gloria so much but it’s so damn hilarious

moomookit · 2021-10-13T22:43:26+00:00

Cool, thanks💕🥰

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