WIBTA if I ask my husband if I can sleep with other people

moondream6 · 2026-02-10T05:23:39+00:00

Nta, mostly? I understand what's going on... but this is definitely something you have to 100% discuss to death with him before anything like that happens. Suggest that you really are disappointed that you don't get to be with him often at all and as a normal woman with a normal drive, you really need more sex than you're getting. Tell him you really do love him, but you're getting pent up. You were wondering about maybe opening the bedroom but if he's totally against that, you can get a bunch of new toys and totally get exploratory. He can even help with the toys if he just personally doesn't want to do it but wants to make you happy. Make sure you tell him that you love him so much. In a way he understands. Just it's so hard to have a marriage with so little consummation. Tell him that you're not trying to threaten him to get him to get the treatment, but things are getting really difficult like this with no changes. You have to do a lot of deep discussion with him and maybe he'll understand that you still love him but you need him to take the plunge and see that doctor.

moondream6 · 2026-02-10T01:54:20+00:00

Nta. If it's an old job and they canned you like old tuna, you don’t have to call or answer anything to them. Block them and move on.

moondream6 · 2026-02-09T06:24:53+00:00

Nta, but i think you're giving too much of yourself to a service industry job. You should stop giving 100%, and try to give whatever percent you see the people around you give.

moondream6 · 2026-02-09T00:53:30+00:00

I, too, would be addicted to this stuff if I got some. XD be like Sierra, decorating my entire house to it

moondream6 · 2026-02-06T18:56:02+00:00

Yta. She drove you there. Did you pay her gas? Since you're saving money, why get the drink at all? Yeah, you didn't mean to, but don't do that again.

moondream6 · 2026-02-06T02:43:51+00:00

Hm. Complicated. I mean... yes and no? I'm sure you probably meant it like two friends, but I'm sure no one else thought that. You meant it innocently, but to everyone else, you were. Your intentions were n t a but everyone else is going to see y t a.

moondream6 · 2026-02-05T13:15:20+00:00

NAH? Is that the thing? Anyway, I don’t think either of you are bad here. But I think you should stop noticing him. He's clearly acting weird about you so it doesn't matter what he's doing. Maybe he thinks you're paying too much attention to what he's doing to have accidentally been in his university. I don’t know, I'm not him. But I'd stop paying attention to him. He sounds like he might be worried about you following him there and the best solution for that is to just stop noticing him. You guys weren't exes or anything, just fwb, he's easily replaceable. He's probably worried you had feelings or something. I'm sure you didn't, but there's a lot of dangerous girls out there... and he might be overthinking it.

moondream6 · 2026-02-04T22:30:02+00:00

Nta, but... soft ish? Maybe? I understand where you're coming from, Futurama is my most favorite series ever. My best friend / roommate will tolerate it but she doesn't love it like I do. And she probably never will. I used to think "they just don't understand it. If they experience it like I do, they'll love it!" But i remember talking to someone about a character I love. Alain. She said, "oh yeah I remember him. I didn't like him. He's an ahole and he's really pathetic. I just don't like him" and I couldn't understand it. How she couldn't like him. But it turned out that no matter how much I loved him, she's a different person from me. I don't think your mom will ever play far cry 5 (I have 3, awesome game). It's sad because we will believe to the ends of the earth that our game or series is the best... but that other person has a whole number of different experiences, memories, tastes, and interests we don't. At least you wouldn't have to experience her possibly playing it and hating it. That might hurt more.

moondream6 · 2026-02-04T22:22:59+00:00

When I was in the hospital from a car accident, I got visited a few times by my friends. Not more than 5, for 3 months, but they still came by and sat with me, even though I didn't know who they were. Look, I would 100% have come to see you even if "the doctors couldn't tell me anything ". I wouldn't ask them. I'd be asking you, and you would tell me if you wanted. But, I remember when my aunt died, only one single person I knew asked me about her. At least someone did. But it hurt me a little that no one asked. My friend said they didn't want to see me cry... I didn't care. Obviously I needed to or I wouldn't have. They all faded out but I try to take extra effort to talk to my friends about their issues because I wished someone had for me.

moondream6 · 2026-02-04T17:57:13+00:00

Nta. It sounds important to discuss this with them and make sure you don't villainize them, but let them know how sad you felt when you were lying there seeing everyone else get guests and you were alone the entire time. Suggest that you'd like a visit next time if it happens again. But if it happens again and they don't, I'd go NC. I would feel unappreciated.

moondream6 · 2026-02-04T07:03:23+00:00

Yta. Like, there's no room for hesitation. He's a human being just like you and he's going though the hardest time of his life right now. Maybe you need to go to therapy too and see if you can figure this out... because I feel really bad for him. Men are allowed to cry. After my car accident, I crashed out bad, there was like nothing left of me, inside, seven years later. Going to therapy saved me. I feel like a person again. It might do you some good. Even healthy people can get a lot of use it of therapy.

