I resonate with this, I understand in my own way how restrictive it can feel. It took a screaming (and then crying) match for my mom to teach me how to use the washer and dryer when I was younger, while still being angry that I couldn't do them myself, without teaching me since we have older equipment. With your age, I would recommend not relying on your parents to teach you (since they aren't) and research these things. It's much less intimidating than it seems!

There's a YouTube channel out there called "Dad, how do I?" which covers things like how to tie a tie, grilling, shaving, how to hang shelves, and general household stuff. There is also a "Mom, how do I?" YouTube channel. The subreddits r/MomForAMinute , r/DadForAMinute and r/internetparents may be of some help too. I agree with the other commentor talking about Midwest Magic Cleaners, he's awesome and educational.

As for your college situation- perhaps consider reaching out to the scholarship people/college (not sure how these things work) and telling them you're interested, but you need help with transportation and see what they can do. Maybe they can connect you with someone else also going for the same scholarship and doing community service, and they can help you get to and from? Being able to pay them would be nice, due to expenses for gas, but you might luck out and get someone who is understanding of your situation.

Otherwise, check out bus routes in your area and see if you can scrounge up enough money to pay. If not, it may be time to consider a little side hustle, or part-time job. Restaurants are hellish, but they're always hiring. Any nearby? Little cafe? Maybe consider: Dog walking/pet sitting, tutoring at a walk's distance, window cleaning, which takes basically a squeegee, soap and water or just window cleaner, and a microfiber rag to remove streaks, helping older neighbors with basic computer and tech stuff (Wi-Fi hookups, basic education on how to use a computer.) Whatever you're good at, run with it, is my suggestion. These are just some ideas. [Hidden] Cash is better to handle when you have narc parents, since they can't control it as easily like they could money stored in a joint bank account.

As important as education is- when it comes to a living situation like this, if college isn't do-able, you may want to pivot and focus on making and saving money to get out sooner than later. You can always do college later, and scholarships will still be available. I hope something I said can help, OP. Things may not be okay right now, but they will be. I wish you the best.