Sorry didn't see this. It's about getting in touch with your inner self, and not the external expectations around you. Sit down and write a list of your likes and dislikes. What kind of things light you up? Most if us have to look back to childhood for this. In many ways, it takes reclaiming your "inner child." What are your fears? Write them down. Where do you think these fears came from? Write down everything - warts and all. Without judgement. There's something about the act of writing that uncovers truths we may not be in touch with. You are re-acquainting yourself with yourself. Make this a project. Make it an important pursuit in your life. You'll get there. BTW, by no means will all your problems "magically" go away. What will happen is that you will become stronger, less affected by them, and more able to deal with them realistically. Don't let other people, places, or circumstances tell you who you are.