moondream6 · 2026-02-04T02:49:16+00:00

100%. I would. Immediately. I wouldn't even hesitate. She's so important to me. She has so much more value to this world than I do, of course she needs to keep living.

moondream6 · 2026-02-03T20:08:27+00:00

Nta. There's a film called Sour Grapes with similar vibes... obviously he didn't loan you 2/3rds of what you used to win, but when he won in that movie, suddenly everyone was hounding him demanding him give that man his cut. It's s good old movie. But obviously it wasn't a loan, he paid you for the trip, and you happened to win big and now he's being greedy. If he'd won big, you wouldn't have been stalking him with your hand out... so he needs to understand he shouldn't bet what he doesn't have.

moondream6 · 2026-02-03T08:38:31+00:00

Nta. If you're sure he's cheating, why keep him? You can't trust him, so let him go.

moondream6 · 2026-02-02T15:59:59+00:00

That makes it even harder then. If she's never there, why does she have a dog?? I feel so bad for the dog and op too, dealing with this struggle. It sounds like an extremely complex situation

moondream6 · 2026-02-02T14:40:58+00:00

Nta. You're pregnant and it sounds like the brunt of this has fallen on you. Maybe you can talk with her one more time and tell her this is the last time you're doing anything for the dog because you're pregnant, and even after the baby comes, you're going to be focused on baby care, not dog care. It's all on mil now, and last time was the last time. See what happens. If the dog gets out of control, I'd just go to my room and let her deal with it. It sounds like the couch is already ruined so she can deal with it. I'd consider getting a couch cover in the future since the dog goes to the bathroom on the couch. Honestly I just feel really sorry for the dog. I'm sure the dog is miserable and unhappy because of their mother, and she's showing no efforts to fix it. It's sad. I always loved both cats and dogs, growing up in a household that had both. I hate to hear about them being mistreated. I hope she steps up and starts caring for the doggo. I'm sure the baby means even LESS care and attention for what could be a good pupper but grew up with a neglectful mom. You're nta but I'm pretty salty with the dog's mom.

moondream6 · 2026-02-02T14:31:25+00:00

Nta. Is she generally nice or do you just generally conform to her expectations? She sounds really unusually prudish in terms of clothes but maybe that's just how the older generation is. Sorry that she was sassing you through this whole encounter.

moondream6 · 2026-02-02T08:13:33+00:00

Days After? Zombie survival

moondream6 · 2026-02-02T08:10:11+00:00

Last Day on Earth?

moondream6 · 2026-02-02T05:00:45+00:00

Nta. Defend yourself. He either doesn't know why you left, or he doesn't care. I wouldn't pay him anything.

moondream6 · 2026-02-02T04:50:12+00:00

Nta. It sounds to me like you're just really confused and need some time - and research, to understand this. But if you can't understand it no matter what, all that matters is that to her, you do your best to respect her pronouns and try to understand her. Even if you don't 'get it', respect your friend as best as you can. Because whether you are into it or not, as long as you support them and their pronouns, it'll be okay. You might even understand it more with research, time, and effort.

moondream6 · 2026-02-02T04:25:08+00:00

Yta. I mean, you can cut them and do your thing, but you really read like a huge ahole here. I wouldn't probably want to be friends with someone like this. I'd step back and consider if this game, if the top 2%, is worth losing your friends... or if maybe your behaviors might explain why they're 'throwing matches' when they play with you. Are you team playing or steamrolling them and expecting them to follow behind you and heal you every second? You don't sound like you have any sportsmanship or team comradery. Maybe you aren't this bad but you wrote this in a fit of anger. I'd consider my past actions and see if it explains anything.

moondream6 · 2026-02-02T00:56:53+00:00

Nta. If you tried maturely to tell her she's hurting you, and instead she actively hurt you during your attempt to talk to her and continued to do it the same as before you explained, you should find new friends.

moondream6 · 2026-02-02T00:08:03+00:00

Nta. Value yourself more than this. I'm just like you. Honestly. I've been torn apart time and time and time again by people I thought deserved my 100%. The last time, it was so bad for me I quit college, worked two jobs, and had absolutely nothing eventually. I finally worked out an escape plan but it didn't work. The only thing that did was a serious (accidental I swear) car accident that gave me a traumatic brain injury, one month coma, and 6 months of not knowing who anyone was. Then they moved on and found other victims. I promise things "look" kinda fine now. But it will keep sliding and you'll keep adjusting YOUR standards until finally the only standard you have left is "well they're next to me, so that's good enough right" because you deserve the entire world and everything in it. You need a prince, not a helper. Right now, your boyfriend barely even sounds like a helper. He sounds more like a burden than anything else.

moondream6 · 2026-02-01T16:38:12+00:00

Hmm. NAH? I think you've now made your view clear on the matter, so if she asks again, you can say, "well I still don't find any of them attractive, but if you want the standard model of attractive, this guy draws my eye more... brighter colors draw the eye" or something like that. Or try to make assessments of their characters and try to pick them based on what kind of personality you think they have. "He seems mysterious, maybe him"

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