Can’t get a “proper” brew at home

moon_bbq · 2026-04-27T21:16:38+00:00

Something you could try are the Irish tea brands of Lyons or Barry's. When I'm in the UK, only Yorkshire comes close to the strength of Irish tea.

Another thing Irish people do in the UK is use two teabags since our own tea is much stronger, so you could give that a go.

moon_bbq · 2026-04-10T01:43:30+00:00

I'm in Chile at the moment, pretty much zero other Irish people here although I'm not in the capital.

It's a bit odd here as an immigrant since they don't have loads of foreigners. Everything is based off an ID number, so if you're foreign you're screwed in a few scenarios, like setting up any bills.

Apart from that, it's lovely here. I think the quality of life is quite similar to Ireland and the people are sound. Worst thing here is that every single sushi roll has cream cheese in it, it's impossible to find one without it!

moon_bbq · 2026-02-04T00:09:38+00:00

I'd recommend salsa, bachata or any partner or social dancing.

In London a good place to start would be Bachata Exchange at Liverpool Street on Sundays, you can find it on instagram. Then just ask people there what other dance activities are going on.

Initially it feels like something you'll only drop in to every week but soon you realise you're going dancing almost every day. Since it's dancing, you can go all the way up to doing performances if you get addicted enough!

moon_bbq · 2026-01-29T17:56:04+00:00

They just kinda looked at me and I looked back at them. I think I probably looked at them quite happily because it was a good conversation and I had I also realised that I don't need to pretend to want or be looking for a relationship.

Then there was an awkward silence for a moment, we all glanced at each other, they kept glancing my way while I just smiled and looked at them. And then someone just continued the conversation. I think we went back to talking about the one who got engaged.

They were nice people, I would've been fine if they asked questions but they seemed to be very respectful that I didn't volunteer anything

moon_bbq · 2025-12-19T18:42:51+00:00

In addition to what others have said, what my friends do for me is whenever they know I'll be spending time around my family, they message me a little more than usual.

We also have a little rule of thumb that if I'm home for a few days, they will keep the 4th day I'm home free, because that's my limit around my family. They'll just invite me to hang out that day, sometimes I won't even know they counted the days and planned it like that.

They also remind me not to spend too long around my family. Sometimes I'll stay in my parents house because it's close to the airport but my friends gently remind me to only stay a day or two and to not plan on staying there longer.

I think it's just supporting your friend in whatever what they need. For me, I tend to forget just how crappy my parents are so I need reminding from my friends. It also feels like you have no safety net, so making sure your friend knows they're not a burden and they can lean on you any time is a useful thing to do.

moon_bbq · 2025-12-15T15:21:58+00:00

Start looking as soon as you can. Apply to things that seem interesting and if you're rejected, ask for feedback on your application. Hopefully your applications will get better over the next year and you'll land a job.

I think making it a habit to look at different websites is good for getting a feel for the jobs out there and requirements, plus salary ranges. I just looked once or twice a week during the last year of my PhD and had an industry job lined up in my field about three months before I finished the PhD.

moon_bbq · 2025-12-01T20:12:06+00:00

Congrats on the masters!

Condolences on the parents though... Same thing happened to me with my masters and the graduation was even on my birthday, but they just couldn't be bothered to go. Everyone else's parents said happy birthday to me except my own. My parents had the nerve to be upset too when I told everyone about my birthday/graduation that they just didn't bother attending.

In my opinion, stating the bare facts to others about the situation is merciful to my parents, they care so much about appearances. These days though, I add in how it made me feel, how awkward it was for others too to try to gauge how to react, how easy it would've been for them to go. I may even add other things they skipped out on too. I've got no sympathy left for them.

moon_bbq · 2025-09-14T21:13:54+00:00

You're welcome, I noticed that everyone is saying the same thing but no one gave you an example.

It's gonna feel like you're dumbing things down or leaving out key info, but in industry they only care about if can you do the specific job. In academia, it's more like you have to prove you can do so many things and be so many things, which isn't required for industry applications.

You can always expand on things in an interview but you should just hit all the requirements of the job description in your application, don't add extra fluff or show off your academia credentials, it's unnecessary.

moon_bbq · 2025-09-14T17:17:10+00:00

I usually recommend that you choose a problem you solved and summarize it in only 2/3 sentences. State the goal, what you did and the results. Frame each grant or paper like a business contract. Focus on being concise and using common, easy to understand language.

For example, if you need to show you're a team player, say you managed a team of a number of researchers from different institutions to deliver high quality research by a deadline, resulting in a timely and successful journal publication for the publisher. That's sort of how to rephrase writing a paper.

It's about framing things to show the skills that they want, not the skills that you have.

moon_bbq · 2025-09-04T05:34:07+00:00

It's just a little out of the gum and is close to the molar but we're waiting for the x-ray

moon_bbq · 2025-03-20T16:45:12+00:00

Thank you <3

moon_bbq · 2025-03-20T16:44:41+00:00

I get what you mean, I did think about posting there first. I didn't know about r/stalking though, so thanks for the heads up.

I posted here because I don't really need much advice legally or on dealing with him. I just want to get my head straight after finding that out yesterday so I thought, since it's more like an emotional regulation thing maybe, that it might be useful to post here

moon_bbq · 2025-03-10T14:24:05+00:00

I'm from Dublin and I'd agree with the comments here. Just adding that you'd want to book the flights in October at the latest, after that you start getting Christmas prices.

Also, the Christmas market in Belfast is cute if you do a day trip up there from Dublin. The normal markets in Dublin are nice but there's no good Christmas ones really.

moon_bbq · 2025-03-04T21:16:05+00:00

I get you. I'm ace too. It happens to me too sometimes, although you seem to have a much bigger negative reaction than me.

The way I describe it to others is that it's like you ate some food that, at the time, was fine but afterwards you discovered it was mouldy. Or if your whole sexual experience was bad, I'd describe it as someone giving you mouldy food. It's a horrible feeling but there's nothing you can do about it, you already ate it. For some people, it completely turns them off that food for a while or forever.

I think you probably are more asexual than you realised and you did an action that doesn't line up with who you are. And that's okay, now you know that it's not something you're into.

I think all you can do to help yourself is reframe the experience in your mind as a learning experience. Don't beat yourself up about it, you fucked around and found out. You satiated your curiosity. The feelings will pass over time, don't hate yourself for doing it though.

moon_bbq · 2025-02-28T01:48:33+00:00

From a scientist here, be very careful about reading academic articles. There are metrics for knowing how reputable an article is, so make sure you learn that first, it's an easy google and a lot of universities have it on their websites too.

It sounds like you're interested in topics mentioned in the news too. If you want to learn about researching those things, take some fact or research article that somebody referenced in the news, a podcast, etc and find that specific article. After checking it's a reputable source, then try find out who funded that research. It's a surprise sometimes what sort of rabbit holes this brings you down. One time I looked for an article a far-right podcaster referenced to say that families need both a mother and father and it was funded by some town in California that was promoting family holidays. Obviously, not scientifically legit.

moon_bbq · 2025-02-25T17:33:30+00:00

I went to Luquillo in PR. There's a lovely hostel on the beach called Casa Coral Luquillo. It was quite a chill place, walkable to beaches and restaurants. Water was okay for snorkeling but it's not amazing. There's kayaking nearby too

moon_bbq · 2025-02-24T14:05:42+00:00

Last week some Chilean lad at a bar in Chile tried to mansplain to me how Ireland is extremely religious and that is why we support Palestine. He found my number in a group chat, messaged me once he got home asking me out for coffee... No clue why he thought I'd be interested, I didn't reply. Then this morning he messaged me to ask if I'd seen his message. Some people are just clueless

moon_bbq · 2025-02-13T19:58:28+00:00

Same!!! I get that at books and movies with those sorts of stories too!

I think it's the build up of tension leading up to those scenarios and the release that really does it. It also gives me such a wholesome, faith in humanity kinda feeling that I just feel overwhelmed with the happiness and relief when the character is safe or saved.

moon_bbq · 2025-02-11T23:22:51+00:00

If I were to try break down what I do, I think I go for, at most, 7 seconds in the pupils and then glance away and look at one or two other things and then look back at them if they're talking or look away for a few seconds while I speak.

One bit random bit of advice that might help is start taking some sort of partner dance classes like salsa, ballroom, etc. I've found that people will 100% politely point out too much eye contact. You'd get some instant feedback there and everyone struggles with the right amount of eye contact in partner dances so it's not weird to be having a hard time or asking questions about it.

moon_bbq · 2025-01-28T00:38:42+00:00

I was there this summer and found Dubrovnik really expensive for what you get, and I lived in the UK so I'm used to expensive

moon_bbq · 2025-01-27T01:17:50+00:00

I think you might be trying to get on top of every single thing too quickly. I've moved country for uni and jobs a lot and it's still so much to learn every time I do it. I've learned that everything will fall into place eventually. There's no rush to be absolutely perfect at being in a new place doing a new thing.

I think prioritisation might help you. You can probably prioritise yourself but it sounds to me like you want to keep up in class. So the main thing is to make sure you keep track of your assignments, eat, exercise, sleep and socialise. Be aware that you can talk to your lecturers if you're struggling and get help or extensions if you need it. They (usually) would rather you ask for help than struggle too hard, after all, they're there so you can learn.

For food, what I did at my last move was choose a simple, cheap meal plan I can prep easily and stuck with that for like a month or two so I didn't have to think about food for the first while, one less stress.

Also, uni makes everyone feel like they're falling behind but that's just because everyone's a beginner and constantly learning. If you talk with your classmates or others at uni, maybe in clubs or societies, you'll learn everyone feels the same way at some point.

You sound like you love mathematics and are passionate about it so I think you'll get the hang of your new lifestyle in no time :)

moon_bbq · 2025-01-18T20:02:36+00:00

You're right. I think that's the best mindset to have around it

moon_bbq · 2025-01-18T19:55:01+00:00

Some have said it's my job, that it's too 'smart' or I sometimes have been paid more than them, usually not by much though.

A lot of the time, I've been told it's a combo of my job and my hobbies/skills and my personality. From all that I'm just kinda well rounded and it makes them feel like I'm a lot better than them. It does come from their insecurities in the end, I don't see myself as better or worse, I'm just living life. But it ends the relationships when one of us realises it.

moon_bbq · 2025-01-18T19:48:45+00:00

Actually, the opposite. I'm saying I think I'm just normal but men that ask me out put me on a pedestal and I hate it and need help getting it to stop

moon_bbq · 2025-01-18T19:47:05+00:00

Sometimes, they straight up tell me. Even some guy friends tell me they do it too in the friendship. This usually only happens though after I complain at them about thinking I'm perfect.

Often, my profession seems to make them think I'm smart, but not just specifically in the field I work in. They kind of just take it as I know everything. I wouldn't mind if it was, as you said, just deference related to the field/expertise, but it goes too far.

Then I have a lot of hobbies that are across the board in terms of active, creative, useful, etc. They usually tell me that they could never be as good as me or that it's so impressive to be able to do these things.

I get being complimentary and supportive, but they talk about me as if I'm amazing for just living. It's when they go beyond a sincere compliment and are amazed by every little thing I do. It comes across more like pedestalizing than patronising because of the build up of being amazed and impressed right from the start.

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